kittybean
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In other words, I know what the ring looks like before the proposal . . . and it''s just not ME.
I absolutely cannot wait to get engaged, and I know it will be any day now, but what do I do about this ring I don''t like? I wasn''t allowed to give input on it--all I got to say was that I liked emerald cuts in white metal. So, it''s a gorgeous emerald cut in platinum, but the setting is a five-stone (two round brilliants on either side), and it''s just not what I would''ve picked at all. I''m afraid it won''t look good on my tiny size 3 finger, and I just don''t really like round brilliants. I especially don''t like them with the emerald cut. I''ve also never been a big fan of five-stone settings. I really wanted a halo, but I''d be okay with baguettes or even a solitaire with a delicate pave band. This setting is just all wrong for me.
I feel like such a brat thinking all of this, but I figured if anyone would understand, the PS ladies would. Just to be clear, I can''t emphasize enough how thrilled I am to marry this man (and, unlike Carrie, I have no reservations about what I will say when he asks). I feel incredibly lucky that he wants me to be his wife. However, he has said that my engagement ring is "it," i.e. he doesn''t believe in upgrades. So, do I have to pretend to love the ring? If I don''t, will it ruin the proposal for him? Do I pretend to love it at first, and then ask if we can change the setting? Do I need to just learn to love it? I am so dismayed at the idea of spending the rest of my life with a ring I don''t love. I expressed this fear to him when he excluded me from the ring-shopping process, but I guess he didn''t think much of it, and now it has happened.
Where is my Samantha when I need her? Ladies, I need your advice PLEASE.
I absolutely cannot wait to get engaged, and I know it will be any day now, but what do I do about this ring I don''t like? I wasn''t allowed to give input on it--all I got to say was that I liked emerald cuts in white metal. So, it''s a gorgeous emerald cut in platinum, but the setting is a five-stone (two round brilliants on either side), and it''s just not what I would''ve picked at all. I''m afraid it won''t look good on my tiny size 3 finger, and I just don''t really like round brilliants. I especially don''t like them with the emerald cut. I''ve also never been a big fan of five-stone settings. I really wanted a halo, but I''d be okay with baguettes or even a solitaire with a delicate pave band. This setting is just all wrong for me.
I feel like such a brat thinking all of this, but I figured if anyone would understand, the PS ladies would. Just to be clear, I can''t emphasize enough how thrilled I am to marry this man (and, unlike Carrie, I have no reservations about what I will say when he asks). I feel incredibly lucky that he wants me to be his wife. However, he has said that my engagement ring is "it," i.e. he doesn''t believe in upgrades. So, do I have to pretend to love the ring? If I don''t, will it ruin the proposal for him? Do I pretend to love it at first, and then ask if we can change the setting? Do I need to just learn to love it? I am so dismayed at the idea of spending the rest of my life with a ring I don''t love. I expressed this fear to him when he excluded me from the ring-shopping process, but I guess he didn''t think much of it, and now it has happened.
Where is my Samantha when I need her? Ladies, I need your advice PLEASE.