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money problems (debt),he or she is having an affair,if the wife makes more money than the husband.
Good advice for some posters on PS too. Some of these threads can get pretty heated at times.Date: 2/8/2005 11:28:30 AM
Author: mightyred
Communication for me is key.
Learning how to get your point across without hurting the other person. I try to remember it''s not always about being right ...... getting your point across respectfully, being heard and hearing the other side.
Well they met pre-WW II, so long term marriages were the norm back then. And family life was quite different (see some of the 1950''s film, think of the Beavers) which ended up being the issue they couldn''t resolve. Both my parents were very smart and hard working. Starting from just High School education, they advanced in their careers - having six kids along the way. My Mom was quite independent, and they both had a good sense of interior self worth and were willing to speak their minds.Date: 2/8/2005 11:36:38 AM
Author: IrishEyes
Websailor: so how did they become different? My dad was/is a type-A personality, aggressive, temperamental, political, etc etc. My mom was/is a ''freespirit'', loving, emotional, a dreamer, party-girl, etc. I''m now like a bipolar version of the both of them!!!! I''m very much like both of them, which leads to quite alot of confusion on my part, I''m I can''t decide on anything to save my life!!!
So they made it 25 years before the divorce?? That''s pretty impressive.....
They both remarried - each of them is now much happier. Their second marriages are both long term - 20+ years each. I think they both learned from the experience....Date: 2/8/2005 1284 PM
Author: IrishEyes
That''s quite a story websailor! So is either of them remarried now? My dad has been remarried for some time now, my mom still single.....
I had to laugh when I read your post. My parents have been married almost 40 years and I attribute it to the fact that my Mom insisted on not leaving ANYWHERE near the in-laws. Both my parents come from huge famillies - my mom is number 9 of 11 kids and the ONLY girl, so you can imagine how that was growing up. To this day her brothers try to run her life. Dad is from a big family where most of them still live in the SAME town. So I certainly understand their need to not be around family all the time. As for the kids, I guess they weathered that storm.Date: 2/8/2005 4:47:46 PM
Author: Feydakin
Now there is a problem I can identify with.. Parents divorced and remarried.. Grandparents divorced and remarried after 40+ years together, my other grandparents divorced when my dad was 15 (and that was real rare back then) and my wife and I are the first married couple on my side that has managed to not get a divorce except for one uncle with no kids and lives half a state away from everyone else.. hmmmmmmmmm...
Many Asian couples stay together for the sake of their kids. Once the kids are all grown up, there''s no point to pretend anymore. However, what they fail to realize is that by staying miserably together, they''re actually making it a worse environment for their children.Date: 2/8/2005 8:29:52 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
what i notice lately is more and more chinese couples are getting divorce,15-20 yrs ago it was very rare but, for americans it''s always been common.i know couple of my chinese friends get a divorce after all the kids are grown up and out of the house,i thought thats when you needed each other the most.
i guess you''re right....stay together for the sake of their kids.Date: 2/8/2005 8:36:52 PM
Author: ForteKitty
Many Asian couples stay together for the sake of their kids. Once the kids are all grown up, there''s no point to pretend anymore. However, what they fail to realize is that by staying miserably together, they''re actually making it a worse environment for their children.Date: 2/8/2005 8:29:52 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
what i notice lately is more and more chinese couples are getting divorce,15-20 yrs ago it was very rare but, for americans it''s always been common.i know couple of my chinese friends get a divorce after all the kids are grown up and out of the house,i thought thats when you needed each other the most.
My parents fought for years before my mother finally kicked my father out of the house. My grandparents were horrified, but we kids were much, much happier!