dockman3
Brilliant_Rock
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- May 30, 2008
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Hey ladies! I hope I''m posting this in the right forum, but I could use some advice, and I''m guessing you are the best ones to answer this question. So here it is:
My relationship with my gf is reversed from most in the fact that I''m ready to get engaged and she''s not. She still has some issues with my mom and one of my friends, but that''s not a big deal at the moment. What gets me is that every time I try to bring the subject up, she keeps telling me that I can''t propose until next May, which is when I graduate. She doesn''t like the town we are living in now and feels like is keeping her career back because there aren''t many opportunities here. I keep trying to tell her that May 15th (or whatever date graduation is) is a completely arbitrary date from my point of view. She is saying that its the date on which I will no longer have ties to my school and will definitely be free to move. I tried to tell her that once I have my job set up, hopefully this fall sometime, that gives me a way out of here and there''s no reason we can''t get engaged before then. I already have a ring and a proposal picked out, but I''m afraid she''s goign to say no because its before May. We''ve been together for over 4 years now and I''m not afraid of losing her, I''m just ready to get engaged. Does anybody have advice on how I can get through to her that May is an arbitrary date and that nothing will change from May 14th to May 15th? I get a few more letters after my name, and that''s about it. Nothing about us changes after that date, and I don''t see her reason for wanting to wait that long and its killing me. Thanks in advance!
My relationship with my gf is reversed from most in the fact that I''m ready to get engaged and she''s not. She still has some issues with my mom and one of my friends, but that''s not a big deal at the moment. What gets me is that every time I try to bring the subject up, she keeps telling me that I can''t propose until next May, which is when I graduate. She doesn''t like the town we are living in now and feels like is keeping her career back because there aren''t many opportunities here. I keep trying to tell her that May 15th (or whatever date graduation is) is a completely arbitrary date from my point of view. She is saying that its the date on which I will no longer have ties to my school and will definitely be free to move. I tried to tell her that once I have my job set up, hopefully this fall sometime, that gives me a way out of here and there''s no reason we can''t get engaged before then. I already have a ring and a proposal picked out, but I''m afraid she''s goign to say no because its before May. We''ve been together for over 4 years now and I''m not afraid of losing her, I''m just ready to get engaged. Does anybody have advice on how I can get through to her that May is an arbitrary date and that nothing will change from May 14th to May 15th? I get a few more letters after my name, and that''s about it. Nothing about us changes after that date, and I don''t see her reason for wanting to wait that long and its killing me. Thanks in advance!