chris-uk04
Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- Dec 9, 2003
- Messages
- 273
First off, women always say “oh you should get a feel for what your woman wants in an e-ring.” I think this can be a bad idea, because of the frustration I’ve been feeling recently. Be careful of what you ask because your woman might just tell you!!! (and without realizing how much stuff costs!)
Most women are generally uneducated about diamonds, which is very dangerous. At best all they’ve ever heard about is the 4Cs. They know they want 1 carat even though have no clue what a one carat diamond is (200 milligrams & about 6.5 mm diameter). They have no clue about cut. They see the sliding color and clarity grade charts, and here they try to be nice without realizing. They’ll say stuff like “Oh you don’t have to get me a IF – D diamond. I’m not too picky. An VVS2 – F would be just fine.” You sit there thinking “mmm… I was thinking more like H-SI1.”
However, I wanted to get a nice big center stone so she never wants to upgrade (like half the women here keep talking about). So after lots of homework, I put a deposit down for a 1.15 G SI1 H&A. I know it’ll be awesome and I know that since she won’t be able to see any inclusions or see any color, she’ll really love it and forget about the other stuff.
The problem isn’t the center stone, but with the setting. She wants platinum with big-enough sidestones and it’s so expensive. It’ll add another 3K and I don’t think she realizes how much it all costs. I don’t want to disappoint her, but I don’t know if I can handle it financially in the long term. I’d be able to pay it fine now, but I wouldn’t have much cash leftover and I’m worried about other big amounts of cash I’ll probably need in next 2 years (honeymoon, house down payment, etc). It takes awhile to save another 3K. I know she will like whatever I get, but will she be secretly disappointed at times?
Should I get her:
a. a simple setting with the promise to upgrade in the future (perhaps 5 year anniverary)? Gold solitaire. Cost $150
b. an “in between setting” – platinum with multiple tiny channel set sides. Cost $1500?
c. or suck it up, worry about the money later, & get what she wants so she is 100% ecstatic and never bothers me for an upgrade: platinum with 40-50 pt sidestones. Cost $3000
I can’t decide and need the advice of the pricescope family!!!
Most women are generally uneducated about diamonds, which is very dangerous. At best all they’ve ever heard about is the 4Cs. They know they want 1 carat even though have no clue what a one carat diamond is (200 milligrams & about 6.5 mm diameter). They have no clue about cut. They see the sliding color and clarity grade charts, and here they try to be nice without realizing. They’ll say stuff like “Oh you don’t have to get me a IF – D diamond. I’m not too picky. An VVS2 – F would be just fine.” You sit there thinking “mmm… I was thinking more like H-SI1.”
However, I wanted to get a nice big center stone so she never wants to upgrade (like half the women here keep talking about). So after lots of homework, I put a deposit down for a 1.15 G SI1 H&A. I know it’ll be awesome and I know that since she won’t be able to see any inclusions or see any color, she’ll really love it and forget about the other stuff.
The problem isn’t the center stone, but with the setting. She wants platinum with big-enough sidestones and it’s so expensive. It’ll add another 3K and I don’t think she realizes how much it all costs. I don’t want to disappoint her, but I don’t know if I can handle it financially in the long term. I’d be able to pay it fine now, but I wouldn’t have much cash leftover and I’m worried about other big amounts of cash I’ll probably need in next 2 years (honeymoon, house down payment, etc). It takes awhile to save another 3K. I know she will like whatever I get, but will she be secretly disappointed at times?
Should I get her:
a. a simple setting with the promise to upgrade in the future (perhaps 5 year anniverary)? Gold solitaire. Cost $150
b. an “in between setting” – platinum with multiple tiny channel set sides. Cost $1500?
c. or suck it up, worry about the money later, & get what she wants so she is 100% ecstatic and never bothers me for an upgrade: platinum with 40-50 pt sidestones. Cost $3000
I can’t decide and need the advice of the pricescope family!!!