I just got judged at the grocery store checkout!

[radiantquest]

Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?

There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said "On a diet?" after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.

Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady "Flow heavy?" As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.

It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I agree with you on not commenting on other''s shopping cart contents! Listen, if you look in my cart and you see ice cream, chips, soda, misc. junk food, etc. it most likely means that either 1. I''m on AF and therefor am crabby or 2. I had a bad day, want to go home and pig out while I watch a good movie and that also I am probably crabby!!

I had to laugh out loud imagining you saying "Flow heavy?" lol

 

[CurlySue]

Date: 2/12/2010 2:34:36 PM
Author:radiantquest
Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?

There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said ''On a diet?'' after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.

Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady ''Flow heavy?'' As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.

It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

I soooo wish you had said that!!!!!!!!

 

[monarch64]

I bought a bathroom scale at Wal-Mart one evening this week. It was my only item and i went through the express lane. First i was asked if I was ready to stand on it. Then I was told about the benefits of colon cleansing. Next I was handed a receipt with a mood boosting website written on the back of it. I think it would''ve upset some people, but I can''t be bothered to care enough about the silly things people say to be annoyed by it. I walked out of the store laughing. Had that happened to my mother, I never would''ve heard the end of it and she would''ve complained her way to the corporate HQ of Wally World.

 

[elrohwen]

That is very weird. What makes people think it''s ok to make comments like that? The only acceptable comment is something like "That piece of birthday cake looks really good!"

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 2/12/2010 2:34:36 PM
Author:radiantquest
Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?


There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said ''On a diet?'' after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.


Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady ''Flow heavy?'' As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.


It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

RQ-you speak my language

 

[BeachRunner]

People.

I think a lot of people just spit out whatever, and don''t think about it. Myself, I couldn''t imagine commenting on someone''s groceries etc. unless something looked really good.

Again, oof. people.

 

[jewelz617]

Meh. I don''t care about stuff like that. If someone at the grocery store wants to take time out of their day to comment on what I''m buying, more power to them.

 

[dragonfly411]

I can''t stand that. It drives me crazy. Or people who give me a look like "are you sure you can afford that?"... just go about your happy honky dory business and let me go about mine.

 

[LilyKat]

Some people are just natural "commenters". I don''t think they mean any harm by it. But it sure is annoying. I prefer to mind my own business.

 

[soocool]

Now that I am older and hopefullly wiser, I have stopped taking cr*p from people. Once someone made a rude comment about what I was wearing in line in a grocery store (I had just come from the pool so I was wearing a coverup over my swimsuit and flipflops) and I replied in a loud voice " I don''t know you and that was rude. Stop bothering me!" Security came right over to see if I was all right, but did that women get the evil eye from everyone that she just left the store.

 

[monarch64]

Date: 2/12/2010 3:14:56 PM
Author: LilyKat
Some people are just natural 'commenters'. I don't think they mean any harm by it. But it sure is annoying. I prefer to mind my own business.

I agree. There are people who just have to constantly verbalize their thoughts and they don't realize that it is annoying and sometimes offensive. I think they also feel like they're being helpful (in my case.) I wish people would not give unsolicited advice and not worry about what I'm doing, too, but that will never happen.

This is really awful, but sometimes I do my best to appear unapproachable. And it works. Once when I was in college working a part time job, I received my annual performance review and one of the points I was told to improve upon was my approachability. I had to laugh about that one. I can sort of turn it on or off depending on whether I feel like being bothered or not.

ETA: that makes me sound really bitchy, I'm really not, I just try to avoid some people's utter and total nonsense.

 

[MonkeyPants]

Date: 2/12/2010 2:40:02 PM
Author: CurlySue

Date: 2/12/2010 2:34:36 PM

Author:radiantquest

Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?


There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said ''On a diet?'' after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.


Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady ''Flow heavy?'' As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.


It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

I soooo wish you had said that!!!!!!!!

+1 !!

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 2/12/2010 3:47:33 PM
Author: MonkeyPants

Date: 2/12/2010 2:40:02 PM
Author: CurlySue

Date: 2/12/2010 2:34:36 PM

Author:radiantquest

Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?


There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said ''On a diet?'' after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.


Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady ''Flow heavy?'' As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.


It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

I soooo wish you had said that!!!!!!!!

+1 !!

+2, OMG what the perfect comeback That would have been!!!!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 2/12/2010 3:57:51 PM
Author: Kaleigh

Date: 2/12/2010 3:47:33 PM
Author: MonkeyPants

Date: 2/12/2010 2:40:02 PM
Author: CurlySue

Date: 2/12/2010 2:34:36 PM

Author:radiantquest

Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?


There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said ''On a diet?'' after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.


Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady ''Flow heavy?'' As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.


It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

I soooo wish you had said that!!!!!!!!

+1 !!

+2, OMG what the perfect comeback That would have been!!!!

+3, that would have been hilarious!!

 

[MissMina]

I do look at what others are buying, sometimes with envy other times with morbid curiosity.
One early morning I was at the grocery store after my run and the guy in front of
me was buying only one thing..............a box of 50 condoms.

 

[dragonfly411]

Date: 2/12/2010 4:53:20 PM
Author: MissMina
I do look at what others are buying, sometimes with envy other times with morbid curiosity.

One early morning I was at the grocery store after my run and the guy in front of

me was buying only one thing..............a box of 50 condoms.

My guess is he was going when he thought there would be the least amount of traffic... I do that with lady sanitary items haha.. I have no clue why.

 

[doodle]

I''ve commented on someone''s cart contents only once, but I really couldn''t help myself. The funniest little old man (I mean, he had to be at least 80) was in front of me with an entire buggy of pork and beans and a bottle of beano. As he put the pills on the counter, he turned around and grinned at me (apparently he knew it was a hilarious purchase, too) and I told him, "At least you''re prepared!" He replied, "It''s the only way my wife will let me buy ''em without divorcing me." Usually though, I stay mute.

Oh, and MY GAWD. I went with my best friend yesterday so she could officially order her wedding dress (WOOT!) and her mother, the store owner, and some random guy who was standing at the counter were all three lecturing her on weight loss techniques and which size dress she should order. She took it gracefully, but had I been her, I would''ve either cried or gone off on someone! Sometimes people really amaze me--I mean, why would a random man at a wedding dress shop think it''s acceptable to tell a complete stranger the best way to reduce her breast size!?!?!!

 

[purrfectpear]

I''ve been known to look at the guy/gal with 20 bottles of wine in her cart and say "woo hoo, par-tay at your house"

 

[doodle]

Date: 2/12/2010 5:08:33 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I''ve been known to look at the guy/gal with 20 bottles of wine in her cart and say ''woo hoo, par-tay at your house''

That doesn''t count--you''re just fishing for an invitation.

 

[yssie]

Date: 2/12/2010 2:34:36 PM
Author:radiantquest
Who gives people the right to judge and comment on what I am buying?

There was a lady in front trying to write a check in the express lane that was no checks so while listening to that exchange I forgot to get the root beer that I wanted. I politely asked someone beind me to hand me one. Then she asked if I wanted to put anything back. Um, no. Then the single man between us started talking about what I was buying. I handled it well and laughed it off but I always thought it was protocol to not comment on what others are buying. One of them said ''On a diet?'' after noticing my salad and a single slice of birthday cake.

Had I been in one of my more fierce moods I could have said to the lady ''Flow heavy?'' As all she was buying was a jumbo sized package of super absorbant extra long sanitary napkins. Which by the way, I walked by on my way to salad bar and saw her discussing the different types with her less than willing male companion.

It sounds like something that would happen in a sitcom.

Oh, you should''ve! Talk about lack of common courtesies

 

[Cehrabehra]

I comment on what people buy all the time, but it''s always something fun or inquisitive (and I don''t mean "how does that hemorrhoid cream work for you?" but like "oh I love the apples they sell here!"

 

[radiantquest]

I am not going to say that I am above looking in other peoples carts. I do. Sometimes I comment but always in a positive way. Like "I did not see that huge container of strawberries. Where was that?" That is not offensive. For someone to make fun of the diet that they think I am failing at because I like birthday cake is rude.

 

[Sha]

Maybe he was just trying to make conversation? I don't know, but I don't see any harm in it. And it doesn;t sound like a judgement to me...just like an innocent, if somewhat intrusive, question.

 

[rainwood]

I think people are just trying to make conversation, and don''t intend to insult you. If someone had said that to me, I''d have laughed and said something like "It''s my version of the Hollywood cookie diet!" or something like that. People are just trying to be friendly.

 

[monarch64]

Date: 2/12/2010 8:16:00 PM
Author: radiantquest
I am not going to say that I am above looking in other peoples carts. I do. Sometimes I comment but always in a positive way. Like ''I did not see that huge container of strawberries. Where was that?'' That is not offensive. For someone to make fun of the diet that they think I am failing at because I like birthday cake is rude.

I''m not saying it was right or wrong of the person to make the "on a diet?" comment (obviously you didn''t like it, I probably wouldn''t have either), but it is sort of a funny combo--salad and cake.

Sort of like getting french fries and a diet Coke at McDonalds?

RQ, I think I''ve seen a pic of you here before and you''re a skinny minnie, girl! He could not possibly have been trying to insult you. Yes, he should''ve probably kept his mouth shut (don''t guys know not to ever say anything about weight or diets to women?) but I don''t think he meant to upset you. People are just weirdos.

 

[hihowareyou]

When I was a child my mother was a GP and used to run into her patients at the supermarket all the time. They used to always be commenting on what was in her trolly, anything that wasn't fresh produce would get a "I thought doctors only ate healthy foods" or "you let your kids eat chips?". Growing up we ate an incredible amount of healthy food but we also had treats as part of a balanced diet. It got to the point where my mum stopped doing the grocery shopping near where she worked and made sure she didn't live in the same suburbs as she worked. Worse than the comments she also knew that these people would be gossiping about what they saw in their doctor's trolly to their friends.


edit: I don't mind when people in the line ask me about a product that I'm buying. "Have you tried that before?", "What does it taste like?", etc. Rude and judgmental comments are a different story all together though.

 

[zhuzhu]

One of my friend who had received a chemo treatment had to travel by plane. She was still pretty weak from the treatment so she was sitting in a wheel chair in the waiting area and had a mask on. She told me there was this man yelling across the aisle.....

"Do you got AIDS"?

 

[rierie26]

Date: 2/12/2010 9:56:38 PM
Author: zhuzhu
One of my friend who had received a chemo treatment had to travel by plane. She was still pretty weak from the treatment so she was sitting in a wheel chair in the waiting area and had a mask on. She told me there was this man yelling across the aisle.....


''Do you got AIDS''?

Wow. Now that''s just plain evil.

 

[zhuzhu]

Date: 2/12/2010 9:59:38 PM
Author: Kitcha

Date: 2/12/2010 9:56:38 PM

Wow. Now that''s just plain evil.

I know!

She was crying when she told me....

But how do you tell an ignorant ass like that to "xxcc off" when she is already feeling so weak?