I heard a quote today...

[kenny]

"What other people think of me is none of my business." Anonymous

Then I heard that older people are more likely to appreciate this quote than younger people.
Do you agree with that observation?

 

[that_someone_special]

Starting to...

 

[Kaleigh]

Yes I agree. I am older, wiser and don''t put a ton of weight into what someone thinks of me... If you had asked me when I was 30, I would have given you a very different answer. Funny how that works as you get older and are comfortable in your own skin.

 

[stepcutgirl]

It''s a quote I''m very familiar with and I have to remind myself of it from time.

 

[yssie]

Nice. Trite. Meaningless at best, dangerous at worst.



This is real life: what other people think of you makes every difference - employment, education, friends, family affairs. Perhaps for someone who is more settled, financially and personally, it matters less: certainly the VP or business owner has less reason to concern himself with others' opinions of him than someone like me, just starting out. But there it is.

 

[radiantquest]

I like the quote. It depends on whos opinion it is whether I care what it is.

I have this quote posted in my office at work-

"It may look like I am doing nothing, but on a cellular lever I am actually quite busy."

 

[AGBF]

I heard a variation of the above quotation once from a woman who was in OA (Overeaters Anonymous). She ate according to a program that was spiritually based. She ate in the belief that she did not want to overeat. (I found that some members of this program used to look at a normal portion of food and pray that that normal portion, "be enough". )

At any rate, the variation on the quotation that I heard and found charming was, "My weight is none of my business". .

AGBF

 

[lyra]

Date: 4/20/2010 5:28:12 PM
Author:kenny
''What other people think of me is none of my business.'' Anonymous

Then I heard that older people are more likely to appreciate this quote than younger people.
Do you agree with that observation?

I think Jessica Simpson said that actually.

I read it yesterday. But I agree with the sentiment.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I agree with yssie in some ways, but in other ways, most peoples'' opinions about me are relatively meaningless in my life (depending of course who they are)

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I like to think I am young but I agree with the quote. People have the right to feel what they want. If someone doesn''t like me, they don''t. Period. It is not my job to convince them otherwise.

 

[Cehrabehra]

One of the best parts about getting older is feeling like you can truly give yourself permission to be completely authentic. Sure, we want to be ourselves from the start, but it is so easy to think that how others perceive you is overly important. I know that the less apologetic I am for being uniquely me, the more I allow myself to blatantly BE myself, the less whining I hear from other people that I''m not the way they think I should be. I''m not sure if their opinions are really none of my business so much as I don''t want to make it my business.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 4/20/2010 6:12:51 PM
Author: yssie
This is real life: what other people think of you makes every difference - employment, education, friends, family affairs. Perhaps for someone who is more settled, financially and personally, it matters less: certainly the VP or business owner has less reason to concern himself with others'' opinions of him than someone like me, just starting out. But there it is.

I''d argue that you''d have more success from caring *less* about what people think. I''m not saying be less than your "best" self as YOU see it ... but being *different* or more what you think *other* people want is .... pointless. You can''t read people''s minds and faking it is exhausting. Being authentically *you*, the best you YOU want to be and truly feeling comfortable in your own skin gives you an unbeatable confidence.

 

[Porridge]

Yes I very much agree with that. How they behave towards me, however, is very much my business.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

None of my business and of fairly limited interest, too.

 

[alli_esq]

I''d say that the older I get, the more I realize that most people who don''t like me are not worth liking.

 

[kenny]

I wonder about this age-related component of being concerned of what others think of us.

Do you think it is the parenting?
I mean, if parents did a better job would their kids leave the next with a an "older person's" perspective on this?

Or is it just something unavoidable, natural perhaps.
Maybe there is even an advantage, an evolutionary explanation for it.

 

[alli_esq]

Date: 4/21/2010 11:22:20 AM
Author: kenny
I wonder about this age-related component of being concerned of what others think of us.

Do you think it is the parenting?
I mean, if parents did a better job would their kids leave the next with a an ''older person''s'' perspective on this?

Or is it just something unavoidable, natural perhaps.
Maybe there is even an advantage, an evolutionary explanation for it.

I think that my father raised me to believe that the only person''s opinion of me that matters is my own...but it took me until my late 20s to be able to start believing that to any extent at all. I can''t blame my parents for my own insecurities (even though I suppose many people could blame their parents for theirs)...I do think that, like many things that parents tend to try and teach their children, real lessons can only come from experience.

 

[partgypsy]

I would tell you what I think of that quote but it''s really none of your business

 

[Haven]

I love that quote, and I think I''m a young person. I''m 29.

I also think that the less people care about what others think of them, the more likely it is that they''ll make a good impression on others, if that makes any sense. It''s much easier to respect someone who makes choices based on her own personal beliefs than someone who allows others to dictate her decisions. At least, that''s my opinion. Not that it matters to anyone else.

 

[joxxxelyn]

It reminds me of a quote that goes "If someone has a problem with you, let him keep it." I love that quote, which is similar, and I am 26. I also love your quote. I think it has a lot to do with a person''s background and maturity, which could be, but isn''t always, correlated with age.

 

[joxxxelyn]

Even in the case of employment, education, family, and other important things, I look at it a certain way. What matters right now doesn''t always matter in the grand scheme of things. A lot of what people think about me that matters right now does not really matter for that reason. The quote really just means you need to give people''s opinion some perspective, even if it''s seemingly very important at the time. If I can remember that, I am a much happier person, and I think of that often. I actually have thought of this more in the last few years and never considered it as a teenager.