I have officially joined the club...

[Independent Gal]

... of brides with relatives who invite themselves to the wedding. This morning I got a call from a cousin who was all ''When''s the big day?!? I want to mark it on my calendar so I can plan the trip.'' Uhhhh... Well.

As it turns out, he is on the current guest list (which hasn''t been finalized). But HE had no reason to assume that. He''s a fairly distant cousin, and although I like him, he''s also the cousin who ran up a $1000 of the booze bill by getting completely hammered on 25 yr old McCallan reserve scotch at my dad''s most recent wedding. So frankly, he shouldn''t expect to be invited ANYWHERE ever again! And it just makes me wonder how many other relatives not on the list are thinking they''ll be invited...

Grammy said not to worry about it. People will deal if they don''t get an invite. But really, if this cous hadn''t been on the list, it would have been seriously awkward. I guess I would just have had to say ''Dude, it''s April 13th, but it''s super small... so no more free scotch for you, buddy!''

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Frustrating, huh? You should tell him you''re not serving alcohol and see if he still wants to come

I''d like to see the look on his face when he realizes it''s a really small wedding and he''s not going to be able to sit in the back of the room and mooch off the bar like in regular weddings. He''ll probably be thinking "oh crap", haha.

 

[Harleigh]

LOL...I think we''re now up to an extra 100 or so people with the family who have completely taken it upon themselves to assume they will be invited to our Maui wedding, so do I feel your pain Indy!

I love NELady''s suggestion to pass along the "no alcohol" thing...that should clear out a few people!

Best of luck to you, Indy!

 

[BigDiamonds]

Seriously, what are people thinking sometimes?

At least you know to be selective on the type of alcohol provided.

You could also ask the bartender to make all his drinks virgin, just for fun.