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Ideal_Rock
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SO this is an in-law related topic again. My issue is feeling obligated to buy gifts for children of BIL and his wife when they do not even show appreciation.
Out of DH''s siblings, his brother is the only one with children. Their tradition for the holiday is that the children receive gifts but adults do not exchange gifts, so fine. We have been buying them really nice and expensive gifts every year when we go visit with them. This year we decided to stay in the west coast and not join them for various reasons including tight finances, but we still purchased them an expensive gift of movie annual subscription. It has been a while since the Christmas, and we have received not a single "thank you" or even "happy holiday" from them. It is as if the gift was a given, and requires no recognition or appreciation.
His BIL and BIL''s wife are such rude people that they never treated us nice or given us gifts on ANY occasion. In fact they never even sent us a congratulation card or phone call when they heard of our private wedding (we eloped).
Their attitude really puts a bitter taste in my mouth, and makes me not want to be nice to their children in the future. I know it sounds horrible, but if the family can not even bother to let us know by simply saying "we received the movie subscription, thank you so much", then why should we dig deep into our pocket when our finance is tight to begin with?
Do any of you feel "obligated" to buy gifts for in law''s family members when you "really don''t want to"? How do you handle it?
Thanks!
Out of DH''s siblings, his brother is the only one with children. Their tradition for the holiday is that the children receive gifts but adults do not exchange gifts, so fine. We have been buying them really nice and expensive gifts every year when we go visit with them. This year we decided to stay in the west coast and not join them for various reasons including tight finances, but we still purchased them an expensive gift of movie annual subscription. It has been a while since the Christmas, and we have received not a single "thank you" or even "happy holiday" from them. It is as if the gift was a given, and requires no recognition or appreciation.
His BIL and BIL''s wife are such rude people that they never treated us nice or given us gifts on ANY occasion. In fact they never even sent us a congratulation card or phone call when they heard of our private wedding (we eloped).
Their attitude really puts a bitter taste in my mouth, and makes me not want to be nice to their children in the future. I know it sounds horrible, but if the family can not even bother to let us know by simply saying "we received the movie subscription, thank you so much", then why should we dig deep into our pocket when our finance is tight to begin with?
Do any of you feel "obligated" to buy gifts for in law''s family members when you "really don''t want to"? How do you handle it?
Thanks!