IdLikeToBuyAVal
Shiny_Rock
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I need help!!!
I have a type A personality to the EXTREME. I need things neat and organized and planned and researched and I like everything done early.
We got engaged June 13th and are planning a wedding in late April/early May 2010. I haven''t done a thing!
I tried on dresses three weekends ago and got very discouraged. I''m no longer the size 2/4 that I was in high school when I bought my prom dresses, so when I tried on the size 4/6 sample size dresses and don''t fit, my brain just SCREAMS chubby. I''m also having issues because I''m tall - 5''8 - so some of the dresses that I like fit very oddly - bodices too short, skirts not long enough etc. Overall, I was so exhausted after my first appointment I canceled my second at a different shop that afternoon. I''ve made another appointment for this weekend but now I''m anxious.
On top of that, I''ve gone from wanting a ball gown (I blame Disney) to something more flattering and fitted (I really liked the Maggie Sottero gowns when I tried them on). I think the fitted gown would look more adult and mature and I''m really leaning that direction.
As for the wedding, nothing is done. I am adamant that we pay for it ourselves. In the past 2 1/2 years we''ve moved to a new city together, picked out our own apartment, bought a house, bought a new car, bought the ring/got engaged, and adopted 2 dogs. All on our own. I emphasize that because I have "little red hen" syndrome ("I''ll do it myself!").
I want a SMALL wedding, either here in St. Louis or in Hawaii. I want FI, my mom & possibly step-dad, and FI''s dad, and possibly his aunt. No one else. I don''t need the drama, I don''t want the bickering that inevitably would blow up, I''m not going to stress on MY wedding day about seating my divorced parents and their spouses at opposite ends so no one feels uncomfortable. I do feel terribly guilty that I don''t want the rest of my fairly huge family present but again, not worth the stress to me. My mom won''t fly to Hawaii though and that bothers me. She should be there. Also, if she''s not there FI will have to figure out how to get me in and out of a dress. He is not a buttons and bows and fiddly bits on a dress kind of guy. Worried.
I haven''t booked anything for the honeymoon or the wedding and I''m starting to stress. The Maggie dresses can take 12 weeks to order so I need to get moving here. We haven''t even TALKED about receptions but FI is from Maryland and I''m from Missouri. We''ll probably need to have two (one for each family) to make up for the lack of invites to the wedding. BTW - I''m fairly sure my family thinks I''m joking when I tell them that we''re planning on practically eloping.
PLEASE talk me down from the "I''ll just stay engaged forever" ledge and point me in the right direction. Were you guys this freaked out? I wasn''t this concerned about finishing COLLEGE. A wedding SHOULD be a walk in the park right?? Especially one so simple??
Please also give your input on Hawaii vs. getting married here and then going to Hawaii. Even if we get married here I was thinking of "cheating" and getting pics taken on the beach of us in our wedding attire. I haven''t thought that through either. This is such a mess!
I have a type A personality to the EXTREME. I need things neat and organized and planned and researched and I like everything done early.
We got engaged June 13th and are planning a wedding in late April/early May 2010. I haven''t done a thing!
I tried on dresses three weekends ago and got very discouraged. I''m no longer the size 2/4 that I was in high school when I bought my prom dresses, so when I tried on the size 4/6 sample size dresses and don''t fit, my brain just SCREAMS chubby. I''m also having issues because I''m tall - 5''8 - so some of the dresses that I like fit very oddly - bodices too short, skirts not long enough etc. Overall, I was so exhausted after my first appointment I canceled my second at a different shop that afternoon. I''ve made another appointment for this weekend but now I''m anxious.
On top of that, I''ve gone from wanting a ball gown (I blame Disney) to something more flattering and fitted (I really liked the Maggie Sottero gowns when I tried them on). I think the fitted gown would look more adult and mature and I''m really leaning that direction.
As for the wedding, nothing is done. I am adamant that we pay for it ourselves. In the past 2 1/2 years we''ve moved to a new city together, picked out our own apartment, bought a house, bought a new car, bought the ring/got engaged, and adopted 2 dogs. All on our own. I emphasize that because I have "little red hen" syndrome ("I''ll do it myself!").
I want a SMALL wedding, either here in St. Louis or in Hawaii. I want FI, my mom & possibly step-dad, and FI''s dad, and possibly his aunt. No one else. I don''t need the drama, I don''t want the bickering that inevitably would blow up, I''m not going to stress on MY wedding day about seating my divorced parents and their spouses at opposite ends so no one feels uncomfortable. I do feel terribly guilty that I don''t want the rest of my fairly huge family present but again, not worth the stress to me. My mom won''t fly to Hawaii though and that bothers me. She should be there. Also, if she''s not there FI will have to figure out how to get me in and out of a dress. He is not a buttons and bows and fiddly bits on a dress kind of guy. Worried.
I haven''t booked anything for the honeymoon or the wedding and I''m starting to stress. The Maggie dresses can take 12 weeks to order so I need to get moving here. We haven''t even TALKED about receptions but FI is from Maryland and I''m from Missouri. We''ll probably need to have two (one for each family) to make up for the lack of invites to the wedding. BTW - I''m fairly sure my family thinks I''m joking when I tell them that we''re planning on practically eloping.
PLEASE talk me down from the "I''ll just stay engaged forever" ledge and point me in the right direction. Were you guys this freaked out? I wasn''t this concerned about finishing COLLEGE. A wedding SHOULD be a walk in the park right?? Especially one so simple??
Please also give your input on Hawaii vs. getting married here and then going to Hawaii. Even if we get married here I was thinking of "cheating" and getting pics taken on the beach of us in our wedding attire. I haven''t thought that through either. This is such a mess!