LiW "I Do Tuesday" on the Style network

[KateMB]

Does anyone else watch this? Right now a show called "I Propose" is on. It is about men making elaborate plans to ask their girlfriends to marry them. Given the current state of my relationship, I find it quite depressing. None of the guys on this show have to be pressured or go to therapy before they''ll propose.

 

[CNOS128]

I''ve never seen it but I''m watching it now!

I''ve gotten very into the wedding shows as of late. I think it''s a symptom of my deeper insanity...

 

[LegacyGirl]

Date: 2/5/2008 8:46:40 PM
Author: TheBigT
I''ve never seen it but I''m watching it now!

I''ve gotten very into the wedding shows as of late. I think it''s a symptom of my deeper insanity...

I agree with this. It''s even harder since we have the diamond and I''m just trying to find a setting

 

[KateMB]

I know. I feel like I am some kind of psychotic movie character at this point. I look up engagement rings and wedding dresses and watch wedding shows. I hope my boyfriend doesn''t get me a pearl ring though!

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 2/5/2008 8:53:39 PM
Author: KateMB
I hope my boyfriend doesn''t get me a pearl ring though!

Oh, thank goodness-- I was thinking the same thing, but I didn''t want to sound shallow. But, really, a PEARL?! I hope that''s what she asked for because otherwise she is not going to be happy.


LegacyGirl -- What kind of setting are you looking for? In the meantime, you can start planning. Watching shows is jut research!!

 

[KateMB]

Nevermind, pear ring man redeemed himself!

 

[LegacyGirl]

Ugh that was so sweet I think I''m going to throw up.


I''m looking for a simple halo. First I had someone who was going to make it but she became very ill with no sign of getting better. Then I was going to get the legacy replica from Excel and then they rasied the price $500 so its out of our budget (which is around $1200). I don''t think a halo exists for that price

It''s so depressing because I have this beautiful diamond I look at, at least 4x a day, and I may never get to wear it any time soon. Ugh I''m going to cry!

 

[KateMB]

I just want a really simple band with a single diamond, and then a pave wedding band.

 

[absolut_blonde]

Hmm, wonder what channel I can find this on in Canada. I like watching these things in a weird, twisted way.

 

[FrekeChild]

My BF always sits and suffers through it when I watch those shows, and he HATES "Say Yes to the Dress". He says it''s the worst show on TV, but I still make him watch it every Friday night. And although he complains about having to watch them, he also comments on everything, like, "I like that dress./That dress is HIDEOUS!" or "We don''t have to do that at our wedding do we?".

 

[CNOS128]

Two of my friends were on "Say Yes to the Dress!" They weren''t any of the really demanding, whiny brides, though. That''s such a great show...

 

[chocolatefudge]

Oh no!! I want to watch it too! Wish we had the channel here in the UK You will have to keep telling me what is happening!! I agree that it is depressing to watch such programs especially when:

1) The guy is dying to propose with no pressure
2) They have been going out for only a fraction of the time I''ve been with SO

Hmmmm, think that''s about it. I love watching things like this, even though they do depress me!!

 

[sandia_rose]

Date: 2/5/2008 8:37:04 PM
Author:KateMB

Does anyone else watch this? Right now a show called 'I Propose' is on. It is about men making elaborate plans to ask their girlfriends to marry them. Given the current state of my relationship, I find it quite depressing. None of the guys on this show have to be pressured or go to therapy before they'll propose.

I have heard of it but haven't watched it....and don't intend to.

I don't want to sound negative. It's just that those shows aren't realistic and set you up to feel crappy if you're not in the right frame of mind when you're watching. They just show "the best of the best" without any of the drama...which is fine if your relationship is hunky-dory and or if you've just gotten engaged and you're now planning a wonderful wedding. But what about those of us who are waiting -- like me, waiting for my BF of two years to get his poop together and make a firm commitment? Or those of us who feel like we had to push or lead?

This is similar to TLC's "Wedding Story" and "Baby Story." I had huge issues with Baby Story after I had my son. I had watched Baby Story all though my pregnancy, and I was lucky enough to have had an uneventful, easy pregnancy. BUT, when I was on maternity leave, I'd sit there on the sofa nursing my son, and some woman would have her baby, make-up still perfect and intact, and I'd shout at the TV, "YO! THAT is NOT how it really is!!!" My birth itself was easy, too - I had a midwife and did it 100% without drugs - but 99% of the births on the show are with mothers who get epidurals and who have a lot of what I call inappropriate medical intervention. I often thought about the women who watch these shows when pregnant, like I did, and maybe end up with a less-than-fun birth experience, like needing a c-section or being in labor for 48 hours. I can see them coming home and feeling cheated or PO'd at themselves because they didn't get the TV version. Wedding Story, too, conveniently leaves out those couples who "took a break to figure things out" and couples who had anything less than a fairy-tale courtship.

Without going on and on, I think that shows like that set people up to have unrealistic or unfair expectations and make them feel bad for having "normal" situations. I won't read some of the glossier wedding magazines (like Martha Stewart's wedding mag) either, because they impart the pressure that everything MUST be perfect (and that perfection comes at a horribly high price...thousands of dollars) and imply that your wedding isn't a "real" wedding unless you include all of these little details. I have been to a few weddings over the last two years where I know the couple well and know that they spent more than they had on their wedding, because they felt that they had to. And I find it strange why these shows and magazines don't give some airtime/page time to those of us who don't want traditional weddings. I bet there are a lot more out there like me - who wants an outdoor biker-type wedding that's casual and fun - than there are of the Martha Stewart types. I want to spend my money building a nice home or taking some great vacations with my man - not on an 8 hour event!

By the way, since later posts mentioned the rings we want, I'd like a 1 - 1.5 ct (no bigger) Asscher or an Emerald cut halo. Pale champagne diamond center stone or a light colored sapphire (pale yellow or pale peach). Platinum, palladium or rhodium-plated white gold. Very thin band.

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[Codependent Gal]

The Style Network is the devil. There is a snow day today and I have been watching "Whose Wedding is it Anyway?" all morning.

 

[FrekeChild]

Has anyone seen the "Whose Wedding is it Anyway?" Where the bride and groom end up postponing the wedding indefinitely about a week before its supposed to happen? They fought over everything and she was a high maintenance b*tch. Or that one where the groom wouldn''t pay for anything when it was due so the planner paid for everything out of her own pocket so the highly sensitive bride ("I want my mommy!") wouldn''t have a mental breakdown? And then when the planner told him to pay up as the reception was ending, he told her that he ruined their wedding for him? That was classic. His bride was a BIG TIME fragile bridezilla.

I agree Sandia most of TLCs programming just makes everything look perfect but in a way it kind of ruins the show because I don''t think that anyone here really thinks that their wedding will be perfect. The stuff on Style! is much more realistic especially "Say yes..." and "Whose Wedding..."

There was an episode of "Say Yes to the Dress" where the dress was a little bit off and the father of the bride went BALLISTIC and yelled at the designer to make it perfect, but they showed the entire argument-therefore showing that it''s not perfect. (What a jerk that guy was! And he was also on that show "Split Ends" on Style!, he''s the owner of some big hair salon in NYC.)

What ended up happening with the pearl ring guy? I didn''t get to watch it because I was watching the election results.

And just for the record, I don''t know what I want besides something that no one else has, preferably a sapphire in a cool color with white metal. Mmm...and an oval.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I watch these shows on occasion. I tend to laugh to myself while thinking “ahhh the beauty of editing”. I love watching people freak out and act like fools. Makes me feel like a really great catch

I used to be a huge fan of Perfect Proposal which I think is far better than I Propose. I find it very difficult to believe that these woman do not see the Proposal coming a mile away where as Perfect Proposal seemed to involve the girl less which I felt increased the surprise a bit.

Just to touch on something KateMB said about getting upset watching these shows: sweetie, you have NO CLUE what goes on the years, months and days before the camera crew descends upon the couple. For all you know they did go through months of therapy or massive blow-outs to get to the stage they are at.

Honestly though, one of the best things I did for myself and my LIW anxiety was to stop watching these shows. I wouldn’t say a proposal is out of my mind completely but I have definitely removed some of the external factors that fed my obsession. You know how they say you find love when you aren’t looking for it (which I have found to be very true) well, I kinda feel that way about a proposal: the less you expose yourself to maddening/depressing reminders of what you don’t have, the quicker you’ll reach the finish line.

 

[basil]

I watched that "I Propose" show at some point. I''m already engaged and I never really went through the LIW angst. But it seemed to me that the proposals were the last thing I would want if I were being proposed to again. It always seems like the guys never really thought about it before the three days they have on the show. They always hurry everything. They really never had talked to the girl about marriage before. And then they make a big public spectacle on national TV, therefore kind of forcing her to say yes and be excited about whatever he''s done. I dunno. I much preferred my ''home in the bedroom, knew it was coming for weeks'' proposal than any of theirs.

 

[LegacyGirl]

I wouldn''t want a big public huge event too....