I almost beat a woman down last night...so much regret for not doing it.

[ame]

I was going to West County Mall (for the locals) to wander and enjoy an alone time evening, dinner and shopping...well luckily I ate first because my night ended rapidly. I was walking to Nordstrom and there are about 6 doors maybe 7? 5? whatever, anyway...I was the ONLY person going in that entrance, except for this upper 30s maybe early 40s very plastic woman who HURRIED to get behind me I guess so she wouldn''t haveto actually OPEN a door. She''s talking on the phone about some stupid benefit she''s helping with that she feels is a waste of her time and money because how dare she donate her money when she can pay for ugly expensive purses. SHe comes SLAMMING into me, and since I had no purse with me to pad me, just my card and id and keys and cell (none of which she grabbed at) I had nothing to break my "fall" and for once I didn''t have my hand stuffed in my jacket pocket to protect my rings (I had my eternity on last night because that mall has GREAT lights).

SO I get slammed into the metal and plate glass door with about 200lbs of woman into my back, smacking my hand hard as can be into this metal and glass door and cracking my face off the edge of the glass. So I yelled "UM HELLO? DID YOU NOT SEE ME?" which she kind of laughed off on the phone and I guess her conversation buddy said what was that and she said oh some girl and continued on. I chased her after quickly checking to be sure 1) my hand wasn''t broken and 2) I had all stones and 3) my face wasn''t bleeding. I took both rings off and put one in each jean pocket. I started yelling at her at the base of the escalator by the piano dude, so the wholething was broadcast over his microphone (funny now that I look back). Calling her a rude and selfish B!tch and how dare she do what she did with not even an apology or excusing herself. She damaged my wedding set, which is worth more than my car and injured my hand, I think I want to file a police report for what she did so she can pay for the medical exam..blah blah blah. She looks at me, tells her friend to hang on a second, and says "I could buy you. And your car, and your shitty wedding set. I saw that, and I wasn''t impressed. My purse likely cost more (a REALLY UGLY LV). Don''t speak to me". I got really loud and went off on her and her attitude, security came over and asked her to keep it down (ironically not saying anything to me). She laughed and walked off to shoes. I called her a very - inappropriate - for - PS name, she turned around and gasped like she couldn''t believe it, demanded that "the riff raff be removed" and skulked off to overpay for ugly wedge shoes and chat some more on her phone so loud that people in the other end of the place could hear her and her really fake laugh.

I stormed out, because I am mature this way, sped like an ass home, and couldn''t believe I didn''t get pulled over, and spent two hours inspecting my rings under my "natural light lamp"(for doing printwork at home), cleaning them carefully just in case something got dislodged, and then again this morning in natural light. So far I don''t see much but that eternity band is hard to really inspect. I ordered myself a 30x loupe though for a better inspection. I might go to a jeweler monday for a double check with a stronger loupe.

I was SO upset, so angry, and regretful that I didn''t just beat her down with her crappy ugly purse. The security dude looked like he wass shocked I didn''t take advantage of him kind of opening that door for me.

Yes I get very angry over things like damage to my ring, or my person even, but come on! I guess she''s rich so her life and things are more important.

 

[Patty]

Sounds like a rough night, Ame.

The best part is that you were yelling into the piano player''s microphone.

I''m glad your rings are okay. They are probably MUCH tougher than you realize. Plus, you DO have insurance, so try to enjoy them a bit more and stop worrying about them!

 

[FireGoddess]

When I saw the title to this thread, I thought, "hmmm....what could possibly make ame want to beat someone down?"

Now that I know, I''m wondering how you restrained yourself from grabbing the phone off her ear and not smashing it to little bits in front of her face. Or maybe on her face. I don''t care HOW much money you have, that does NOT make you better or worth more as a person than anybody else. And it gives you NO right to treat someone the way she treated you.

I commend you for not killing her, or maiming her with her own hideous bag.

Take a deep breath now, and don''t fret - I''m sure your rings are alright. They''re much harder than your face, which thankfully wasn''t damaged either.

I''m sorry this happened to you...I hope it''s true that karma will come around to bite her in the @ss.

 

[ame]

Well I think the force of the smack is what scared the crap out of me, I have smacked it on all sorts of things but those doors are doozies and that was quite a smack. Imagine if you were running full force into the wall. That's about how it was. And I can usually do that on my own and didn't need help . That was just...I almost puked right then. But yea the piano guy probably didnt appreciate that, and I am a loud person so that didn't help. I think what just got me was the attitude she took towards me. If she wants to be stuck up, go to Frontenac where it's the norm. Man that bothered me. And yes, I shoulda beat her. Ryan even said he would have done so himself if he were me, and usually Im overreacting in his mind. haha. She really bothered me.

But my face, that was scary, and my hand. I did have a slight knot on the forehead but it went down overnight. Ryan says I have a bit of a bruise there though. I write mostly left handed and I NEED that hand for work. I have a busy Monday too, if I did something to that Id be very worried.

OH well. I will use my 30x to inspect it better.

Yes, I am a nut.

 

[ForteKitty]

That''s why I always carry mace. You never know when you might need to use it.

 

[ame]

Date: 3/26/2005 8:24:33 PM
Author: ForteKitty
That''s why I always carry mace. You never know when you might need to use it.

HAHAHA! Ryan said I can buy a tazer. Can you imagine that? I might have far too much fun in me. Im evil and mean that way.

 

[ForteKitty]

i think getting arrested would have been worth it if I got to spray that beeyatch all over her waxy face with it!

 

[ame]

That woman was almost as fake as Michael Jackson. It was kinda creepy. And she didn''t look all that old so the extensive surgery might have been way unnecessary.

 

[lmurden]

Ame,

You should a screamed Bloody Murder and had the mall security call the police! What a story! Where was this again? In LA?

 

[ame]

Heh. Nope, in the middle of midwestern suburbia.

I am a VERY hostile person, and I am still just stunned by my uncharacteristically "sedate" handling of this situation.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 3/26/2005 8:33:35 PM
Author: ame
Heh. Nope, in the middle of midwestern suburbia.

I am a VERY hostile person, and I am still just stunned by my uncharacteristically ''sedate'' handling of this situation.

Wow, you''d did very good. . .lol I''d be practicing kick boxing moves on this b*tch. . .

Anyway, if she''s as plasticy as you say, I''m sure she''s totally miserable. . .she''s already got what she deserves

 

[crafftygrrl]

Ame,

That''s about the rudest thing I''ve heard in a long time.

I''m glad that you and your rings are OK. I''m so sorry your evening was ruined.

I person can have money, but that doesn''t make them classy or nice. It''s also a good thing you didn''t resort to physical violence. Ladies fight with their mouths and not their fists. A person like that is probably really miserable to be around 24/7. Can you imagine being her SO, poor guy or gal.

BTW, her LV could always be fake.

I''m glad she wasntn''t carrying Hermes (my favorite). Hermes is much more attractive, classy and expensive.

 

[Dancing Fire]

it happen to me once at costco. this idiot (i wanted to kill him) was walking backward and talking to a co-worker at the same time and bumped right into me with his hand held plastic scanner and put a big dent on my watch.

there's no way i can prove he scratched my watch. or else i would of talk to the store manager about the incident.

 

[ForteKitty]

Date: 3/26/2005 8:30:58 PM
Author: lmurden
Ame,

You should a screamed Bloody Murder and had the mall security call the police! What a story! Where was this again? In LA?

I live in LA and never, EVER have I encountered anyone that rude.

Not in Beverly Hills, not in Newport Beach, and not in La Jolla... and these places are filled with loaded women.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Author: crafftygrrl

I person can have money, but that doesn''t make them classy or nice. It''s also a good thing you didn''t resort to physical violence. Ladies fight with their mouths and not their fists. A person like that is probably really miserable to be around 24/7. Can you imagine being her SO, poor guy or gal.

BTW, her LV could always be fake.

I''m glad she wasntn''t carrying Hermes (my favorite). Hermes is much more attractive, classy and expensive.

Money doesn''t equal class or TASTE, by any means. I''m amazed at the number of million dollar homes that are butt ugly. More ugly than cute homes, in fact, seem to be listed over $1 mill. People should have to pass some sort of competence and character test before being allowed to aquire over a specific amount of money.

Regarding LV, I tend to think they''re all fake! Even if a woman is dressed to the nines, I''ll still hear a little voice in my head wisper, "FAKE!" lol (It''s hard not to think this after my husband''s VERY rich aunt came over and told us about her 23 YO daughters new LV purse costing around $7-900 - can''t remember the exact figure - and then when the aunt left the room and the daugher entered the room, she laughed about her knock off purse and how real it looks. . .

).

 

[ame]

Date: 3/26/2005 8:40:39 PM
Author: crafftygrrl
Ame,


BTW, her LV could always be fake.

I''m glad she wasntn''t carrying Hermes (my favorite). Hermes is much more attractive, classy and expensive.

Not unlikely here. Purse parties are HUGE! I like Hermes far more too...I want a Birkin.

 

[deny]

aaarrrggghhhhhh!

Darn cell phones!!! But, that''s a whole other topic!

 

[crafftygrrl]

I was thinking of a couple of things.  (The bad girl''s coming out!!!)

1. I would have found security and had her arrested for assault. Let her find a lawyer at $250-$500 per hour to solve it.
Or at least have Security escort [/u]her[/u] out of the mall.

2. Told her to get her 200lb a** or (the c-word) up to the plus sized department where she belonged.

By the way, I have a real Kelly bag, plus 4 other Hermes purses/backpacks. It took me 15-20 years to get to the point where I could comfortably afford and justify them. I debated about a Birkin, but I didn''t like the interior pocket structure.

One day, when I can figure out why my pics won''t upload on this site, I''ll post some pics.

 

[deny]

Date: 3/26/2005 9:18:16 PM
Author: crafftygrrl
(The bad girl''s coming out!!!)

2. Told her to get her 200lb a** or (the c-word) up to the plus sized department where she belonged.

The "C" word and knocking her weight. The bad in you is definately coming out!

 

[crafftygrrl]

I''m not sure I would ever actually say that nasty word in public. It would be demeaning to me. But I would sure think it.

 

[Jennifer5973]

I'm sorry to hear this woman was rude to you and caused you to slam your ring. I know I'd be furious.

Certainly, if her actions were responsible for causing you bodily harm or damaging your rings, you'd have cause to confront her.

But you may want to think about the approach to people like this, even if they do wrong you...years ago, I worked at a cosmetic counter at a big dept. store and some woman freaked out on me, saying I was ignoring her (we were very busy--I didn't see her) and chased me around the counter yelliing obsceneties at me. I called security, who called the local police. Long story short: I pressed charges and won in court--there were a lot of witnesses. She had to pay a fine and has a record for misdeamenor harassment. As I read your story, I had flashbacks of this because that woman could have accused you of the very same thing--or vice versa!

I like to think I was the wronged party in my example but these things can go either way...sometimes the truth isn't enough to support you. We live in a graceless age. I often get infuriated by people's rudeness and lack of consideration for others. But as I have gotten older, I have learned to save my energy and just feel sorry for those with no class and no hopes of getting some any time soon.

 

[widget]

Hey, Try to look on the bright side: You're jewelry is OK, more importantly YOU'RE OK, and now you have a GREAT story to tell at dull dinner parties!

Your tale certainly liven up MY dull evening!

Ame: You're a master raconteur! (Or would that be "raconteuse"?) My favorite is the part about the piano dude!

Anyhow...thanks for sharing.

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[lmurden]

ForteKitty,

Thanks for the info about California funny thing is that my fiance wants us to move out to LA so it''s nice to know that that behavior is absolutely not the norm out there.

 

[kaylagee]

Another Cali(Northern) born and bred here. Thank G-d, I haven''t experienced anything like that yet.

Sounds like that woman was on some serious meds and/or booze to be so inhuman. I apologize(and receive apologies) for accidental brushing past let alone getting rammed.

If that ever happens again you should defintely report the person to security.

I worked at Nordstrom in my early twenties and I *love* the part about being picked up on the piano microphone.

That''s the best!

I hope your rings are fine!

 

[Mara]

Unfortunately there are many people out there that are SO unhappy with their lives that it just oozes out of them in really nasty ways and affects others around them, this situation sounding like a great example of that. Sure she may have money and a plastic face and an expensive LV bag...but she sounds like she has other issues that go far beyond being rude and nasty in public and probably affect her inner core and her happiness level.

A few years back Greg and I were headed to my fave local nursery...we were turning off the main street into the parking lot, and the parking lot is very small and sometimes you have to wait a minute before you can turn off the main street into the parking lot (aka if another car is backing out of a space, the spaces line up almost touching the street, the lot is so small). So we were about to turn in, there was a Grandma slowly making her way to her car right next to the only available spot. We figured we''d wait until she got into the car to get into the spot so we wouldn''t hit her (duh!). We had our blinker on, there are 3 other lanes next to us if people behind us do not want to wait. I''ve had to do this before and sometimes been the 2nd or 3rd car waiting to get into this parking lot, it''s just how this nursery is placed and I''ve never had anyone freak out. We were in Greg''s old ford truck, since we were going to be hauling plants and pots home...waiting & behind us someone honks. We ignore them and continue waiting for Grandma to get into the car..and the car behind us honks again. Greg turns around and makes the 1 minute sign and puts his hand out like STOP (aka wait). Which I guess totally pisses off the car behind us. Grandma finally gets in and drives away, we take our spot, the gal behind us DRIVES INTO THE SAME NURSERY after us, we get out of the car and Greg says "Uhoh guess who is headed our way." We head into the nursery, only to be accosted by this ~45ish woman who is very irate. She goes off on how she had to wait and did we know we were blocking the lane of traffic (which pissed me off since she was waiting in back of us to get into the SAME LOT--kind of ironic??) and did we not notice the cars behind us etc. Greg said something to the effect of asking her if she wanted him to run over poor Grandma who was getting into her car but she was just not hearing any sense behind his words. Now normally *I* would be the one to speak back to this gal...but I was kind of shocked/bemused/thinking about plants/taking it all in because it was happening very fast. So Greg said something like whatever lady, and then goes to walk around her. She jumps back in front of him and is just going off and I finally said..."Look"..and before I could even say anything else she turns on me and says ''No one is talking to you, stay out of it!''...at which poing she starts going off on Greg again. I just shrugged (obviously not feeling my normal self....hehee) and then Greg burst into her diatribe and tells her to "F OFF" (in her face). Now Greg is normally very mild, almost too mind sometimes, I am normally the hot-headed Persian Mexican. She jumps back and looks affronted and then we stalk off into the nursery, her actually following! I thought for sure she''d say something else but she didn''t, so we veered off into the side with the pottery and orchids and as she passed us I said something like "stupid b..." and she just stalked on. So at least I felt better that I''d done my part.

Greg was very torqued up and stressed out the whole time so I just got what we needed, making sure to avoid Psycho Lady Driver and we headed off. On the way home he was ranting and raving and then he says... "Im just SO proud of myself for keeping my cool and not saying anything OBSCENE". At which point I turned to him and started laughing. I said.."are you kidding me? You told her to F OFF!" He looked SO shocked I think he had blanked it out! he said..NO WAY. I said..YES! and he started laughing and said he didn''t remember that. I think he had a haze of red or something.

Anyway the whole thing gave us the best laugh after all the drama and of course Greg aka Mr. Embellishment has told the story many times over the years.

The point of this whole thing is that it was very apparent to me that this lady had some serious anger and issues over something TOTALLY NOT RELATED to us or our parking spot or holding her up behind us. Who knows what her life situation was at the time...but I just got the vibe like she was very angry and the reason was not us, but we were what she was venting on. I almost felt sorry for her..almost. The thing was...she was so worked up that she seemed liable to call the cops or something and then I didn''t want Greg to get into trouble for accosting her or whatever..she seemed THAT psycho to accuse him of something like that. So I was glad we got away from her and there was no real trouble. But what a ridiculous situation. Over waiting all of 2 minutes at a plant nursery of all things, don''t plants make people HAPPY?? Not to mention that if she had ever been to that nursery before, she should know the drill AND there is another entrance further down the street so if she really didn''t want to wait she could have gone around us. Again...whatever issue she really had was not to do with the spot, the parking lot or us. Poor lady!

 

[fire&ice]

I want to go on the record that I do not resemble any of the 40+ year olf women discussed here.

In the South, we have a great expression. She "broke bad" on you.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

don''t plants make people HAPPY?? Not to mention that if she had ever been to that nursery before, she should know the drill AND there is another entrance further down the street so if she really didn''t want to wait she could have gone around us. Again...whatever issue she really had was not to do with the spot, the parking lot or us. Poor lady!

Plants DO make most happy. . .at least my african violets cheer me up!

I''ve had nasty experiences as well. . .like, for example, I wanted to change lanes, so I turned on my blinker to move to the right lane. There was a truck to the side of me and he left a gap large enough in front of him that I could easily fit my car into the space, so I turned into the lane. This was at a red light, so you''d think that my lane switch would have been cool with the guy. But, no, instead he honked his horn. Now, he wasn''t in a regular truck, but in a cement truck so his horn created a loud jolting blare and I jumped about a foot up into the air. I almost flipped him off, but with the amount of anger most carry these days, I''m afraid of any reprocations. Now, I just ingore people as much as possible. . .

I think most of us have been at both ends of the spectrum here. . .while I was pregnant, I went grocery shopping for strawberries. The strawberries in the preselected containers were a mix of fresh and yucky, so I decided to pick out the gross ones and add in more of the firmer ones. . . I was pregnant and wasn''t going to eat moldy berries.

A woman walked by with her husband and commented that I shouldn''t be taking strawberries out because it was unfair to the other customers! I should have ignored her, but I had a lot of hormones flowing, so I turned to her and started raging and yelling about how I wasn''t going to pay $3.50 for crappy food, and she and her husband freaked and literally RAN out of the store. lol

I''m not sure who was at fault here, but I think her reaction was hilarious.

 

[ame]

I have to say Id have been a lot meaner than F off but I have been there too and it''s astonishing how petty some people are. What a bitchy woman. And for the record--the C word was a nicer word for the one I chose to yell out but the C word DID cross my lips before that other one came out. I don''t know how well broadcast the words were over the mic.

And I wish I had gone after her with security because there are police from that municipality in that mall (a sub-station is located in there) and the security tape would have shown the whole thing so she couldn''t lie. I have never seen more security in any mall. This thing is a fortress. Frontenac, the mall with the money (saks, etc) has a fortress but nothing like this. They can read your check as you write it, the name off your card, the receipt you sign, and take a clear image if they had to, its disturbing.

Today I have a nice bruise on my hand and I don''t have any rings on because it hurts, and my forehead has a small bruise but nothing major. My grandma asked about what happened because she swore I did something dumb to myself, which is common, and why my ring wasnt on (my mom knows but thought it was a funny story so probably told her to ask). I said I cussed this woman out and my grandma said "you should have had her arrested, and you should be getting your mouth washed out with soap but Im sure your mother has no bars here to do that with". My aunts all laughed and my sister laughed. I have done some MAJOR inspecting since and when that new loupe shows I will surely do more.

Even my FMIL commented, she was impressed with my restraint, and then made fun of my crazy checking and ordering of that better loupe.

 

[fire&ice]

Michelle, those people broke the very first rule of survival. They "messed" with a pregnant women.

 

[MaybeDayze]

Ame, your story made ME unbelievably angry - I can't imagine how it made You feel!

I would have had security stop her, gotten her info, called the police and filed an assault charge against her. (I'm not kidding - I would have.) You sound like you sustained some fairly serious injuries, that very easily could have been worse - concussion, broken hand, etc. At the time this happened how could you know how serious your injuries were? Next time(God forbid)get her information and file a report.

MD