Husband refusing to wear wedding band?

[Beautiful-disaster]

I was wondering if there is a solution to the problem of men not being able to wear their wedding bands due to their job. My partner works in a very specific job in construction where if he wears it he risks losing his fingers or hand.
Now as important as his hands are - I would still like him to wear his ring. This is an issue because we don’t actually have wedding bands and are looking to have them made now.
At first I thought matching of course - but have since seen some amazing rings using wood and opal inlays which I would love to get for him - but what is the point - he will only wear it one day a week if he remembers.
I asked him if he would wear it on a necklace and he said of course but that doesn’t feel like a solution to me.
Tattoo?? Lmao - well..... it’s a solution and wouldn’t be his first one..... maybe both?
He is Portuguese so I liked the idea of buying old filigree Portuguese bands but couldn’t find any - plus I have a white gold ER and Portuguese gold doesn’t match well at all.

If you partner (or yourself) can’t wear your ring everyday what do you do?

I remember my father had to have his wedding ring cut off in hospital when he was sick because they couldn’t get it off..... I thought it was really romantic

 

[yssie]

If he wants a ring - a one day a week band that he likes seems like a very reasonable thing to spend on, definitely not wasted money!

He'll wear it on vacation, and to dinner, and around the house on days off. And he'll be safe when he's doing his job. And no permanent body modification required. Win-win-win!

 

[nala]

Hubby has never worn his bc he hates jewelry. Guess what? More bling money for me!

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

If he wants a ring - a one day a week band that he likes seems like a very reasonable thing to spend on, definitely not wasted money!

He'll wear it on vacation, and to dinner, and around the house on days off. And he'll be safe when he's doing his job. And no permanent body modification required. Win-win-win!

Considering he lost his smart watch for a couple of months before it turned up again - I don’t like his chances on on a ring! I don’t think I have a choice though. I guess I was secretly hoping there was some solution to this that hadn’t occurred to me like a special design that can’t get caught?! But I know that’s reaching.

 

[LemonMoonLex]

Mine loses jewelry that I give him & never wears his ring because he's lost it four times & I'd rather keep it safe then have to get a new one made all the time!

It used to bother me but now I don't care because the idea of him telling other women that he's taken is super sexy to me!

 

[Dandi]

My hubby hasn't worn his since the day after we were married almost 13 years ago. I bought him a heavy silver neck chain and he wears it on that. He tells people that he does that so that the ring is close to to his heart He just really hates wearing jewellery other than his chain, he doesn't even wear a watch. He's a tradesman and refinery worker so would rarely be able to wear it anyway. Doesn't faze me in the slightest.

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

Hubby has never worn his bc he hates jewelry. Guess what? More bling money for me!

This probably wouldn’t bother me if my husband wasn’t a good looking tradie - women like good looking handy men! Lmao!!

 

[jaysonsmom]

My husband can't really wear his wedding band either, and hasn't worn one in about 5 years. He has lost 2 because he has to remove it for work while fixing heavy machinery and and another time removing his "10 year anniversary" wedding band while working out. I don't really care whether he wears one or not, I think it is actually safer for him NOT to wear one in his profession, and he has never given me any reason to "worry" about why he doesn't wear one now. To each their own, and ljke @nala said, more bling $$$$ for me!

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

My hubby hasn't worn his since the day after we were married almost 13 years ago. I bought him a heavy silver neck chain and he wears it on that. He tells people that he does that so that the ring is close to to his heart He just really hates wearing jewellery other than his chain, he doesn't even wear a watch. He's a tradesman and refinery worker so would rarely be able to wear it anyway. Doesn't faze me in the slightest.

We have been together 23yrs and he hasn’t worn one all this time - and I have been ok with that. But I didn’t wear one either - just my ER because even though he gave it to me 15yrs ago - or more - we never actually got married - choosing to spend the money on traveling instead (and our daughter). So now we are doing the marriage thing (just so I can move to Europe) and need to get the rings ..... I don’t want to wear one if he isn’t wearing one and my ER looks lonely! Hahahaha
Hmmmmm what to do.... I think necklace it will have to be. But if he decides it’s annoying he won’t wear it.

 

[Dandi]

This probably wouldn’t bother me if my husband wasn’t a good looking tradie - women like good looking handy men! Lmao!!

Every lady loves a tradie!

 

[yssie]

We have been together 23yrs and he hasn’t worn one all this time - and I have been ok with that. But I didn’t wear one either - just my ER because even though he gave it to me 15yrs ago - or more - we never actually got married - choosing to spend the money on traveling instead (and our daughter). So now we are doing the marriage thing (just so I can move to Europe) and need to get the rings ..... I don’t want to wear one if he isn’t wearing one and my ER looks lonely! Hahahaha
Hmmmmm what to do.... I think necklace it will have to be. But if he decides it’s annoying he won’t wear it.

Put the wedding band on his keychain? Wouldn't lose it, for sure

 

[TooPatient]

What about one made of silicone or similar? I have been seeing ads for those and some look sort of cool. Not sure if he could wear that to work. Depends on the specific concern. Might be worth asking him.

What would he like to have? I have seen some do tattoos and be very happy with the option. Others like something different and just wear when they can.

DH and I both have grungy wedding bands in addition to our regular ones. When we go do stuff that could damage the nice ones, we grab out those. Even if he had a special material for at work, he could still have a nice one for other times if he would like.

 

[Rhea]

My husband also works with tools where wearing a ring wouldn't be safe or smart. He doesn't wear one. I'd rather have him whole and safe than visibly married.

He wears his ring when it's safe to do so or if we go out. Sometimes that'll be a few days in a row and other times it'll be a few weeks without a ring.

Have you considered a silicon ring? DH couldn't wear it I don't think but it might be a good option if yours can and wants to.

 

[Big Fat Facets]

My husband and i got married at 20 and 21. We wore matching cartier trinity rings. When we outgrew them as we got older and "thickened up". We brought it into cartier to be sized. And they would not size it. So we haven't worn our wedding rings since. It's not a big deal to us. At some point we might get wedding rings again but it's not a priority.

Ive seen special rubber/silicone band rings for extreme sportsmen, heavy weight lifting, active lifestyle....

Hope it all works out the way you want it to ...

 

[missy]

Enso has some great options that might be safe for those who work with their hands.

Enso Rings

Silicone Rings | Silicone Wedding Bands | Unique Wedding Rings | Enso Rings

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If that’s not safe for him to wear during work I’d be AOK if he (if this was my dh) wore a wedding band when he wasn’t working.

 

[bludiva]

+1 for silicone bands, there's quite a lot of variety these days and he can wear the real deal when not at work....

 

[jordyonbass]

This probably wouldn’t bother me if my husband wasn’t a good looking tradie - women like good looking handy men! Lmao!!

I have been working in construction for years, this is a myth

 

[dk168]

My ex-hubby never wore his wedding band except during the wedding ceremony which was fine by me.

DK

 

[Arcadian]

Put the wedding band on his keychain? Wouldn't lose it, for sure

this made me crack up (my parents have their wedding rings on their key chains....lol)

 

[seaurchin]

Matching tattoo rings!

 

[tyty333]

I worked for a girl that had half a finger. She worked at a grocery store and was restocking a higher metal shelf. She fell off what she was standing
on and her ring got caught on the shelf. It removed all the skin off her finger from the middle knuckle on. The doctors sutured her finger to her
stomach trying to give it a good blood supply but unfortunately, it didnt work and she lost half her finger.

So, I certainly wouldnt want my DH to wear a ring if it might put a finger in danger.

They make break away rings if they get caught...I found this with a google search.

SafeRingz - Silicone Wedding Rings Proudly Made in the USA

SafeRingz (the original silicone wedding ring) are non-conductive, heat resistant, and safe wedding bands designed to break when stretched, keeping your fingers safe. Proudly made in the USA from bio-compatible medical grade silicone. Safe Ringz are an alternative to metal wedding rings.

www.saferingz.com

 

[MeowMeow]

Plus another vote for a silicone band!!! But if that's not an option he can always wear it when he comes home from work. My husband works with installing computer parts so he doesn't always wear his while at work... Still married to me lol!

And believe me. A wedding band won't stop a woman who really likes a man. When i was with my ex we both wore rings. Women actually flirted HARDER with him when the ring came along. So yeah. I had to get over the idea that rings will stop all flirting. It's down to the husband or wife to stop it by saying they are married if someone tries to cross boundaries in such a way. I hope that didn't sound harsh because it wasn't meant to! Just my experience with it.

Hopefully silicone at least might work out! I can't wait to see what you guys pick! Wedding rings are so fun!

 

[Diamond Girl 21]

My husband couldn't wear his because of work as well. He only wore it occasionally when we went out to dinner, etc. Well, time went by and it no longer fit him. I was having a ring made using my mom and grandmom's diamonds, so he volunteered the 7 diamonds from his band to be included in my heirloom ring. Yay!!! More diamonds for me! I think we'll get him a new ring eventually, but it's totally up to him. It doesn't bother me either way.

 

[elizat]

I would not care. Would not matter to me.

My dad has never worn a band. Unless they go on a cruise. But he also wears clothes other than t-shirts then. I think he looks at it as "dressing up."

 

[missy]

My dad has never worn a wedding ring (or any ring) except during my parent’s wedding ceremony and reception. Almost 57 years later and they’re still happily married.

However what matters is how you and he feel about it. So if he can’t wear a ring during work just ask him to wear it all other times. Safety comes first but there’s no reason he can’t wear a band other times.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

My other half has never worn jewlery the whole time ive known him - i know he had a wedding ring from his marrage because its in the bottom of a junk drawer in his bedroom drawers

I really wanted to get him a man bangle (but he knows its because Bruce Springsteen really rocks the man jewlery )

But in all seriousness its fear of degloving
After a lifetime in construction he has seen too many accidents - a lot that were preventable

Perhaps Mr @Beautiful-disaster has also seen one too many stomach churning accidents

In saying that my dad worked in the factory before he managed it and he always wore a singet ring
For their 25th anniversary mum got him a wedding ring that he always wore - they said at the time it just wasn't done in 1965

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

I have been working in construction for years, this is a myth

Unfortunately for him it’s not. He works with big machinery and often has his hands in the way... has almost lost a few fingers when gloves have gotten caught. (He operates a machines that makes the outer forms for round or cylinder columns). So I don’t doubt his reasoning and would much prefer he keeps his fingers.
I could see this turning into a *why aren’t you wearing your ring?* thing - on his off days - or it will end upsitting in a dish forgotten about.

I really don’t need another thing to nag him about. Lol

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

Plus another vote for a silicone band!!! But if that's not an option he can always wear it when he comes home from work. My husband works with installing computer parts so he doesn't always wear his while at work... Still married to me lol!

And believe me. A wedding band won't stop a woman who really likes a man. When i was with my ex we both wore rings. Women actually flirted HARDER with him when the ring came along. So yeah. I had to get over the idea that rings will stop all flirting. It's down to the husband or wife to stop it by saying they are married if someone tries to cross boundaries in such a way. I hope that didn't sound harsh because it wasn't meant to! Just my experience with it.

Hopefully silicone at least might work out! I can't wait to see what you guys pick! Wedding rings are so fun!

Good point.
At this point he may appear *unmarryable** hahahahaha

He definitely isn’t the type to even have wondering eyes - it’s more of a commitment thing.
Funnily enough I notice guys taking note of my ring and stopping hitting on me. Funny how it works the other way for men.

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

Thanks for all of your replies.
I will be spending the day looking into silicone bands! Thanks so much!

 

[Bron357]

@Beautiful-disaster this happened to me a little while ago (and why for a few weeks I wore no RHR)
I was putting the clothes into the dryer and somehow caught my opal RHR on the edge of the dryer. Not only did I pull the ring out of shape (the opal popped out as did some of the melee) I “degloved” (look that up on Google If you dare - be warned it’s gruesome) part of my right ring finger in the process.
not nice.