- Nov 24, 2004
What is your priority?
Yeah, I put biological because the question is posed from the perspective of a 35 year old who has no children.Date: 2/26/2009 11:44:49 AM
Well, since it said ''biological child'', I''m very into adoption, so I''ll take the fabulous husband, and cute adopted children...if it is husband or no children, I''d still take husband. I don''t feel like I need children, but I would like a mate to share my life with.
This is a really great post, sweetie. Reminds me of my grandmother, who spent almost 25 years alone in an empty house in the middle of nowhere because it was her and my grandfather''s dream house (he died of cancer in 1985). She couldn''t bare the thought of even a friendly dinner out because there was no question of her ever trying to replace him.Date: 2/26/2009 11:39:27 AM
When I was doing my Masters, a professor asked what did we think would cause more grief: a loss of a spouse or loss of a child.
Everyone naturally said child. The study showed however that the loss of a spouse caused more grief than that of a child. Weird right?
I always go back to my mom''s life. She has spent 14 years of her life alone because she doesn''t want to ''replace'' my father. And for the majority of those years she had her kids. But now we''re all grown up and have moved on. And she is alone. As much as we love her, when she goes to bed at night she''s alone. When she wakes up in the morning, she''s alone. Loneliness is a powerful thing. And at this point, if my mother were to meet someone that wanted to take her away and she would never see us again I would give her a huge kiss and hug and let her go. My teenage self would have had a heart attack.
Even then, I don''t think my mother would ever choose to not have us.
Life is one big pile of mess LOL
Date: 2/26/2009 11:47:20 AM
Author: Starset Princess
I voted there is no way I could make a decision.Date: 2/26/2009 11:44:49 AM
Yeah, I put biological because the question is posed from the perspective of a 35 year old who has no children.
I certainly didn''t mean to exclude on purpose.
However, speaking as a never married, childless, 37 year old woman, if I really wanted to have a biological child, I would go ahead and have one on my own. Single motherhood doesn''t preclude future happy marriage. I''ve seen many examples.
That does make it easy! I love it when people have such conviction about this matter. Good for you, Namaste.Date: 2/26/2009 5:45:36 PM
I absolutely positively DO NOT want children. So I voted moot point..