How to salvage this ring?

[monarch64]

Date: 8/10/2009 5:03:49 PM
Author: glitterata

Date: 8/10/2009 4:48:21 PM
Author: onvacation If I got a remade wedding set, I''d probably make the trip to Mt. Doom to get rid of it.

ROTFL!

Ditto!!!!

 

[monarch64]

I concur: he needs to sell the darn rings, wherever he can get the best price, and add that money to his $1500. When all is said and done, tell him to come to PS and we will help him find something fabulous to fit his budget. Fabulous and NEW.

 

[marcy]

Definitely don''t reuse the diamonds. I''d talk to Z first to see what they can do. If it''s not something he wants to do; sell that baby and put it towards a new ring or to help pay off the other one.

 

[glitterata]

Somebody should make a swap site where guys in this position can trade rings with each other. Then it might be a used ring, but it least it wouldn''t have belonged to HIS ex.

 

[litebrite]

There''s an antique cut pear ring for less than $1500 here

I just think it would be less painful for her to have a new to the relationship ring, it could even be an antique. For something that she looks at everyday, I don''t think she would want to be reminded of his previous fiance. I would definitely take a plain band with a promise of an upgrade later over a ring intended for another.

Amend: unless the ring is over 3 cts and I really like it. But really it''s an individual decision. And unless he wants to spoil the proposal by telling her that it was intended for another, let''s just say it''s better to start anew.

 

[loveloveloveit]

why not get her a beautiful diamond set band with his "reset" money that can be an engagement ring now and her wedding band later so he''s not losing anything on that, with the promise of an engagement ring later on when finances improve? then just get rid of the old set however he can and be done with it? alternatively, as others have suggested, use his $1500 to buy an engagement ring from someone with a good upgrade policy?

Personally, if it were me, I''d prefer the band now that has significant emotional value and I can keep forever without it losing it''s meaning than getting a ring now that will be upgraded and therefore will lose a bit of it''s sentimentality ... this is coming from someone who''s "reset" three times and is still counting because the diamond used was one I already had. rather than resetting, I should have used that reset money towards upgrading the diamond and I would be in a much better position by now.

Good luck, the poor guy, but count your losses now and move on I say - putting any more money into the old ring will be a costly financial mistake, not to mention any emotional scarring it might result in.

Cheers

 

[amyjokerette]

I had a friend who just got engaged with this EXACT set... and honestly... the quality if the diamonds are just not what you pay for. I1 or I2... not well cut...

I would NOT want to be given a set intended for someone else...But, having it reset would make it better though... maybe the upgrade option would still be there for the future.

Or maybe turn these diamonds into a journey necklace?

With proper planning one can probably save the money to buy another nice ring... maybe put it on a 0% credit card with 12 months of careful budgeting to pay it off?

 

[swingirl]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:26:58 PM
Author: moobaby
lol I tried to convince him to just get a completely new ring but he's pretty broke. In fact he's STILL making payments on that bridal set... (yes I know he's a moron.)

If he hasn't paid off his first engagement ring maybe he ought to wait a while before his next proposal.

 

[amyjokerette]

Date: 8/11/2009 3:13:08 AM
Author: swingirl

Date: 8/10/2009 4:26:58 PM

Author: moobaby

lol I tried to convince him to just get a completely new ring but he''s pretty broke. In fact he''s STILL making payments on that bridal set... (yes I know he''s a moron.)

If he hasn''t paid off his first engagement ring maybe he ought to wait a while before his next proposal.

Oh you''re right, I take back my comments about financing.

 

[Yimmers]

Date: 8/11/2009 3:13:08 AM
Author: swingirl

Date: 8/10/2009 4:26:58 PM

Author: moobaby

lol I tried to convince him to just get a completely new ring but he''s pretty broke. In fact he''s STILL making payments on that bridal set... (yes I know he''s a moron.)

If he hasn''t paid off his first engagement ring maybe he ought to wait a while before his next proposal.

Ditto. Feng shui type talk here, but the ring and debt are "attachments" or "reminders" of the old person. Get rid of both, and start the engagement with a clean slate.

 

[toozy929]

I agree with Kaleigh - it''s a NO GO. However, Litebrite makes a good point. I might be able to do it if it was a spectacular 2-3 carat and I knew that due to the first ring (and girl) I''d have to make due with something much smaller. That''s not really the situation here, though. Moh, you''re hilarious - ROFL!!!!

I''m with the others about paying off the first one before purchasing the second and proposing. Sell it and pay it off. I know it''s hard to be patient because love can make you crazy, but I''m sure he''d feel so much better in the long run.

 

[bowral1]

I agree with all these posts. WAY bad karma to propose while still paying off your old e-ring even . . . worse to try and re-gift it. It says “I don’t care who I marry I just want to marry someone!” I am sure this isn’t the case, I am just speculating that is how it maybe construed from another point of view.

 

[cindygenit]

His GF deserves a ring that he picked out *JUST* for her.