tinkerbellevi
Rough_Rock
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For the sake of my sanity, I thought it would be a good idea to search the internet for people in a similar situation so I can feel better about all this because currently, it is driving me crazy.
I have three best friends, two girls and a guy (who is the fiancé of one of the girls). I moved countries in February to be with my bf and one week after I left the couple best friends got engaged. In the meantime, another set of friends got engaged three weeks before that. And since another set of our friends and another with an actual wedding and baby.
Now.....I did a terrible thing last night. I have been with my bf for a year and I fully realise this is not a long time, but I also personally think that when "you know, you just know". My bf first brought up marriage after about a month and a half. After two months he stopped me in front of a jeweler shop to tell him which style of ring I like. It went on like that for a bit. Great....so after 7 months we moved in together, and I moved countries in doing so. It hasn't exactly been easy.....
I was ready to get married months ago so basically I have just been waiting. I would occasionally say little things that would get him wound up about it because he "wants to do it right", is what he keeps saying. And that me asking him about it just puts him off doing it. So I stopped, for a good two months. I finally asked him about it again on Monday (now 8 months since window shopping for rings) which didn't go over well originally, but he did confirm the next day that he absolutely wanted to be engaged to me, but he wanted to wait until we had enough money to do it properly. Yes the move has caused some problems financially, but a 1000 GBP rings is definitely fine for me and he knows it.
So last night, my other best friend got engaged after a year and a half. I didn't say anything because it's a touchy subject but he kept pushing me to talk about it and tell him how I feel. So I did....and now he feels pressured, and doesn't understand the urgency....and I have now become "that girl". Disaster!
I have tried explaining that had he not been so adamant about us getting married originally, I would not be like this, but he doesn't get it. I am not really sure how to feel better about this. Because it was such a subject months back, that is what convinced my guy best friend to propose to his gf. And the ones who got engaged last night...hadn't really discussed the subject because technically she is not yet divorced from her ex. Just frustrating....I need to get my head on straight again. So no bride to be, but twice walking down the aisle now as Maid of Honour.
Apologies for the rant.
I have three best friends, two girls and a guy (who is the fiancé of one of the girls). I moved countries in February to be with my bf and one week after I left the couple best friends got engaged. In the meantime, another set of friends got engaged three weeks before that. And since another set of our friends and another with an actual wedding and baby.
Now.....I did a terrible thing last night. I have been with my bf for a year and I fully realise this is not a long time, but I also personally think that when "you know, you just know". My bf first brought up marriage after about a month and a half. After two months he stopped me in front of a jeweler shop to tell him which style of ring I like. It went on like that for a bit. Great....so after 7 months we moved in together, and I moved countries in doing so. It hasn't exactly been easy.....
I was ready to get married months ago so basically I have just been waiting. I would occasionally say little things that would get him wound up about it because he "wants to do it right", is what he keeps saying. And that me asking him about it just puts him off doing it. So I stopped, for a good two months. I finally asked him about it again on Monday (now 8 months since window shopping for rings) which didn't go over well originally, but he did confirm the next day that he absolutely wanted to be engaged to me, but he wanted to wait until we had enough money to do it properly. Yes the move has caused some problems financially, but a 1000 GBP rings is definitely fine for me and he knows it.
So last night, my other best friend got engaged after a year and a half. I didn't say anything because it's a touchy subject but he kept pushing me to talk about it and tell him how I feel. So I did....and now he feels pressured, and doesn't understand the urgency....and I have now become "that girl". Disaster!
I have tried explaining that had he not been so adamant about us getting married originally, I would not be like this, but he doesn't get it. I am not really sure how to feel better about this. Because it was such a subject months back, that is what convinced my guy best friend to propose to his gf. And the ones who got engaged last night...hadn't really discussed the subject because technically she is not yet divorced from her ex. Just frustrating....I need to get my head on straight again. So no bride to be, but twice walking down the aisle now as Maid of Honour.
Apologies for the rant.