misskitty
Brilliant_Rock
- Joined
- Aug 20, 2008
- Messages
- 1,691
Hi ladies! A friend of mine came to me for relationship/communication advice and I'm not sure what to tell him. It's sort of LIW-related, so I thought I'd ask here.
My friend has been dating his girlfriend for almost a year. He's at the point where he wants to have some serious (future-oriented) talks with her, but the last time he tried to initiate a conversation about the future, she took it completely wrong and thought he was trying to dump her, and he basically just said "never mind" and tabled the discussion. I wasn't there, so I don't know a whole lot about how he approached it, but it's making me think.
How do you and your SO ease into serious talks without it being stressful? I mean, the words "We need to have a talk" are pretty ominous sometimes.
Also, any good responses for the total misfire? I honestly have no idea what I would want to hear if I were frantic and saying "Are you breaking up with me?" because I'm pretty sure I'd be panicky and not believe him if he said no.
My friend has been dating his girlfriend for almost a year. He's at the point where he wants to have some serious (future-oriented) talks with her, but the last time he tried to initiate a conversation about the future, she took it completely wrong and thought he was trying to dump her, and he basically just said "never mind" and tabled the discussion. I wasn't there, so I don't know a whole lot about how he approached it, but it's making me think.
How do you and your SO ease into serious talks without it being stressful? I mean, the words "We need to have a talk" are pretty ominous sometimes.
Also, any good responses for the total misfire? I honestly have no idea what I would want to hear if I were frantic and saying "Are you breaking up with me?" because I'm pretty sure I'd be panicky and not believe him if he said no.