How to EFFECTIVELY drop hints about what you want.

[PawnShopHustler]

(since I can't pick out my own ring!

)

Yes, I haven't posted in a loooooooooooooooooooog time. I crashed and burned during the great reccession.

So just like the subject says, what are some good ways in dropping hints?
Do I like, put a DBL screensaver on his labtop or something.
I don't even know what I want. I'm in fear that I'll express what I want (a sapphire) and he goes and gets me a generic ring from Kay's or Zales.

 

[rierie26]

If you want a sapphire rather than a diamond, you could just mention how much more you like sapphires than diamonds, make a big deal every time you see sapphire rings, could bring up famous people who have/had sapphire engagement rings (Penelope Cruz and Princess Di come to mind) and gush over how wonderful their rings are/were.

OR you could wait until he's sitting on the couch watching a game or otherwise engrossed, sit on his lap all lovingly...and then hold up a picture of the ring you want in his face to block the tv....not that I've done that...

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 3/5/2010 8:13:16 PM
Author: Kitcha
If you want a sapphire rather than a diamond, you could just mention how much more you like sapphires than diamonds, make a big deal every time you see sapphire rings, could bring up famous people who have/had sapphire engagement rings (Penelope Cruz and Princess Di come to mind) and gush over how wonderful their rings are/were.

OR you could wait until he''s sitting on the couch watching a game or otherwise engrossed, sit on his lap all lovingly...and then hold up a picture of the ring you want in his face to block the tv....not that I''ve done that...

i''ve done that too!
There is no way to drop hints. and (i am about to sound like Fi here..

) it would not serve you well to think that they (men) would catch on to the hint. Leaving a magazine open to a specific page? he''ll close it up and put it away. The only way to leave "hints" is to outright tell him "Honey, i would much rather prefer a sapphire over a diamond", or "I really love the way princess cuts look", etc.
Other than that, start looking at ideas, create a folder with the C''s that you prefer (Cut, Color, etc..) and make sure each style is spelled out for him. I learned the hard way that i cannot drop hints and expect things to happen - oy!

 

[HopeDream]

1) Figure out what you want

2) Send him an email detailing what you hope for with links and pictures.

 

[jewelz617]

Is there a reason you can''t choose your own ring? Does he want it to be a surprise?

I used to leave the ring I wanted as a screen saver on the computer.

 

[Indylady]

How about an easy going chat? That way, you''ll know if he already has something in mind before you start hinting. I know my sig-O prefers round diamond solitares if its going to be a diamond; if its going to be a colored stone (I''d love a ruby e-ring!), then its a matter of working with what we find (the perfect color and the perfect cut don''t always intersect easily in the CS department).

 

[Gypsy]

I''d just send an email with some pics of rings you like. Sapphire specs (Natural or treated, shape and size (mm size) preferences as well as colors you like, and don''t like). And a link list of vendors and a link to PS. Why not?

Here''s what I like honey.

 

[honey22]

Date: 3/5/2010 9:12:59 PM
Author: HopeDream
1) Figure out what you want


2) Send him an email detailing what you hope for with links and pictures.

Ditto!

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

i wrote a list of all the things i wanted in my diamond and gave it to him. He went to the jewellers and found it!

 

[lilyfoot]

Definitely either email him your preferences, or write them out. Diagrams work well too, lol! What you have to remember is that men are visual creatures

 

[winelover23]

Two words:

WISH LIST

I got on-line to a few of my preferred vendors and created wishlists then put the log-on info on a large sticky on the fridge. I''m a little blunt but it worked out really well for me

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 3/8/2010 12:34:30 PM
Author: winelover23
Two words:

WISH LIST

I got on-line to a few of my preferred vendors and created wishlists then put the log-on info on a large sticky on the fridge. I''m a little blunt but it worked out really well for me

Wish List.

I set up the wish lists. All with the same user name & password. To be sure he got the hint, I e-mailed a list of links to each wishlist.

 

[RaiKai]

I don''t like idea of "dropping hints". I would probably approach him and say that you respect he wants to surprise you with the ring, however, it is also important to you that it is something that you will love to wear and that you would like to discuss what styles you prefer and what you do not like.

I have a hard time understanding the "total surprise" approach as rings are so personal. While there are many lovely e-rings out there, most are certainly not my style at all and as much as they would be "from the heart" I would not enjoy wearing them! I mean halo''s look wonderful on some women...but they are NOT me.

It was important to my husband and I both that when we selected our wedding rings we took the time to look together (I did not get an e-ring by choice at time, and now that we are actually married we are also searching for the right e-ring for me too). I do not wear a lot of jewelry, and am quite a low-maintenance woman, however, I am incredibly picky about what I DO want to wear especially something I am wearing everyday. My husband has great taste, undoubtedly, however he also finds it important for me to participate in the decisions too.

Maybe he is planning though on proposing with a rather plain solitaire and you can choose a new setting together after?

P.S. I am a sapphire kind of woman myself and both my husband and I have sapphire/diamond wedding bands and my new e-ring/set will have a sapphire too! I definitely would NOT want a generic sapphire from a maul jeweler as they tend to be dark and not well cut. I would rather have an affordable lovely created sapphire that is well cut then an overpriced (but genuine) maul one!

 

[pinki]

I''d just tell him, and show pics. If you''re going to be getting married, you shouldn''t have to tip toe around what you want.

 

[caribqueen]

Date: 3/7/2010 2:32:33 AM
Author: honey22

Date: 3/5/2010 9:12:59 PM
Author: HopeDream
1) Figure out what you want


2) Send him an email detailing what you hope for with links and pictures.

Ditto!

Yup! My FI flat out told me long ago that hints didn''t work for him in general. So anything I want, I flat out tell him.

 

[ts44]

Date: 3/8/2010 9:19:18 AM
Author: lilyfoot
Definitely either email him your preferences, or write them out. Diagrams work well too, lol! What you have to remember is that men are visual creatures

So true..

We got my ring from Pearlman''s and my fiance was emailing Bill, and Bill asked him to describe what he wanted the band to look like since we did a custom one. Instead of saying "2-mm comfort-fit" or even "half-rounded and thin", my fiance drew an ASCII picture of what he wanted the band to look like.

And Bill rendered it perfectly from that!

I say just tell him. It''s not too much to say to your man you would die for a sapphire e-ring even if he wants the ring to be a secret. Ok, you know it''ll be a sapphire, but you have no idea how he''ll set it, or when you''ll get it, or how, etc etc etc.

 

[KittyGolightly]

Date: 3/7/2010 2:29:12 AM
Author: Gypsy
I''d just send an email with some pics of rings you like. Sapphire specs (Natural or treated, shape and size (mm size) preferences as well as colors you like, and don''t like). And a link list of vendors and a link to PS. Why not?

Here''s what I like honey.

That''s essentially what I did.

 

[Cinna]

Depends on your guy''s ability to take hints. I had a friend who just got engaged who had been sending ring pictures to her boyfriend all with channel bands.. and he got her a rb in a plain solitaire band. Not saying it isn''t beautiful but she really wanted a channel setting and still doesn''t understand how he didn''t pick up on the fact there was a channel setting in every example picture she sent to him. He said "oh, I didn''t know it was something you really wanted"

 

[Mrs.SE]

My man wanted the whole traditional he picked the ring. I''m a modern woman and not afraid to tell him how I feel. I said if I''m wearing it forever I want a "say" in it. We went to "maul" stores and found we both had complete opposite ideas of what we liked. He still wanted the manly tradition of choosing the ring, I still wanted a say. So we looked online together to see if there was anything we could agree on, we found one we both hit on. We went custom route - I emailed him the pics he asked for - and I emailed the important elements I needed changed about it. IE - low setting, smooth bezel. Things I knew I wouldn''t like if they weren''t just so, but also the elements he didn''t care about. It''s your onlyyyyyy chance. I know I am the odd woman out, but I think my FF would have me in a over a ct. D IF - I''m not like that. I like smaller, warmer colored diamonds. I pretty much said I don''t want to upgrade or get new sets for anniversaries or what not at later times or re-sets. What he puts on my finger is staying there. When he heard "upgrades" and new sets - he started to listen to what I really wanted. Don''t let this pass - you will find he may have complete opposite tastes. I''d email him pics & only the elements you absolutely can''t live without and then leave the rest up to him to choose that way you both are a part in it and you know you''ll love what you get.