After reading Starset''s post, I thought that I might share my own creeper story and seek some advice on how to deal with this guy who I met.
About a month or two ago I met a guy at a bar. I wasn''t really interested in him, he said he was 36, but looked much older and seemed kind of weird. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. I just got out of a long relationship that ended pretty badly and am just getting back into the dating game, so I''m not exactly going to throw a fish back before I take a good look at it.
So, he texts me and asks me out for the following Saturday night. I told him that I wasn''t sure because I might have plans, so he responds with "Well, if Saturday doesn''t work for you, how about one of the following days next week - Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday". I was like "whoa mister, calm down". Saturday approached and the number one guy I''m dating was out of town, and I had plans with friends for later in the evening, so I agreed to meet him for dinner at 7 PM. I knew that I shouldn''t have gone, especially when he offered to pick me up and I said no because I didn''t want him to know where I lived, nor did I want to ride in the car with him.
During our dinner, he told me that he had been married. Then he threw in that he had a domestic violence charge against him because he threw a bottle of wine at his wife when they were married. Then he laughed about it.
. I couldn''t have gotten out of there fast enough. Then he kept asking me out but I kept coming up with lame excuses, hoping that he would get the hint. Besides the wine bottle thing, he also says old man things like "winner winner, chicken dinner", spelled waist instead of waste, uses the wrong your. I didn''t know that it was possible for all of my pet peeves to be embodied by one man, but he is just that. He is the anti-one.
So I work at a bar a few nights a week, and last week he showed up there randomly. I ignored him and hid and he left me some psycho text messages. I told him that I only have four nights off a week, and a lot of friends and that I just got out of a relationship and wasn''t really looking to date anyone. So the next morning he left some ten minute long meandering voicemail apologizing for the night before saying that he had eaten a bunch of adderall and gotten really drunk (how attractive), and that I didn''t give him enough of a chance when we went out to dinner and that he didn''t want to marry me but he just thought that I was really hot and wants to go out with me again. Then he told me that he has a daughter, oh yeah and that he had been involved in a hit and run in the parking lot the night before, but that it wasn''t his fault because the other car was black and it was dark and it didn''t do much damage so he just took off.
I didn''t respond. This was Wednesday. Last night he sent me three texts saying some crazy crap about how I''m so gangster, and he wants a chicken dinner. Then one saying "I''m really drunk". So obviously he isn''t going to take my silence as a sign that I''m not interested so I really don''t know the best way to handle it. He has shown himself to be completely batsh*t crazy so I''m frankly a bit frightened. I''ve thought about maybe telling him that I am pregnant or that I got back together with my ex or something the next time he bothers me. Is that best, or should I just keep ignoring him? It''s like I went on a date with Emilio Estevez''s character in St. Elmo''s Fire.
About a month or two ago I met a guy at a bar. I wasn''t really interested in him, he said he was 36, but looked much older and seemed kind of weird. He asked for my number and I gave it to him. I just got out of a long relationship that ended pretty badly and am just getting back into the dating game, so I''m not exactly going to throw a fish back before I take a good look at it.
So, he texts me and asks me out for the following Saturday night. I told him that I wasn''t sure because I might have plans, so he responds with "Well, if Saturday doesn''t work for you, how about one of the following days next week - Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday". I was like "whoa mister, calm down". Saturday approached and the number one guy I''m dating was out of town, and I had plans with friends for later in the evening, so I agreed to meet him for dinner at 7 PM. I knew that I shouldn''t have gone, especially when he offered to pick me up and I said no because I didn''t want him to know where I lived, nor did I want to ride in the car with him.
During our dinner, he told me that he had been married. Then he threw in that he had a domestic violence charge against him because he threw a bottle of wine at his wife when they were married. Then he laughed about it.
So I work at a bar a few nights a week, and last week he showed up there randomly. I ignored him and hid and he left me some psycho text messages. I told him that I only have four nights off a week, and a lot of friends and that I just got out of a relationship and wasn''t really looking to date anyone. So the next morning he left some ten minute long meandering voicemail apologizing for the night before saying that he had eaten a bunch of adderall and gotten really drunk (how attractive), and that I didn''t give him enough of a chance when we went out to dinner and that he didn''t want to marry me but he just thought that I was really hot and wants to go out with me again. Then he told me that he has a daughter, oh yeah and that he had been involved in a hit and run in the parking lot the night before, but that it wasn''t his fault because the other car was black and it was dark and it didn''t do much damage so he just took off.
I didn''t respond. This was Wednesday. Last night he sent me three texts saying some crazy crap about how I''m so gangster, and he wants a chicken dinner. Then one saying "I''m really drunk". So obviously he isn''t going to take my silence as a sign that I''m not interested so I really don''t know the best way to handle it. He has shown himself to be completely batsh*t crazy so I''m frankly a bit frightened. I''ve thought about maybe telling him that I am pregnant or that I got back together with my ex or something the next time he bothers me. Is that best, or should I just keep ignoring him? It''s like I went on a date with Emilio Estevez''s character in St. Elmo''s Fire.
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