lilmissrugger
Shiny_Rock
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So my best friend is a wonderful, fun, terrifically hilarious woman, and I love her to pieces. She''s met my FF and they get along well, but she''s always had a problem with me dating men. Not that she doesn''t like the individual person, but unless she''s in a relationship, she''s very cynical about them, and she isn''t sure if she''ll ever get married. That''s fine if that''s what she wants, I totally respect her for that- she wants to make sure she accomplishes what she wants to before doing anything to her life that involves anyone else in a big way.
I''m 90% sure the FF is going to propose the 4th of July, and I definitely want to have her as a bridesmaid (she would be my MOH if I didn''t have a sister). I''m sure she''ll warm up with time to the idea of me getting married (with a few jabs here and there) but I''m not looking forward to the initial calling/texting "Hey! I''M ENGAGED!" thing.
It''s tough because I am one of two of her close female friends, and she and I lived together for 3 years. She grew up in a house where her parents got a divorce, and she''s had to witness her mom''s failed dating/relationship attempts, and her sister also is EXTREMELY cynical. So she hasn''t grown up in the most healthy "this is how relationships are!" environment. I know that part of it is jealousy, and part of it is her being worried I''m making a mistake (not for my choice, but just by choosing marriage- she would rather no one get married before the age of 30), and another part is a fear of loosing me as a friend. I have done everything possible to assure her and show her that I will be there for her, and not as just a ''married unit''- unless she specifically invites "us" out, I go and hang out with her by myself, so she doesn''t feel like I''m always dragging along the FF.
SO...
How will I be able to let my best friend know that I''m married without letting her attitude bring me down?
I will want to tell her the day it happens, and beyond my family have her be the first person I tell, but I don''t want to kill my "OMGENGAGED" buzz...
What should I do?
I''m 90% sure the FF is going to propose the 4th of July, and I definitely want to have her as a bridesmaid (she would be my MOH if I didn''t have a sister). I''m sure she''ll warm up with time to the idea of me getting married (with a few jabs here and there) but I''m not looking forward to the initial calling/texting "Hey! I''M ENGAGED!" thing.
It''s tough because I am one of two of her close female friends, and she and I lived together for 3 years. She grew up in a house where her parents got a divorce, and she''s had to witness her mom''s failed dating/relationship attempts, and her sister also is EXTREMELY cynical. So she hasn''t grown up in the most healthy "this is how relationships are!" environment. I know that part of it is jealousy, and part of it is her being worried I''m making a mistake (not for my choice, but just by choosing marriage- she would rather no one get married before the age of 30), and another part is a fear of loosing me as a friend. I have done everything possible to assure her and show her that I will be there for her, and not as just a ''married unit''- unless she specifically invites "us" out, I go and hang out with her by myself, so she doesn''t feel like I''m always dragging along the FF.
SO...
How will I be able to let my best friend know that I''m married without letting her attitude bring me down?
I will want to tell her the day it happens, and beyond my family have her be the first person I tell, but I don''t want to kill my "OMGENGAGED" buzz...
What should I do?