How to ask GFs father?

[bosox86]

Posted this on proposal ideas and will post it here too.

I have been goin over and over in my head of what i want to say and how to say it to my gfs father. I just cant put the words together. All i know to tell him is that i really love his daughter and promise to take care of her and appreciate her for the rest of my life. i just dont know how to say it to him or how to bring it up.

me and him get along really well and i know he would say it was ok, and i know they expect "the question" any time now. as me and gf been together nearly 6 years.

Can anyone give me some words of advice as to how to bring it up in coversation, or how exactly to say what i need to say to him.

Also i am wanting to talk to her mother too, should i do it at the same time, or one before the other?

Any suggestions.

Thanks.

 

[stone_seeker]

Date: 8/18/2008 10:39:23 AM
Author:bosox86

Posted this on proposal ideas and will post it here too.

I have been goin over and over in my head of what i want to say and how to say it to my gfs father. I just cant put the words together. All i know to tell him is that i really love his daughter and promise to take care of her and appreciate her for the rest of my life. i just dont know how to say it to him or how to bring it up.

me and him get along really well and i know he would say it was ok, and i know they expect ''the question'' any time now. as me and gf been together nearly 6 years.

Can anyone give me some words of advice as to how to bring it up in coversation, or how exactly to say what i need to say to him.

Also i am wanting to talk to her mother too, should i do it at the same time, or one before the other?

Any suggestions.

Thanks.

I think you have the words and they will know that they are sincere. As for timing, will it be face to face and I assume your gf wont be in the house/room? I would definitely ask both parents at the same time. If you are at their home just politely ask if you could have a quick moment with them. If already in cnoversation just be like, "the reason I wanted to see you guys..."

They will be so excited and happy so how you start off wont matter.

 

[Kelli]

You could take them out to lunch/dinner. They will probably figure out what''s going on when you ask them, especially if you ask them not to mention it to your gf. When you get there, all you have to do is explain WHY you wanted to take them out. This way they''re both involved, and they should really appreciate the gesture. And you already know WHAT to say. The words you''ve been thinking of are perfect.

 

[HariSeldon]

Date: 8/18/2008 10:39:23 AM
Author:bosox86

Posted this on proposal ideas and will post it here too.

I have been goin over and over in my head of what i want to say and how to say it to my gfs father. I just cant put the words together. All i know to tell him is that i really love his daughter and promise to take care of her and appreciate her for the rest of my life. i just dont know how to say it to him or how to bring it up.

me and him get along really well and i know he would say it was ok, and i know they expect ''the question'' any time now. as me and gf been together nearly 6 years.

Can anyone give me some words of advice as to how to bring it up in coversation, or how exactly to say what i need to say to him.

Also i am wanting to talk to her mother too, should i do it at the same time, or one before the other?

Any suggestions.

Thanks.

Hey bosox86,

I''m actually about to ask my FF''s father so I''ve been thinking about it a lot too. I''m planning on asking him to meet me for a cup of coffee near his office (he''s a doctor at a hospital so i''m trying to make it as convient as possible) to talk to him about his daughter. I want it to be fairly obvious about what we are going to talk about. After all, I want to surprise her, not necissarily her father lol. That way he''ll know what to expect heading into the meeting. To me that makes "bringing it up" a lot easier. I also want to talk to her mother but was planning on doing that after I talk to her dad.

Good luck!

 

[bosox86]

thanks, ive been really nervous for really no reason at all, like i said they know its coming and she knows its coming soon too. i just get this way sometimes, i think that both at the same time is the way i will go. that way one does not feel left out.

 

[oshinbreez]

When my son asked his now wife''s parents, they knew why he wanted to talk to them. They love my son as their own, and knew they were good together and make each other happy. BUT, it didn''t keep her father from "playing" with my son some. All a parent really wants for their kids is to find a spouse that will love, respect, and support (not just financially) their child.

Good Luck with the proposal.

 

[sparxs111]

Nowadays I would suggest asking both parents to so respect to each, due to them BOTH being important. As for asking permission, could I maybe suggest using the word blessing as you are being polite and considerate, but if they said no, wouldn't you still ask?? As for location, do the coffee thing or stop by at their home. Don't want anything to long and drawn out... but thats situational. I actually had her mom as an insider to organize a get together so I could get her dad in a situation when he WOULDN't see it coming. She felt honored to play cloak and dagger (and be the first to know...hehe)

Short sweet to the point. GUys I brought you here due to wanting to share and be a part of something really special in my life. You know how I feel for your daughter, and I'd like to ask for your blessing to ask ..... to marry me.


GOOD LUCK!!!!!

 

[bosox86]

really good advice thanks

 

[Kelli]

Scratch my idea! Coffee or a short visit is much better than a full-blown lunch or dinner! Good thinkin