how many times a day do you talk w/DH

[janinegirly]

how many times a day do you and SO check in with each other while at work? this includes, calls/emails/texts

 

[TravelingGal]

I only email him if I need to tell him something...and that''s not too often. Work is work, and I like to let him focus on that. It was funny...we went to a company dinner where all his IT associates were there with their wives, and the number one complaint the men had was that the wives called them too much at work when they are so busy!

He always calls on the way home, and then when he gets home we have a bit of catch up time before dinner and talk about our day, which I really enjoy.

 

[musey]

When we're both working at the same time, we text back and forth. Nothing of substance, just "hey this funny thing just happened..." type of thing.

When I'm at home while he's at work, I leave an AIM window open (he's the only one who knows my screen name, so I don't get harassed by other friends!

). So we leave messages for each other that way, but it's rarely an actual "conversation."

I only call him in emergency situations.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I was asking several of my friends about this the other day--they generally said they only checked in once a day. DH and I used to IM pretty much throughout the day, but we''re both really busy and we can''t anymore. Now we call each other maybe 3x a day--we work a block away from one another, so we catch lunch together as often as possible. We also tend to leave the house at the same time in the morning, so we commute in together, though we alternate who gets to work late at night--one of us has to go home for the pup''s sake. I think we tend to talk with each other throughout the day because we don''t get much time to relax at night.

 

[Erin]

Date: 12/11/2007 5:29:29 PM
Author: musey
When we''re both working at the same time, we text back and forth. Nothing of substance, just ''hey this funny thing just happened...'' type of thing.

I only call him in emergency situations.

Same here. Well but, we work in the same office. In fact, he''s on the road so I just texted him "Do you want to change your 401K? Deadline Friday."

His last text was "It''s 75 and sunny, beautiful...I do have to work some here"


Nothing of significance but the random messages make me smile

 

[pennquaker09]

It kind of depends on the week and the day within the week because when he works as an attending, he does so overnight and that kind of screws us up. But if it''s a normal week and he''s going in at 6 and coming back home at 6, we might talk 2 or 3 times a day. And when I have to go on campus, I''ll head over to CHOP and we get lunch sometimes. We don''t actually have conversations. we email or text each other. I don''t really have much use for a Blackberry anymore so I guess we''ll have to see how it changes.

 

[DiamanteBlu]

Jeez - we both run our businesses out of the house. Sometimes I can't wait for him to go out so I can have some peace [and control of the phone]! LOL!

 

[sumbride]

A lot! We both have desk jobs that we''re bored in, so he emails me all day long... articles he finds that he thinks I''ll enjoy, little things that happened, updates on neighborhood issues we''re both working on, etc... I do likewise, but I think he emails me more than I do him. It drops off when we''re busy. He also calls me a few times a day. I don''t call him unless it is an emergency because it is a long distance call and I work for a nonprofit (and thus our budget is tracked CLOSELY). By the end of the day we are pretty well caught up and we can just be when we get home. It''s better that way because we both tend to get pretty wound up with stuff to tell each other and it was exhausting when we were dating and hadn''t seen each other for a few days... he would literally explode with conversation!

Sometimes it''s exhausting, especially when I''m busy and he''s not, but really, it usually makes me smile to know how many times a day he''s thinking of me. They are not long emails or phone calls, usually a sentence or two, or a minute on the phone.

 

[zoebartlett]

We check in with each other a couple times each day. I call my FI on my way home from work and a few hours later, he calls me on his way home. We e-mail occasionally but not too often.

 

[bee*]

D always calls/texts me when he gets into work in the morning. Then sometime around lunch time he''ll give me a call and then when he gets home. I usually have gmail open so he''ll send me a message on gmail chat if he sees me on it and vice versa.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

We talk to each other throughout the day. Dh works from home and I''m a SAHM, so we''re constantly having something to say.

We really need a break from each other, BIG TIME, so I''ll be getting that this coming weekend.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

My FI works from home and we are on very different schedules. I send him an email about my day on my early lunch break and he sends me one back on his. It works well especially since neither of us like IMing or texting. My parents talk on the phone atleast twice a day and they have been married for over 23 years.

 

[Haven]

I can''t contact the "outside world" from work because I''m in front of a classroom of teenagers all day, but we talk several times a day after that last bell rings. During the summers when I don''t work at all (BLISS!) we talk throughout the entire day. FI doesn''t have a desk job so he has a lot of breaks between treating clients, and he calls me constantly when he''s between clients. I like hearing from him, and I miss him by the end of the school day.

 

[SarFarSuperstar]

I voted once or twice- it''s usually only right before we head home, but if there is something going on during the day or I''m bored on my lunch break I''ll call him. His job is a lot busier than mine so he can''t always talk- which is totally fine. If I know he''s busy or stressed, I generally won''t call him and just try to sit down for dinner with him so we can catch up.

 

[KimberlyH]

When I worked a desk job we communicated several times a day via email and telephone, but that was before we lived together (and for about 9 months of that time we lived 500 miles apart). Now, I substitute teach and I call him on a break if I need to tell him something important, which only occurs once a month or so, otherwise we don''t talk until I get home. He works from home and I am usally only gone from 7-3, or some variation of those times within a half hour. When I get home, we talk about our days for a bit then I hole up in my office and work on school for a while, and we usually don''t talk much while I''m here. When it''s time to start winding down we''ll go for a walk, or sit and chat for a bit about our days before dinner. It''s my favorite time of day.

 

[blushingbride]

Date: 12/13/2007 8:55:24 AM
Author: SarFarSuperstar
I voted once or twice- it''s usually only right before we head home, but if there is something going on during the day or I''m bored on my lunch break I''ll call him. His job is a lot busier than mine so he can''t always talk- which is totally fine. If I know he''s busy or stressed, I generally won''t call him and just try to sit down for dinner with him so we can catch up.

This is pretty much our situation too. It''s usually once or twice a day over the phone and maybe one or two email. My DH''s job is super busy/stressful too and can''t always talk so, I usually wait for him to contact me which is normally at the end of the day before leaving work. My job is more relaxed and I can chat whenever I want.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

He leaves to work before I do, so he calls when he gets there, so I know he made it there safely. I like that. Then, at the end of the day, we talk on the way home from work, usually just to touch base about what time it''s looking like either or both of us will be home, if later than the average.

When he''s off work for the summer, he calls a few times a day, or I call him, mostly just to be silly or because something funny with both think we''ll forget before we''re together again at home.