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[split_shank]

How long did you wait to tell people you are pregnant? We are trying to wait for some time until I am further along but man is it hard!!!! I''d ideally like to wait until our first appointment, but it isn''t until the beginning of May!!! I feel like I need to tell my mom. She can read me like a book anyways, she''ll know somethings up, and if something were to happen, I''d sure like her to be there for us. But anyhoo... how long could you last? and who did you tell before others???

 

[D&T]

Since we live in a different state than my family, it wasn''t hard to keep the secret. I chose to tell them after three months just to be sure everything went ok. Same with my second DD. My sister is going through it right now but she lives 10 minutes from our parents and she''s going to tell my parents any day now - she is 11 weeks now and showing a baby bump (this is her 3rd child)- my mom is asking me if she''s pregnant already

I pretended I didn''t here her question and started talking about my DDs

 

[snlee]

Congrats!

There are a few threads about this topic you may want to look at - -another one.

With my first pregnancy, we told our parents, siblings, family, and close friends early, around 5-8 weeks. I waited until after the first trimester, 13 weeks, to tell everyone else.

With this pregnancy, we told my parents and sibling at 5 weeks, DH's parents and sibling at 7 weeks, close family at 10 weeks, and everyone else we'll tell at around 12/13 weeks.

 

[NovemberBride]

The best advice I received is to tell those who you would want to be there for you if something went wrong. I waited until after my first appt where we saw a heartbeat to tell family and friends (I was 8 weeks). I am a pretty private person and wouldn''t have wanted to tell everyone if I had suffered a miscarriage. I would have waited until 12 weeks, but my dr. told us that once you see a heartbeat the risk of miscarriage is the same as at 12 weeks.

 

[split_shank]

Date: 3/26/2010 3:11:41 PM
Author: snlee
Congrats!

There are a few threads about this topic you may want to look at - -another one.

With my first pregnancy, we told our parents, siblings, family, and close friends early, around 5-8 weeks. I waited until after the first trimester, 13 weeks, to tell everyone else.

With this pregnancy, we told my parents and sibling at 5 weeks, DH''s parents and sibling at 7 weeks, close family at 10 weeks, and everyone else we''ll tell at around 12/13 weeks.

Ah!!! Thanks! I guess I didn''t even think to do a search! Goes to show how well my mind is already off track.

I think I need to tell the parents soon. I can barely make it through a phone call without spilling it! My mom and dad will be thrilled, it will be grandchild #4 for them, so its old hat but new for us so they will be excited. DH''s dad will react wonderfully too, it will be exciting to see his reaction. MIL, who knows what kind of reaction you get from her. Its always a crapshoot with her

I swear if its anything negative like "well, do you think you can really afford a baby'' or something of the sort, I am totally walking away. And I will make sure she notices

heehee

 

[Shoopy]

Congrats on your pregnancy

I tested in the evening of October 31 and again in the morning of November 1. I told my mom that same morning.

We waited until blood test results to tell FI''s parents which was Nov 6 and told my team on Nov 7. Telling my team was sort of an accident. One of my coworkers overheard me talking to my OB and asked if everything was ok. Rude but I answered that I just found out I was pregnant and long story short, by the end of the day the team knew.

We didn''t come out to everyone else until I was 13 weeks.

So I told the important people immediately (excluding the oops with the coworkers).

 

[Pandora II]

I can''t keep my own secrets so I didn''t bother trying.

I got the BFP for definite at 12 DPO and within an hour I had told DH, my SIL, my OB friend, my parents.

By the time I was 5 weeks I''d told most of our friends and relatives.

Told work at 7 weeks and was totally open about it to everyone.

Posted the scan photo on FB at 8 weeks - I had some bleeding so got an early scan, saw a strong heart-beat and the doctors seemed to think everything was as good as could be.

I would have not had a problem with people knowing if I had had a miscarriage. I think it would be a good thing if more people were open about just how common it is.

 

[MustangGal]

Everyone (including my co-workers) knew we were trying, so we told them all the day after I tested positive.

Congrats!

 

[PumpkinPie]

Congratulations! I''ve never been pregnant, but my (future) goal is to try to wait until the second trimester I''m prety good at keeping secrets so I might succeed

 

[jewelz617]

I waited 3 months. But obviously told my husband

 

[ChargerGrrl]

DH and I are very private- we waited until after the 1st trimester to totally "come out" which during the holidays, so a great time to share news! But we told our super-close friends (and my mom) at 8 weeks and his parents at 10 weeks when we were visiting for Thanksgiving.

 

[waxing lyrical]

I told my mom the day I tested positive with all of my babies (between 9-12 dpo). Others found out by 5 weeks or so (except with dd1, my mom waited until I was 8 weeks to tell family.)

 

[Sha]

I told my good friend the same week I found out, but my mother and everyone else at 11 weeks, which coincided with Mother''s Day. It was really hard to keep it a secret, especially since Mommy kept asking me if ''anything had happened yet", but the surprise was worth the wait. She said it was the best Mother''s Day she ever had!

 

[taovandel]

Ha, we told everyone within two days of finding out at around 4-5 weeks pregnant.

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

With my first, I told everyone almost as soon as I found out I was pregnant. When I got pregnant again, I told everyone immediately again...and had a miscarriage. I learned then and there that I was more comfortable telling only a select few until 12 weeks. I had a second miscarriage after my older daughter and was really glad that only a few people knew I was pregnant. I hadn''t even told my mom, and I missed my oldest''s birthday party at her house due to the m/c. She was extremely ticked at me for that and had no clue what was going on; she still doesn''t know to this day. After that, I was convinced that waiting til 12 weeks was the very best option for me.

With Ben, though, we had to tell SO''s parents when I was about 8 weeks or so because it was obvious that I was bloated and I knew his mom would start asking questions. I didn''t tell my mom for another 4 weeks, though, which was easy because she lives 4 hours away.

 

[Rachel9]

Oh sorry to hear Rock

We didn't tell anyone because I had on/off light spotting. I finally told my mom around 11 weeks but she already knew......()()