How long after receiving your e-ring....

[joelly]

do you start thinking of an upgrade? Do you ever thinking of upgrading even before you receiving your e-ring? Would you ladies mind sharing? I am just curious.

 

[vespergirl]

For me, it was very quickly (about two weeks afterwards), because we had gotten my ring in a hurry before I found PS. I had a 1.64 ct asscher, but everyone I showed it to thought the stone was less than a carat. Then I did research and found PS, and realized that since my stone had 75% depth, it faced up very small for it''s carat size. I ended up swapping it for another asscher a few months later, but I eventually ended up swapping it for an RB because I wanted the stone to face up big for it''s carat size.

However, I was lucky, because our vendor has a 100% value trade-up policy, so I only had to pay a little extra money for my upgrades. Ay first my DH was hurt that I wanted to upgrade the stone, but after someone mentioned how small it looked in front of him, he was fine with it. He spent a lot of money on it, and it bothered him more that people thought that it was not as nice as it actually was because it was cut so deep.

 

[luv2sparkle]

I got my first upgrade after about 5 years of marriage. I hated my first ring, long story, but I picked it cuz it was cheap. I kept the second ring until my 28th
anniversary. I have had it exactly 1 year and I am upgrading for the final time. 1st.-ring 1/4 carat, 2nd-.75 pts. 3rd- 1.7 ct. 4th and last- 2.57 cts. all round
brilliants. I really didnt think of the second ring as an upgrade at the time, just to get rid of the ring I truly hated. We were 20 years old when we married
and pretty clueless (at least DH was!), and had no money. Now, 29 years, five kids and slightly more money (but not much), I hope this will be the ring of my
dreams!

 

[joelly]

This is so cool! Thank you thank you for your response.

More please!!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

After 9 years I thought about upgrading, but then changed my mind

My diamond is on the small size, however it''s perfect for me and looks amazing. Instead of upgrading my eng. ring, I upgraded my earrings and purchased a solitaire pendant.

 

[babysteps]

My husband brought up the topic ahead of our 10 year anniversary, to be honest I had not thought about it prior to then (this of course was years before I had heard of PS!

) For our most recent anniversary, the original e-ring and 10 year upgrade got incorporated into a 3 stone ring.

 

[MrsDoubleP]

Welcome joelly!

I''m a new member too.

I started thinking about upgrades after I discovered Pricescope and saw all of the incredibly beautiful rings that are out there. And watch out, it''s addicting (Pricescope, that is)!

 

[AprilBaby]

20 years

 

[iwannaprettyone]

I have not wanted to upgrade my diamond, but I do want to change my setting as I am not in LURVEEE with it. It''s pretty but just not what I really really want.

I think.

 

[Phoenix]

To be honest, I didn''t even know about the concept of upgrading until I found PS!

I had my e-ring, a 1ct, for 10 yrs before I upgraded. In between though, I received another 1ct for my 5th wedding anniversary.

Got my 3ct about 1 yr early for our 10th wedding anni.

 

[Daisi2112]

same here! i didn''t even know about upgrading until I found PS

I don''t think I''ll ever change my e-ring, I love it the way it is, but for an anniversary ring down the line, I def. would try to get a slightly bigger ring. Maybe a little more ornate.

 

[LostSapphire]

I almost think hanging out on PS is the worst thing for a newly engaged fiancee......you can so easily start second guessing yourself and FI''s pick (if he did it himself).

The size and quality of E-rings on PS is not exactly the norm for out in the real world but it is so easy to lose that perspective based on the pics posted here!

I am always saddened when I see a post from a woman who received a ring very recently, but is already talking about "it''s too small" "I want an upgrade" etc etc. It just seems to take the joy of the moment and totally deflate it...and deflate HIS ego too?

LS

 

[EHR2009]

I agree that it is easy to lose perspective about how much you love your ring when you are surrounded by so much beautiful jewelry on pricescope! As much as I LOVE my ring, I am a little sad that I already have it because now I have to stop looking! (even though I still love to look at other people''s rings). My future husband (we are not even married yet) actually first brought up the idea of upgrading (eventually) because he wants to pass down my diamond to one of our future children to use as their engagement ring. When he said that, I said "You know that means that you have to buy me another ring, then, right?" And he said, "I am fully aware of that "

I think the bottom line is that there will always be someone with something bigger, nicer, blah blah blah, and people are sometimes wired to want what they can''t have, but I love my ring, and I love jewelry, so I think I will always be on the lookout for things I love and would love to have

Sorrry for the long-winded answer

 

[that_someone_special]

... Honestly ... a few hours after we got engaged.

Don''t get me wrong.. I LOVE MY DIAMOND AND RING. LOVE.

A few hours after we got engaged a rather snotty "friend" commented on how it was small and she thought my ring, "would''ve been bigger". I was really sad. I did get a diamond that was smaller than what we had wanted, but we got a good deal and with everything that happened (last year when he bought it) it was perfect. Now, I''m like.. "Well, I could trade it or keep it as a pendant.."

Fiance is pissed at that "friend". He says I could compare my ring to her non-exsistant one. Also that since she''ll never get a diamond, she doesn''t have a clue how much they cost and I shouldn''t feel bad.

But I do. I feel bad. I''m just really sensitive and I wonder more why she would say such a thing just hours after I got engaged... and not even think twice about how rude her comment was.

Will we actually upgrade my diamond this year? ah no. We are saving for the wedding. Within 5 years? I''d like to, but in the realm of things- it''s ok if we don''t as well....

*sigh* I''m trying to distance myself from that "friend" now too. She is really rude about everything towards me and cuts me down every chance she gets.

 

[EHR2009]

I am so sorry to hear that Swedish! My jaw dropped to the floor when I read that she said that, and I even called my fiance in to read it because I was in disbelief! It sounds like there may be a bit of jealousy going on with her.

 

[beechezz]

Swedish Bean--I am so sorry to hear about what your friend said to you! that is horrible. IMO some, people, are ugly and inconsiderate. Seriously who cares what she thinks since she doesn''t even HAVE a RING! Don''t let that bring you down, please enjoy this engagement period, and look at the beauty of your ring, not the size, please.

That being said, I upgraded my stone for our 8th anniversary. I went from a .95 to a 1.35. (I wanted to break that 1ct mark). I know it''s not a lhuge difference, but it made me happy. Of course, I''m a big believer of bigger is better, but I am going to try and just enjoy my new stone and not worry about what everyone else has! I like my diamond, my hub likes it, and that is all that matters to be honest.

 

[Kelli]

I won''t ever upgrade my engagement ring. After I found pricescope (which unfortunately was RIGHT AFTER I got engaged, I decided I wanted a better cut stone. I sent it to Brian Gavin (who was still with Whiteflash) and had him recut it. Now I technically have the same diamond, but it got a makeover and now looks like the stunner I wanted!

After all that, I''ll never want an upgrade. BUT, I thoroughly plan on using my right hand for some anniversary rings!

 

[missismene]

I love, love my engagement ring. I love, love jewelry period. I am sure I am the only one here with these feelings.
I have not thought of an upgrade but I hope there are more diamonds in my future!
We looked at a beautiful omc rhr on Friday. I think fi took the hint!
I think I would get my ering reset before upgrading the diamond.

 

[MakingTheGrade]

I''ve had my ring over a year, don''t think I''ll ever upgrade for sentimental reasons and it''s a good size and style for me I realize that a lot of my coworkers down the line will probably have rings much larger than mine, but that''s ok.

I do hope to have a nice colored stone collection in the future though

 

[tberube]

This topic has been explored quite frequently on this site...in fact I think I started a thread just like this a few months back. When I first came onto PS and looked at people''s gorgeous boulders, I started thinking about upgrades in the future (in ten years or something)...but now I''ve grown more attached to my ring now that I am married and all, and I have stopped thinking about it. I''m sure I''ll revisit the idea again in a few years, but for now I''m happy with what I have. I may add a second band in time, but who knows...maybe I''ll never upgrade. I love my ring and I love my hubby for giving it to me!

 

[LuckyTexan]

IMMEDIATELY... because he said to me when he proposed that it was a promise ring to stand in until we could afford the ring I deserve!

 

[Maisie]

I had my original ering for 2 years. Then I found Pricescope

I have upgraded 4 times in the past couple of years. I stil have my original ring though. I will never get rid of that.

 

[joelly]

Date: 4/26/2009 1:39:59 PM
Author: swedish bean
... Honestly ... a few hours after we got engaged.

Don''t get me wrong.. I LOVE MY DIAMOND AND RING. LOVE.

A few hours after we got engaged a rather snotty ''friend'' commented on how it was small and she thought my ring, ''would''ve been bigger''. I was really sad. I did get a diamond that was smaller than what we had wanted, but we got a good deal and with everything that happened (last year when he bought it) it was perfect. Now, I''m like.. ''Well, I could trade it or keep it as a pendant..''

Fiance is pissed at that ''friend''. He says I could compare my ring to her non-exsistant one. Also that since she''ll never get a diamond, she doesn''t have a clue how much they cost and I shouldn''t feel bad.

But I do. I feel bad. I''m just really sensitive and I wonder more why she would say such a thing just hours after I got engaged... and not even think twice about how rude her comment was.

Will we actually upgrade my diamond this year? ah no. We are saving for the wedding. Within 5 years? I''d like to, but in the realm of things- it''s ok if we don''t as well....

*sigh* I''m trying to distance myself from that ''friend'' now too. She is really rude about everything towards me and cuts me down every chance she gets.

She is just envious of you. You got engaged and she is not even close.
I used to have friends like that and I kicked them to the curb. I don''t need such friends.
My e-ring is 2/5ct, J/K, I2/I3, in a yellow gold band and my thought at first was "wow, its a cute little fire ball". Its kind of like me, I am petite (0.40ct) with a nice looking tan (J/K) and a straight forward kinda gal, hence the I2/I3 clarity. If you get my meaning.

 

[joelly]

Date: 4/26/2009 5:14:43 PM
Author: LuckyTexan
IMMEDIATELY... because he said to me when he proposed that it was a promise ring to stand in until we could afford the ring I deserve!

Oh my God, we are in the same exact situation. I cannot believe it.

His exact words was "This is only a promise ring to show your family back home that I am serious about this". Oh, by the way, I am not from US and my family have not meet him yet, so thats why he wants me to have a ring as a symbol that our relationship is moving forward and not standing still. I went home in March and show it to my parents and they were thrill and we are planning to go together in December to meet my parents.

It works out well.

 

[joelly]

Sorry, I probably should mention that he said all the above after he is done proposing to me and after I said yes, of course.

I mean who will say no to my guy, he is just the greatest. Just don''t tell him.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I haven''t yet, but I do enjoy bulking up my right hand ring collection. I actually bought my .52 ct. ACA in the hopes of someday upgrading it.

 

[plethora23]

Probably about 3 years into the marriage...but I started with a 3.03 H&A so it was hard to justify moving up to the 5+ carat so soon...

 

[CravingDiamonds]

I have had my engagement ring for about 5 years now and I have no plans on changing it. I guess that I sentimental in that this is the ring that my husband picked out for me all by himself. It means a lot to me and I really don''t care what others think of it. As I had a friend get engaged awhile ago and basically compared her ring to mine. (I feel for you Swedish on the whole ring thing) My diamond is not small, it is 1ct. but it doesn''t compare to her 1.5ct I guess. Truthfully, her setting is the typical setting that you see everywhere and it is set so high, that it just looks gaudy to me

Anyways, I am thinking about getting an anniversary band like an eternity band to go with my ering and wedding ring, but will not change my ering.

 

[JSM]

Immediately... (don''t tell my DH). I have a .52 ideal round brilliant. As soon as I saw it I was a little disappointed. Even more so when we went to have dinner after he proposed and the waitress said congratulations - and stuck her 1.5 ct in my face and talked about her ring.

I wanted a bigger diamond long before I found PS, but I''m glad I found this place as the quality of the diamonds for the price far surpasses what I can find around here. I sold some collectables online and used the money to buy an ACA. I intend to upgrade when finances permit. But I''ll never trade my original e-ring, the one my husband worked so hard to afford. It will always be special to me!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 4/27/2009 1:04:23 AM
Author: jsm
Immediately... (don''t tell my DH). I have a .52 ideal round brilliant. As soon as I saw it I was a little disappointed. Even more so when we went to have dinner after he proposed and the waitress said congratulations - and stuck her 1.5 ct in my face and talked about her ring.

I wanted a bigger diamond long before I found PS, but I''m glad I found this place as the quality of the diamonds for the price far surpasses what I can find around here. I sold some collectables online and used the money to buy an ACA. I intend to upgrade when finances permit. But I''ll never trade my original e-ring, the one my husband worked so hard to afford. It will always be special to me!

how rude

i hope you didn''t tip her.