SAPHIRINA
Rough_Rock
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- Mar 30, 2010
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Hi everyone,
I was curious how involved is your FI with planning the wedding? Are you happy with the amount of help/input that he/she provides?
We are about one month into planning our wedding. Or, I should really say that *I* am about one month into planning our wedding. My fiancé is very excited about being engaged and getting married this October - talks about finally being married, honeymoon, trying to have a baby, etc. But, he offers very little help with actually planning the wedding. Sure, when I ask him about various options, he offers his input, but that''s pretty much the extent of his involvement. Finding, contacting and booking vendors is all on me. Obviously all the little details is also up to me. Basically, I can easily not consult with him about anything wedding-related at all and he''ll be absolutely fine with just showing up on the day of the event.
On the one hand, I like that I can plan everything as I want it and envision it. On the other, I''m a bit frustrated sometimes that he does not offer to pitch in, especially since he knows that I get overwhelmed at times. We are having a destination wedding. Our venue is on the East coast, I live on the West coast. The 3 hour time difference is a real problem sometimes, since all our vendors are on the East coast. He is currently in the Central time zone, so for him, it''s only 1 hour time difference with all our vendors, and it would be easier if he were the one to make calls at least once in a while. I asked him, if he is willing to do that when I need his help, to which he said, "It is possible". Not, "Sure, let me know when you need my help", or something similar, but "It is possible". What is that supposed to mean anyway?
By the way, I will talk to him about this, I would just like to hear how other couples are going about planning the big event and what your take on my situation is. Would you be upset, if you were me? Or, am I overreacting?
I was curious how involved is your FI with planning the wedding? Are you happy with the amount of help/input that he/she provides?
We are about one month into planning our wedding. Or, I should really say that *I* am about one month into planning our wedding. My fiancé is very excited about being engaged and getting married this October - talks about finally being married, honeymoon, trying to have a baby, etc. But, he offers very little help with actually planning the wedding. Sure, when I ask him about various options, he offers his input, but that''s pretty much the extent of his involvement. Finding, contacting and booking vendors is all on me. Obviously all the little details is also up to me. Basically, I can easily not consult with him about anything wedding-related at all and he''ll be absolutely fine with just showing up on the day of the event.
On the one hand, I like that I can plan everything as I want it and envision it. On the other, I''m a bit frustrated sometimes that he does not offer to pitch in, especially since he knows that I get overwhelmed at times. We are having a destination wedding. Our venue is on the East coast, I live on the West coast. The 3 hour time difference is a real problem sometimes, since all our vendors are on the East coast. He is currently in the Central time zone, so for him, it''s only 1 hour time difference with all our vendors, and it would be easier if he were the one to make calls at least once in a while. I asked him, if he is willing to do that when I need his help, to which he said, "It is possible". Not, "Sure, let me know when you need my help", or something similar, but "It is possible". What is that supposed to mean anyway?
By the way, I will talk to him about this, I would just like to hear how other couples are going about planning the big event and what your take on my situation is. Would you be upset, if you were me? Or, am I overreacting?