How important is it to have a SO/Spouse who appreciates fine jewelry

[4ever]

It would be nice if BF have more of an interest in fine jewlery, mostly because it would be easyer to get him to agree to spending money on it.

I don''t think I can ask for more then he does currently though, he listens when I want to talk about it, helps make desisions when I''m trying to buy it, puts up with me spending hours online looking at it and he looks in jewlery stores with me, can''t ask for much more then that really.

 

[Gypsy]

Perry, my husband has many hobbies I don't share and many that I do. The jewelry is make or break at all. It the mutual respect of each other's hobbies/likes that is important, more than the specific likes themselves. It's more important to me that my husband, who doesn't share my love of sparklies, supports my interest in them and does his best to give me presents that suit my tastes. But the fact that I just give him a vendor list and item list is fine. He doesn't need to do independant research of bling. And it's more than enough that he knows I go to jewelry shows, and that he is willing to go to one a year (for a short time)... he doesn't have to look up the jewelry show circut and buy us tickets or anything.

With your ladies... I'm sure they'd love any jewelry you gave them. However, jewelry is a gift that signifies a certain level of closeness. I'd stay away from gifts of jewelry until the relationship has progressed. Even talking abou jewelry might be... precipitous. Ya know?

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Date: 1/3/2010 10:04:36 AM
Author: steph72276
He doesn''t necessarily have to appreciate fine jewelry (just like I don''t have to appreciate football

), but as long as he realizes that it makes me happy, it is all good!

Ditto!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/3/2010 2:03:28 PM
Author: kenny
It is cool when you both are into it.
It prevents or reduces the strain that could result from buying something expensive that is perceived by the other as frivolous.

Yes, I agree that having ones SO "into" the same stuff keeps the relationship more together. Even though my dh isn''t at all into diamonds and definetly considers them frivolous, he has his toys too (which I could care less about - it didn''t matter to me that we upgraded our TV to a huge plasma one) and that''s what keeps us balanced in that regard.

 

[Elmorton]

I blame my DH for PS.

I''ve always liked jewelry, but I never knew what jewelry WAS until we started looking for my engagement ring. I knew I wanted an EC, but I''d rarely seen an EC. And since DH researches purchases like the devil, we started researching together, and hunting like crazy. We knew that a) there was a better product out there than what we saw readily available and b) there was a better price. The problem was that I ended up LOVING the hunt, even after I had the ring on my finger.

Thankfully, DH has hobbies and interests as well, and he gets that I''m fascinated by fine jewelry because of the fusion of nature, art, and fashion, even if it''s not the most exciting thing to him. In fact, I''m not sure if he really "appreciates" fine jewelry at all, but rather he appreciates me and what I find interesting and unique.

 

[Pandora II]

DH is 100% supportive of my obsession and has learnt a fair amount himself - he knows his spessartites from his chrysoberyls for definite.

However, his big hobby is photography and he spends more on ''bling'' for that than I do on my hobby.

It kind of works like photography is HIS thing, but I''ll pick up the camera and take some pics once in a while, Gems are MY thing, but he''ll take an interest in what I''m buying/looking at.

He even bought me bling for xmas - a first!

 

[perry]

Thanks all; I got the concept down that we may have different interest and hobbies - and we need to support each other in that (even if we have no real interest). However, I think Gypsy hit upon a thought that applies...

Date: 1/3/2010 11:41:49 PM
Author: Gypsy

With your ladies... I''m sure they''d love any jewelry you gave them. However, jewelry is a gift that signifies a certain level of closeness. I''d stay away from gifts of jewelry until the relationship has progressed. Even talking abou jewelry might be... precipitous. Ya know?

Maybe I''m scaring them away by passing over the poorly made gunk.

Have a great day,

Perry

 

[Cehrabehra]

I think it''s like any hobby - I would love it if my husband was as enthusiastic as I am but I''m happy to settle with "willing to spend" haha He doesn''t appreciate it at all, but he appreciates that I appreciate it and insists that''s all that matters. I don''t agree that it''s ALL that matters, but I''m not denied and that''s the bottom line

I think most people, men and women, don''t really care about jewelry. The women want their wedding ring and maybe some other decorative pieces but they have no care for level of quality or are willing to take it at a salesperson''s word whether it''s true or not.

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 1/3/2010 7:26:19 PM
Author: Gleam
My fiance doesn''t need to understand the ins and outs of it all... but I would be sad if I had a man who thought it was all a big waste of money.

After seventeen years together, my husband still believes that any money spent on jewelry is totally wasted money. He really has no idea whatsoever what jewelry costs these days because he''s so disinterested in it. He would probably keel over if he knew how expensive things have gotten since we got engaged (and I would never hear the end of it!)

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 1/4/2010 8:21:24 PM
Author: perry
Thanks all; I got the concept down that we may have different interest and hobbies - and we need to support each other in that (even if we have no real interest). However, I think Gypsy hit upon a thought that applies...

Date: 1/3/2010 11:41:49 PM
Author: Gypsy

With your ladies... I''m sure they''d love any jewelry you gave them. However, jewelry is a gift that signifies a certain level of closeness. I''d stay away from gifts of jewelry until the relationship has progressed. Even talking abou jewelry might be... precipitous. Ya know?

Maybe I''m scaring them away by passing over the poorly made gunk.

Have a great day,

Perry

Anytime Perry. I know that as a women, (and I''d like to say that this is limited to the start of a relationship, but it''s not always), we tend to examine EVERYTHING and interpret it to see if we can understand that our date is thinking... and jewelry is one of those things that women read into. For you it is a hobby... for a woman it''s an enagement ring, it''s a commitment, is white dresses and champagne toasts. It''s not the same as talking about your cigar or motorcycle collection (though it might be for you). It''s just like a woman talking about her love of her friend''s twin boys. While she might have been making the comment in passing, you (not you, Perry, but a guy) might think "Oh, oh... she''s already thinking of kids and I''m don''t even know her middle name!" . It''s a bit of a loaded subject.

If I were dating a guy... I would NOT mention that I belong to a diamond/jewelry forum. Quickest way to see his backside as he runs for home!