How important is it to have a SO/Spouse who appreciates fine jewelry

[perry]

OK: Many of you stumbled on Pricescope when looking for that "perfect" engagement ring. Others when looking for other jewelry.

But, how important is it that your SO or Spouse really gets it - and appreciates good to high quality gemstones and settings. Or was it more important that they just understand that you needed an engagement ring and some bling - even if its not the greatest.

In addition; what is of more value to you. The fact that your spouse spent (or supported) spending a certain value for an engagement ring - or that they got (or supported) a lessor priced but better quality piece of jewelry.

The reason I ask is that is seems to me - that many of the gals I meet are not really that interested in good jewelry.


Perry

 

[Lady_Disdain]

I think you are asking the wrong public, Perry! The gals here certainly appreciate high quality jewelry.

In my case, I would love it if my SO appreciated fine jewelry like I do and gave me good pieces for important occasions, just as we share a lot of other common interests. Unfortunately, he doesn''t. However, he is willing to hear me talk about it, obcess about it and be joyously glad when a long awaited stone arrives in the mail. He doesn''t give me jewelry, since he knows he doesn''t have the knowledge to choose a good piece at a good price. He does give me wonderful music, so I am happy.

 

[luckynumber]

my SO is coming around to the idea, but even my interest in fine jewellery is new. i dont expect him to go ga-ga over a gemstone like i do!

he is setting several of my stones for valentine''s day so yes, i''m very lucky as he likes to make me happy. most importantly, he doesn''t think i''m wasting money on buying stones, and llikes the idea of them being passed on as heirloom pieces eventually.

 

[steph72276]

He doesn't necessarily have to appreciate fine jewelry (just like I don't have to appreciate football

), but as long as he realizes that it makes me happy, it is all good!

 

[Tuckins1]

My hunny doesn''t have the passion that I do, but he does know enough to be able to pick out lovely gifts for me....

Having said that, we had this conversation the other day- keep in mind that he harasses me all the time for being on PS and being obsessed with jewels.


I had just gotten home from helping a friend buy a diamond for his girl-
DH- "So how did it go? Did you get anything?"
Me- "Yep"
DH- "Well..... What did you get?"
Me- "I found him a great 1.01 ct GIA certed stone" (Not wanting to bore him with stone specs)
DH- "Clarity, cut, color?"
Me- "VS2, excellent cut, I color"
DH- *pauses* "Where are the pictures?"
Me- "I didn''t have a camera that had macro, so I couldn''t get good pics"
DH- "I don''t even know who you are anymore.... You''re fired"

Hah! He doesn''t want to admit it, but some of my diamond fever has rubbed off!!

 

[icekid]

haha, for me it is important that my husband appreciates that I appreciate fine jewelry

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

I''d say it wasn''t important to me particularly (since I mostly buy my own pieces) but then DH does have strong views on design quality. He probably isn''t so aware of what to look for in terms of fabrication quality.

He''s able to articulate exactly what he likes about a piece, but if he doesn''t like it all he can manage is eeeeew, that''s horribe, gross and revolting (which while clear, isn''t terribly helpful).

 

[Catmom]

I''m incredibly lucky that my hubby supports me in my jewelry habit and buys me high quality jewelry. He admittedly doesn''t understand my fascination but he supports it anyways. I think he secretly has fun going into jewelry stores and looking at the goods and even though he won''t admit it, he likes knowing all about diamonds and gems. To me it''s not about the $$ amount that he spends but that he is willing to spend on an obession he doesn''t hold.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I don''t think it is important for my DH to appreciate fine jewelry BUT I think it is important that he appreciates that *I* appreciates it. I don''t expect him to research gems or window shop at local B&Ms. I don''t even expect him to surprise me with new jewelry. He has his hobbies and I have mine. But hopefully he is smart enough to know a happy wife is a happy life.

 

[elle_chris]

Not important to me at all. What is important is that we both agree on a design. I wouldn''t want to wear something he hates.

 

[princesss]

It''s not at all important to me. BF doesn''t enjoy looking for my "pet rocks" but he sees that they make me happy, and he likes me being happy. Likewise, I don''t really care to go hunting down every time trial bike posted on Craigslist to see if they have the original parts, but it makes him happy so I keep him company.

 

[AmberGretchen]

Date: 1/3/2010 10:04:36 AM
Author: steph72276
He doesn''t necessarily have to appreciate fine jewelry (just like I don''t have to appreciate football

), but as long as he realizes that it makes me happy, it is all good!

Ditto to this, exactly. I will never appreciate music and musical instruments the way my husband does, but I still understand his desire for a custom-made guitar. As long as he respects and supports my need for designer handbags, nice jewelry, camera lenses and other indulgences of my own, I think its works out fine

 

[elrohwen]

DH doesn''t care for jewelry at all, but if we discussed a new purchase and he agreed to it, he would support whatever quality I wanted as long as it fit within the budget.

 

[jewelz617]

Date: 1/3/2010 8:54:26 AM
Author:perry
OK: Many of you stumbled on Pricescope when looking for that ''perfect'' engagement ring. Others when looking for other jewelry.


But, how important is it that your SO or Spouse really gets it - and appreciates good to high quality gemstones and settings. Or was it more important that they just understand that you needed an engagement ring and some bling - even if its not the greatest.


In addition; what is of more value to you. The fact that your spouse spent (or supported) spending a certain value for an engagement ring - or that they got (or supported) a lessor priced but better quality piece of jewelry.


The reason I ask is that is seems to me - that many of the gals I meet are not really that interested in good jewelry.



Perry

I came here because my husband has no interest whatsoever. Which is fine with me, I love having little side projects all to myself.

 

[Lady_Disdain]

Date: 1/3/2010 10:52:17 AM
Author: Catmom
I''m incredibly lucky that my hubby supports me in my jewelry habit and buys me high quality jewelry. He admittedly doesn''t understand my fascination but he supports it anyways. I think he secretly has fun going into jewelry stores and looking at the goods and even though he won''t admit it, he likes knowing all about diamonds and gems. To me it''s not about the $$ amount that he spends but that he is willing to spend on an obession he doesn''t hold.

Having seen pictures of your collection, I think the partnership works very well.

 

[Bella_mezzo]

MY DH doesn''t appreciate fine jewelry (and I never did before I found pricescope

). He thinks they''re over priced polished rocks (which they are, but sooo pretty and sparkly

).

I think football is mind numbingly boring, so it evens out.

I love the e-ring he picked out for me. Although I think I could have gotten better "bang for the buck" (especially after what I''ve learned on pricescope) he did it all himself and it is lovely. I wouldn''t trade it for anything!

 

[Bella_mezzo]

TUckins, I just have to say, that exchange with your DH is hilarious

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 1/3/2010 10:04:36 AM
Author: steph72276
He doesn''t necessarily have to appreciate fine jewelry (just like I don''t have to appreciate football

), but as long as he realizes that it makes me happy, it is all good!

this!!!

 

[Regular Guy]

Perry, although I''m not doing a good job helping with cleanings...I think one nut job per household is plenty...

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/3/2010 10:04:36 AM
Author: steph72276
He doesn't necessarily have to appreciate fine jewelry (just like I don't have to appreciate football

), but as long as he realizes that it makes me happy, it is all good!

Yep, same for me. My husband wouldn't be able to go about knowing the way to pick out the best quality diamond, but he does know there are good ones and bad ones and as long as he supports me desire to have the best, I'm happy with that.

I also like having control over my choices and luckily DH is all about me doing all the research.

 

[partgypsy]

That he "really gets" and appreciates high quality jewelry: pretty low on the list. Picking someone is a package deal; some of his basic characteristics and values and our commonalities make it work, can''t expect to agree on everything. I do have to admit I do appreciate that he seems to understand that it''s important to me! If for example he was obsessed with playing cards. I would sure hope he wouldn''t expect me to be as crazy about them as he is, just because we are a couple.

 

[kenny]

Ironically, my SO (and a friend) got me into diamonds.
I was never into them.
I researched diamond earrings for both of them here on PS.
The more I learned the more I understood and appreciated diamonds.
Before you know it there was a very largte tube connected directly between my bank account and some PS vendors.

It is cool when you both are into it.
It prevents or reduces the strain that could result from buying something expensive that is perceived by the other as frivolous.

 

[Haven]

It is not important at all to me that my SO appreciates fine jewelry. He just has to appreciate me and my own personal interests, as I do him and his.

 

[Arcadian]

He''s been well educated.

I still have to work with him on diamonds though.

-A

 

[Gleam]

My fiance doesn't need to understand the ins and outs of it all... but I would be sad if I had a man who thought it was all a big waste of money.

 

[yssie]

FI doesn't care, but he appreciates that I care, and is happy to cater to that, which is what really matters, I think. I don't care for football but he loves it, so I read football for dummies and watch games with him, and it makes him happy.


We don't have to share hobbies - just be willing and happy to indulge each other

 

[monarch64]

It''s not terribly, terribly important to me that I have a SO or spouse who is very knowledgeable about jewelry, but it is important that they respect and encourage my interest in it. Like any hobby, I would hope that everyone''s SO or spouse is encouraging towards their interest in jewelry. To answer the second part of the question, I would rather search out the best value than spend X amount just because it''s a number i have in my head that I think sounds reasonable. I can find a $10k p.o.s. anytime, finding something actually worth $10K is a bit tougher.

 

[marcy]

My husband is not really in to diamonds or jewelry but has picked up a lot of info just listening to me. Between the 2 of us I was the one who was more apt to go for price than quality. Once we went to a nice jewelry store (his idea not mine) I realized i wanted nicer pieces of jewelry. I sold most of my cheap / low qaulity / okay quality pieces of jewelry and put that money towards nicer jewelry.

Of course, the downside to this was taking him to all those nice jewelry stores actually cut down my jewelry budget. My husband has a thing for watches so now we have to take turns with spending money - will it be a watch or jewelry?

I don''t totally get his thing for expensive watches and he doesn''t totally get my thing for jewelry or needing the complete set (ring, earrings, bracelet and pendant) but he''s okay with my spending habits and I am okay with his. We both want each other to have nice things that make us happy.

 

[vc10um]

I agree with many of the other ladies who have said that he doesn''t have to appreciate it...he just has to appreciate the fact that I appreciate it!

And he''s doing that by becoming well-educated on diamonds and retailers before purchasing my engagement ring.

I don''t forsee him becoming uber interested in fine jewelry, but I do see him learning enough about a purchase before he makes it to know that the stones/metal/workmanship are of good quality, since he knows I''ll scrutinize them after I get it!!!

 

[Rachel9]

DH got the 'gold' bug from his grandmother, now he's into watches and football, totally OK with me. He supports my fascination and 'knows' quite a bit about diamonds but wouldn't admit it, we rarely shop together but his opinion is always welcome [$]