How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over time?

[LLJsmom]

Hi Everyone,

I'm still relatively new to wearing my ering so I'm going through all kinds of growing pains. It's like jewelry puberty. For a while, my center stone looked small to me. Mind you I'm talking about a 2.59 on a 4.5 finger. You've all probably seen pics so I will spare you unless someone asks. I was going through "should I reset when I just reset 8 months ago" mental drama. I still might because I love VCs settings so much. But recently, in the past couple of weeks, I have been thinking my rings looks pretty big and super sparkly as it is. Maybe I shouldn't reset and spend my hard earned pennies on something else first, like studs??

I'm just curious how your feelings about your ring / stone have changed/evolved over time, if you don't mind sharing. How long have you had it, when did you start wanting to reset or upgrade, or not, or downgrade? What caused either, or all? I'm really curious as to how the mind/eye works and how and when does one get accustomed to our bling.

Thanks dearest PSers for indulging me...

 

[Rhea]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I received my engagement ring in October 2004. It's an estate ring and is 0.47 carat with tapered baguettes and is 0.71 ctw. Even though I picked it out I hated it at first. We had a $2,000 USD budget and I think it cost about $1,600 so I was upset that I didn't spend my entire budget, I was upset by the wonkiness and poor quality, it sat too high, and I wished it were larger. I hardly wore it through our engagement and bitched about it a lot after we got married. I wanted to upgrade and DH thinks that you just don't upgrade your engagement ring.

We've been married about 8 years and I just don't think about it much anymore. It's just a ring. I go through stages of wearing it a lot and others of not wearing it for months. I can't remember the last time I had it on, perhaps in November? I don't think of us feels that attached to it or thinks about it much. I'd be very sad if I lost it...it might take me months to notice but I'd be sad because he gave it to me. I'd like another, but I don't think I'll ever be given another ring like that from DH, he's very firmly in the no-upgrades camp. I mostly just wear other rings and someday, if I feel like it and we have the budget I plan to buy myself a nice ring. It makes me a bit sad, I'd love to have one from DH, but I understand his feelings on upgrades so as long as he's not bothered about my not wearing my engagement ring it's fine.

 

[Hospatogi]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

We were on a limited budget when we got engaged three years ago. Shortly after our engagement I felt that my one carat AVC was small and wanted to save up for an upgrade right away. But then we started wedding planning and soon enough an engagement ring upgrade took a back seat to having my dream wedding. Fast forward two years later and while it has crossed my mind from time to time other expenses always seem to take priority. My biggest one right now is saving up for a down payment on a home. If I could have both I'd definitely do it however since I have to choose I'd rather be a home owner than have a larger engagement ring.
And honestly it doesn't even feel like a sacrifice because the size doesn't bother me anymore! Now I appreciate how well cut it is and how much more it sparkles compared to my friends larger rings. But maybe someday I'll have the funds or desire for a 1.75 AVC !

 

[MMtwo]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I have been married before and loved wearing my e-ring and that never changed. I looked at it all the time and it never got old.

My boyfriend and I are in the pre-ring stage. We have discussed the budget and my feelings about it are mixed. I am a girly girl to the max and love a big blingy ring. I showed him AVC's and he agreed they were wonderful and to him, a little different. He likes that "different" approach. I want a AVC set in a Tacori 2620 - plain shank. Not going to happen. We talked about that sweet spot of price. For us, I think a month's salary will be a good balance, because the thought of him paying for my ring over time makes it a "burden" for him, not a happy symbol of love for me. So our/his budget is 4-5 grand. For us it's the right thing. So, I am going to wait and see if and when a ring appears, I will post on here. He has made it clear whatever he puts on my finger is "it", so an upgrade would not be a subject that would be well met. I'm okay with that, I'm sentimental and rather traditional at heart.

Still....I wonder what it's going to look like.....
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I come here to give all your big shiny rocks adoration, though. I have seen such beautiful rings...you are a pack of lucky ladies!

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I've had my current ER for around seven years and the only thing I would change to this day is to make it flush fit. The surprise stone is pretty but very annoying. Eventually if the setting wears out I would have it remade to be flush fit.

 

[momhappy]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I had my original E-ring for about 12 years and while I always loved it, I always knew that it wasn't really my style. It was a very typical/common E-ring setting (although gorgeous) and I thought that it was not quite dynamic enough for me. I fairly recently pulled the trigger on a re-set and got my halo. It probably took me longer to get used to my halo than it did to get used to wearing my original ring. My halo is delicate and top heavy, so it spins on my finger, which was/is very annoying. I'm still trying to get used to that...

 

[Tourmaline]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

Good topic! When we first got engaged, I wanted a stone unlike any I'd ever had before, to match the fact that the relationship was unlike any I'd had before. I chose an emerald cut, because there had been rounds in my house growing up. Fairly quickly, I regretted that decision, because I think of myself as a round girl. My husband was against changing the engagement ring, as he thought it unromantic, but he eventually came around to the idea of it. I imagined trading it in toward a slightly larger round in a halo setting, but the timing wasn't right for years. Several months ago, out of seemingly nowhere, my husband told me it was time to go ahead with it, and then he said he didn't like halo settings, but to get a much larger diamond. I was thinking about an old European cut, but he wanted a round brilliant, and I wanted him to love it, too. We got the stone and, since I wasn't getting a halo, I had a ring made with tons of melee in the gallery/basket. I really wanted the 6-prong sideways setting, but I imagined the prongs would be smaller than they were. I ended up having the prongs sanded down twice. For a while, I was wanting a reset to a simpler solitaire ring with more, but smaller, prongs and a rose gold shank (my diamond is a GIA L color and I love how sunny it looks with rose gold near it, though my ring is platinum). I wore it with a rose gold wedding band for a couple of weeks, but both rings got scratched! So I had them polished and am now wearing the rose gold band on my right hand. Somehow, in the last couple of weeks, I have come to really love my ring, and I stare at it all the time! I am always aware of it.

My diamond reflects the color of its surroundings, which is an odd thing. First I thought it was because of the color, but then someone said it was a function of the cut (it has a shallow crown angle, but, due to a bunch of factors, scores a 1.6 on the HCA tool). My daughter's room is pink, and when I am in her room, my diamond is pink during the day or purple at night. My son's room is blue, and the diamond is blue in his room. It can look yellow, orange or white, too, depending on the room. My favorite lighting is overcast natural daylight. Sometimes this feature is annoying, and other times I really love it.

I am thrilled to have this ring, and I feel different than I felt before I had it. <3

 

[Circe]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I love my original e-ring, a 1.46 J VS1 in a fishtail setting with baguette sides. When I first got it, I thought it was so incredibly perfect - the right size, amazing shards of light going this way and that, great setting, the whole shebang!

I still love it. But when I was pregnant, my hands swelled, and I needed to have it resized from a 5 to a 7. I haven't wanted to size it down again, since I am hoping to have another kid, and I don't want to jerk it around too much. So since my fingers have gone back to normal-ish, I've been wearing it on my middle finger. But during that same span, I, a) fell in love with old cuts, b) got a larger transitional to wear as a RHR, and, c) had to have its setting remade and figured that as long as my ering was on my middle finger, I might as well have something to fit my ring finger ....

... and now I'm used to it, size-wise. D'oh.

I think I might want to reset my original e-ring, either into a sleek Sholdt-like bezel, or an octagonal Edwardian frame ring, or a target ring, or something, both to get the proportions back into frame, and to get a different look from the anniversary ring (both are fishtail heads, though the transitional has marquise sides). But my husband (of all people) is advocating for the sentimentality of the original. I respect that! So it lives on my middle finger for now.

ETA: I had a hand in picking it, along with all the rest of the jewelry - my husband is a very understanding man!

 

[Laila619]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

Let's see: hated it when I first got it, hated it after wearing it for a while, and still hated it when I finally got rid of it last year. LOL. Bought new e-rings this past December and love them!

 

[SparklyOEC]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

This is a great topic! I loved my original ering, it was a .75 D VVS1 marquise in a very 80's yellow-gold setting, and I never got tired of wearing it or looking at it! When DH and I were separated (many, many moons ago...ha ha), I stupidly gave it to a friend of mine who got engaged, but couldn't afford a ring. After my friend gave his FI the ring, she traded it in for something else she really wanted. Which was her choice, but I've often regretted doing that.

Now, I can't seem to find anything else I want to keep too long. LOL...it's PS for sure. I still love marquise's, but I also love antique cuts...just don't think a round is for me. So, I'm looking at ovals, antique cushions, hearts ( )and even much, much smaller pink diamonds until something makes my heart sing.

 

[thadanim]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

This would get even more interesting if along with your feeling it would be good to know if the ring was just given to you or did you have a say in the ring you got.

 

[SparklyOEC]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

This would get even more interesting if along with your feeling it would be good to know if the ring was just given to you or did you have a say in the ring you got.

I had a say in my original ering and I will design the next one I get with input from DH.

 

[MonkeysInk]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

The first time I was married, my husband's mother gave him a ring with a .53 F VS2 diamond and we set it in a setting I picked out at a local jeweler. It looked different than my friend's MRBs and my grandmother explained the "hole" I was seeing was the open culet of a vintage cut stone. Since it was a family stone, I returned it when we separated. It was pretty, but I wasn't married long and I had other things to worry about, so I didn't think about it much.

I found PS while I was divorced and learned more about old cuts. I saw the Tiffany Legacy. I decided I wanted something like that if I ever got married again.

The second time, I got a say in what I have: a 1.12 E VS2 GOG cushion with strong fluoro (something I really wanted) in a plain white gold solitaire. I have been completely in love with the stone ever since FedEx dropped it off.

I was and am kind of meh about the setting. We purchased it locally for $200 and their bench did a half-hearted job on the prongs, which I've never liked. When we got engaged, my husband was recently returned from a long deployment and was unemployed, so we agreed that when he got a job, I could get a new setting.

Several times, he's said "get it reset!" and I just haven't been able to pull the trigger on a new setting. I really want a halo, but I have small children and am concerned about the durability of pave with my lifestyle. But I neeeeeed some halo...so I purchased something off Preloved that will be here in a few days and I'm keeping my original stone in the original setting, too.

Maybe one day I'll get it set into a solitaire with prettier prongs, but I think I'll always keep it this way. There's something really lovely to me about a solitaire with an eternity band. Although this is PS, so "always" is very flexible, right?!

 

[Laila619]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

This would get even more interesting if along with your feeling it would be good to know if the ring was just given to you or did you have a say in the ring you got.

As you might imagine, I had no say in my original one. The stone was way overpriced, smallish, average cut, IGI graded, and the setting was dainty and white gold, both of which I strongly dislike. DH couldn't have gotten it more wrong if he tried. And the worst part was I didn't speak up so we could return it. I was too afraid to hurt his feelings. I really think every woman should be able to have a say in her e-ring to avoid situations like these. Was my engagement happy? Yes, of course, but it was also filled with resentment.

 

[Natylad]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I love my ring and i chose it with DH's approval but i can't get over the fact that my bands don't sit flush with it and i can't have it fixed, because this would mean re-making the entire ring

 

[flash_and_fire]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

Hello PSers!
I'm fairly new to PS (joining) after lurking forever. I'm enjoying this thread. My fiancé let me pick out my 1st e-ring which was a solitaire set in a wide 6mm metal band w/a few accent diamonds on the side. I liked the simple modern look of it at first but there was always something about it that didn't completely fit what I wanted. And I was the one who picked out the stone and the setting! Then I discovered PS and subsequently developed DSS. And it's not getting better. I already have a right hand ring wish list for that. I talked to my fiancé after wearing the original e-ring for over a year and he was fine w/changing the setting, but we decided to keep the original center stone for its sentimental value. I went back to the same B&M store (I know, please keep in mind this was pre-PS) where we bought the original setting and applied the value of that towards a new setting. I paid for the difference myself. I have thought about changing yet again to other types of settings (I love PS for making me feel like I'm not crazy), but I find myself appreciating the classic look of a solitaire type setting, and w/the diamonds on the side of my ring (more than the original setting), I get a little bit of the bling factor too. All this happened in the course of about 2 and a half yrs. I might/will yearn for another look over time but in consideration of my fiancé's feelings, this might be my forever setting.

 

[tweeter8177]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I had my original ering for 10 years…a very wide yellow gold setting. Then a friend of mine got engaged and her diamond sparkled so much! My diamond didn’t sparkle at all like hers, which led me to finding out about cut and an upgrade! At the time, I took the opportunity to get a new platinum setting…still a pretty wide ring but with a bunch of micropave diamonds on the side. After another 3 years, I started looking at a new setting because the setting I had wasn’t that comfortable for me. Well, one thing led to another and that led to the next upgrade (last spring)!

My current ring is an MRB with pear side stones (my avatar) and it is gorgeous! BUT, I still wonder if there is a setting out there I would like more. Most of the time I think my ring is beautiful, but other times, I wish my diamond popped more and even wish it was bit bigger. Part of it is because it is such a low profile setting (I have never had that before) and the center stone kind of blends in with the pears.

I have debated a new setting, both halo and solitaire. With a halo I worry that I will miss seeing the outline of the stone and with a solitaire, I worry I will wish for something more blingy! Argh!! So that is where I am at in my ring journey! And I totally get the mental drama of wanting a reset…not to mention an upgrade! (Did I mention I dream of an AVC if I upgrade again?)

I did keep my second diamond, so I plan on resetting it into RHR with a halo. (I will be looking for PS input on that hopefully next week!!) I am hoping that will satisfy my halo urge and also let me see first hand how I feel about halos!

By the way, I do absolutely love your ring as is!!

 

[baby monster]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

LLJsmom, you have a beautiful ring. Maybe after putting so much mental energy into those upgrade thoughts, you've decided that it is the right ring after all?

I have no emotional connection to my jewelry except for appreciating its beauty. It's not romantic at all and is not a reflection of my marriage. We got married with nothing to our names except for very expensive pieces of embossed paper called diplomas. For 10 years I had nothing on my ring finger and didn't really care one bit because my waking hours were consumed by work, work, work. At 10yr mark, we were better off financially so I decided to look into getting an anniversary ring. I blame Tiffany's mailer with their celebration ring campaign . Marketing works! Started researching online and found PS! I chose 1.65ctw eternity from one of PS vendors and wore it for couple of years. Had a baby and we upgraded that eternity to 3ctw. Now, we have our ducks in order and can afford a nice stone so bought 2.32MRB. I plan to have it for a while unless DSS sets in and I have the funds to upgrade.

 

[Tourmaline]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I love my ring and i chose it with DH's approval but i can't get over the fact that my bands don't sit flush with it and i can't have it fixed, because this would mean re-making the entire ring

This. I planned to wear my ring by itself, thinking the pave on the band would serve as both engagement ring and wedding ring, and I wanted a larger bottom of the setting so it wouldn't be as likely to slip around on my finger. But it looks like an engagement ring and not a wedding ring at all, and it totally bothers me that a wedding band wont sit flush with it. I am wearing it without a wedding band and just enjoying it for the moment. A reset is always a possibility for someday.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I've been on PS for a long time and kept feeling I had to go larger, but in reality, I'm fine with my little diamond and just now, after having it for a long time, am going to have it reset. For the past few months, I've only worn a wedding band and actually love how low maintenance it is. I never had to worry about bashing my ring into something and damaging my diamond. I'm looking for a new setting for my diamond and the only difference will be that it'll be white gold. That is the only thing I regret is not going with a white metal. I'm almost tempted to have my diamond set into a pendant, instead, but later probably will regret not having a diamond ring that fits my ring finger.

If we had a fancy lifestyle, I'd probably want to go bigger, but we spend our weekends hiking, going to sports events and to the movies. I just don't see myself comfortable wearing a huge stone.

 

[LLJsmom]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I have debated a new setting, both halo and solitaire. With a halo I worry that I will miss seeing the outline of the stone and with a solitaire, I worry I will wish for something more blingy! Argh!! So that is where I am at in my ring journey! And I totally get the mental drama of wanting a reset…not to mention an upgrade! (Did I mention I dream of an AVC if I upgrade again?)

By the way, I do absolutely love your ring as is!!

Thanks Tweeter. Your ring is amazing...

I am right with you about halo vs. solitaire. I resolved the worry about not seeing the outline of my diamond with a halo by realizing that when I look at a well done halo up close, I will see the definition of the roundness of the MRB. And since I will be the one who always sees it up close, I will be fine with it. From far away, it will look like one big blingy rock. I also released the bling whore in me on the first go around with the reset, and realized that I want more finger coverage than I am getting with my five stone. Yeah, more than this. Geez, , but I am who I am. Just not going to struggle against myself. It's a losing battle.

And yes, an AVC is a dream stone too. And actually, if I had to choose, I would rather put an antique cushion in a VC halo than an MRB. But if I wait around to buy an Canera cushion, who knows when that would be...

Strangely, I am fine with my ring as it is right now. I know it's not my dream setting, but I do see the pros. It's super blingy with the big side stones. It's quite secure (but then how did I knock it loose?). There are definitely things I would change if I could. I don't like the industrial looking prongs I've got. I'd rather have 4 instead of 6. I love eagle claws, but the ones I have are ok. I do tend to knock my girdle quite a bit, so the halo would at least absorb some of that. I'd rather replace melee diamonds. But honestly, the weird thing is I probably would never have discovered what I do want if I didn't figure out what I don't want. So it's a learning process, albeit an expensive one. I too would love to upgrade, but can't for a long time. I change my mind so often. Who knows where I will be next week.

 

[LLJsmom]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

LLJsmom, you have a beautiful ring. Maybe after putting so much mental energy into those upgrade thoughts, you've decided that it is the right ring after all?

I have no emotional connection to my jewelry except for appreciating its beauty. It's not romantic at all and is not a reflection of my marriage. We got married with nothing to our names except for very expensive pieces of embossed paper called diplomas. For 10 years I had nothing on my ring finger and didn't really care one bit because my waking hours were consumed by work, work, work. At 10yr mark, we were better off financially so I decided to look into getting an anniversary ring. I blame Tiffany's mailer with their celebration ring campaign . Marketing works! Started researching online and found PS! I chose 1.65ctw eternity from one of PS vendors and wore it for couple of years. Had a baby and we upgraded that eternity to 3ctw. Now, we have our ducks in order and can afford a nice stone so bought 2.32MRB. I plan to have it for a while unless DSS sets in and I have the funds to upgrade.

baby monster, thank you. I am coming to appreciate my ring more. Your ring is gorgeous, and the diamond looks huge. I totally thought you had a size 4 finger too. Congratulations, it's an awesome upgrade.

 

[momhappy]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

This would get even more interesting if along with your feeling it would be good to know if the ring was just given to you or did you have a say in the ring you got.

An update to my original post:
Yes, I had a say in my original ring purchase. We looked and purchased it together. As I said before, I always thought that it was a pretty ring, but over the years, I've just realized that I wanted something more dynamic.

 

[tweeter8177]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

Thanks LLJsmom! Ha, now I am wondering if I should just go for the halo for my ering! I can't tell you how many times I have gone back and forth on it...glad to hear I am not the only one who debates a reset! I look forward to seeing how you feel next week! I am sure I will change my mind by then too!

 

[braga123]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I was reluctant to post on this thread because I feel that I have overposted on this topic with each of my threads, so my response would be an obvious one. So instead of summarize my changes, I will attempt to share what I have learned.

I have learned that no matter how infatuated I am with each new setting, it is only a matter of months before it begins to lose its novelty and my eye starts to wander and entertain other possibilities. I blame my jeweler for enabling me. He carries stock settings, at very fair prices, and allows me to trade up or trade down at a minimal cost. Sometimes, he even gives me credit back! Now, his stock settings do NOT compare to designer hand-forged settings. But, having never owned a designer ring, these settings work for me. I get tons of compliments because they are by no means "maul" quality.

In all honesty, the amount that I spend on my settings averages out to what I used to spend annually on handbags and designer jeans. Since I discovered jewelry, I have had no problem giving up jeans and handbags, so this is how I justify the cost of my settings. I know that if I spent 5-6k on a setting, I WOULD NOT indulge myself as much. But, what I don't know, is if I would get bored with that expensive setting just as soon as I do with my stock ones, and then, I would be stuck..

The one thing to keep in mind is that: there will be time. Enjoy your ring now! And know that there will be time to enjoy it in a different setting next year...and the year after that...there will be time..there will be time...

Or find an enabler jeweler like mine....

 

[Circe]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I was reluctant to post on this thread because I feel that I have overposted on this topic with each of my threads, so my response would be an obvious one. So instead of summarize my changes, I will attempt to share what I have learned.

I have learned that no matter how infatuated I am with each new setting, it is only a matter of months before it begins to lose its novelty and my eye starts to wander and entertain other possibilities. I blame my jeweler for enabling me. He carries stock settings, at very fair prices, and allows me to trade up or trade down at a minimal cost. Sometimes, he even gives me credit back! Now, his stock settings do NOT compare to designer hand-forged settings. But, having never owned a designer ring, these settings work for me. I get tons of compliments because they are by no means "maul" quality.

In all honesty, the amount that I spend on my settings averages out to what I used to spend annually on handbags and designer jeans. Since I discovered jewelry, I have had no problem giving up jeans and handbags, so this is how I justify the cost of my settings. I know that if I spent 5-6k on a setting, I WOULD NOT indulge myself as much. But, what I don't know, is if I would get bored with that expensive setting just as soon as I do with my stock ones, and then, I would be stuck..

The one thing to keep in mind is that: there will be time. Enjoy your ring now! And know that there will be time to enjoy it in a different setting next year...and the year after that...there will be time..there will be time...

Or find an enabler jeweler like mine....

Braga, though this isn't a direct response ... please don't ever feel reluctant to post! This is exactly the kind of stuff that keeps me (for one) coming back to PS. I love to see people's thought processes as they apply to aesthetics and sentimental touchstones, and you articulate your perspectives eloquently and beautifully. Keep it coming!

 

[braga123]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I was reluctant to post on this thread because I feel that I have overposted on this topic with each of my threads, so my response would be an obvious one. So instead of summarize my changes, I will attempt to share what I have learned.

I have learned that no matter how infatuated I am with each new setting, it is only a matter of months before it begins to lose its novelty and my eye starts to wander and entertain other possibilities. I blame my jeweler for enabling me. He carries stock settings, at very fair prices, and allows me to trade up or trade down at a minimal cost. Sometimes, he even gives me credit back! Now, his stock settings do NOT compare to designer hand-forged settings. But, having never owned a designer ring, these settings work for me. I get tons of compliments because they are by no means "maul" quality.

In all honesty, the amount that I spend on my settings averages out to what I used to spend annually on handbags and designer jeans. Since I discovered jewelry, I have had no problem giving up jeans and handbags, so this is how I justify the cost of my settings. I know that if I spent 5-6k on a setting, I WOULD NOT indulge myself as much. But, what I don't know, is if I would get bored with that expensive setting just as soon as I do with my stock ones, and then, I would be stuck..

The one thing to keep in mind is that: there will be time. Enjoy your ring now! And know that there will be time to enjoy it in a different setting next year...and the year after that...there will be time..there will be time...

Or find an enabler jeweler like mine....

Braga, though this isn't a direct response ... please don't ever feel reluctant to post! This is exactly the kind of stuff that keeps me (for one) coming back to PS. I love to see people's thought processes as they apply to aesthetics and sentimental touchstones, and you articulate your perspectives eloquently and beautifully. Keep it coming!

Thank you, Circe!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

I am right with you about halo vs. solitaire. I resolved the worry about not seeing the outline of my diamond with a halo by realizing that when I look at a well done halo up close, I will see the definition of the roundness of the MRB. And since I will be the one who always sees it up close, I will be fine with it. From far away, it will look like one big blingy rock. I also released the bling whore in me on the first go around with the reset, and realized that I want more finger coverage than I am getting with my five stone. Yeah, more than this. Geez, , but I am who I am. Just not going to struggle against myself. It's a losing battle.

And yes, an AVC is a dream stone too. And actually, if I had to choose, I would rather put an antique cushion in a VC halo than an MRB. But if I wait around to buy an Canera cushion, who knows when that would be...

Strangely, I am fine with my ring as it is right now. I know it's not my dream setting, but I do see the pros. It's super blingy with the big side stones. It's quite secure (but then how did I knock it loose?). There are definitely things I would change if I could. I don't like the industrial looking prongs I've got. I'd rather have 4 instead of 6. I love eagle claws, but the ones I have are ok. I do tend to knock my girdle quite a bit, so the halo would at least absorb some of that. I'd rather replace melee diamonds. But honestly, the weird thing is I probably would never have discovered what I do want if I didn't figure out what I don't want. So it's a learning process, albeit an expensive one. I too would love to upgrade, but can't for a long time. I change my mind so often. Who knows where I will be next week.

The bolded part is also applicable to me. I was happy with my 1 ct original solitaire and diamond wedding band for 30 years (and we went and looked at rings together before we got engaged so he knew exactly what I liked). I did want to change to platinum, and my husband said I could just get a new set for our anniversary. So I found PS, and I got a H&A 1.6 ct stone. It felt huge to me compared to the 1 ct and I was always afraid it was too big. (Yes, that is hard to imagine, but it was true at the time!). Diamond prices went up, and I took the opportunity to sell that diamond at a profit. In the meantime, I found another diamond just a tiny bit smaller for a great price, so I switched to a 1.58 ct ex cut rb. All of a sudden, that diamond looked too small to me, even though there was only a very tiny difference between the two stones! So I sold it, too! But really, all that is to say that I was never really satisfied because I just didn't have the right thing yet, and I have learned that it is a waste of money to settle for something that is not what I really want!!! So what I really had wanted was an AVR, but they didn't have the specs I wanted. By ordering some stones, I was able to compromise on some specs (like go to I color). I loved AVR's so much that I went larger than my rb's! I first ordered a 1.8 ct stone, but at the time, I couldn't deal with I color. But as I adjusted to that idea, I decided to try a 2 ct AVR and then a 2.3 ct AVR!!! So I went from thinking my 1.6 ct rb was too big to a 2.3 ct AVR!!! It was a process, but I finally have the right diamond for me (I love them in larger sizes, but I am really not comfortable wearing a diamond any larger than the one I have)! As for the setting, it is in my Vatche Tiffany repro because I cannot commit to one setting! They are too expensive to keep changing, and it took me about 3 tries to even get the right solitaire setting with the rb's!!! So I am happily wearing my ring and will reset when I find something that I think I can love forever!

Braga, I think you have a great arrangement with your jeweler! You are right that it is terrible to spend money on an expensive setting and then have the desire to change it. You have a great solution for the setting dilemma!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

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I decided to try a 2 ct AVR and then a 2.3 ct AVR!!! So I went from thinking my 1.6 ct rb was too big to a 2.3 ct AVR!!! It was a process, but I finally have the right diamond for me (I love them in larger sizes, but I am really not comfortable wearing a diamond any larger than the one I have)! As for the setting, it is in my Vatche Tiffany repro because I cannot commit to one setting! They are too expensive to keep changing, and it took me about 3 tries to even get the right solitaire setting with the rb's!!! So I am happily wearing my ring and will reset when I find something that I think I can love forever!

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DS, I see one more upgrade coming soon!...

 

[motownmama]

Re: How have your feelings about your e-ring changed over ti

Love mine more and more every day/year!!!! As you guys know, I had a ridiculous number of bands - so I'm never bored.

(It helps that YG is back in style - although I wear it with both yellow and white bands)