How Does DH Get Along With Your Parents?

[elrohwen]

We talk a lot abour how we get along with our in-laws, but how does your DH get along with your family? Does your family like him? Does he like them?



I have to say that my parents are over the moon about DH. My mom wasn''t a huge fan of the guy I dated before him (the guy was nice, but not marriage material), but she adores DH.

DH likes them well enough - our moms are somewhat similar, so he''s good with my mom. My dad can be extremely quiet and not contribute anything, so sometimes DH thinks he''s a bit weird with his not talking

But I would have to agree with his assessment sometimes. My dad''s a nice guy though and tried to talk a lot more when we were home last, so I think DH warmed up to him a bit.

 

[sunnyd]

DH loves my parents, and they love him too. I feel really lucky that it''s this way, and that my inlaws are fantastic as well!

 

[elrohwen]

You are very lucky, Sunnyd! I read all of the horrible in law stories and I''m so thankful that our families have blended so well and that everyone is genuinely happy that we''re married.

 

[sunnyd]

Indeed! Our families used to be quite close, having dinners all the time, etc because our moms worked together and our dads golfed every weekend, but my mom got a new position and since FIL''s heart attack last summer no golfing. I miss it!

 

[rhbgirl24]

Date: 1/7/2010 12:43:56 PM
Author: sunnyd
DH loves my parents, and they love him too. I feel really lucky that it''s this way, and that my inlaws are fantastic as well!

Same here. We are very lucky as well.

 

[sctsbride09]

DH and my Mom get along great, my stepdad neither of us is too crazy about (long story), but of course we are respectful regardless. We tend to get together with her more when my stepdad is out of town.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

They get along pretty well aside from the 5 second rule incident at a chinese restaurant 4 days before the wedding lol, don''t make me go into detail haha

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 1/7/2010 2:27:52 PM
Author: rhbgirl24

Date: 1/7/2010 12:43:56 PM
Author: sunnyd
DH loves my parents, and they love him too. I feel really lucky that it''s this way, and that my inlaws are fantastic as well!

Same here. We are very lucky as well.

I''m in the same boat. I''ve gotten along famously with DH''s parents since day 1. I think his mother likes having another female around since for so long it was just her, FIL, and BIL + DH. Took DH a little while to relax more in front of my parents but he managed to bond really well with my father on a weekend we all went to NYC together. I left them alone for a few hours and after the weeekdn my dad told me that DH was a keeper. I feel lucky that we all get along so well because I don''t think its terribly typical.

 

[Bella_mezzo]

My parents were a little standoffish at first but now everyone gets along pretty well. two years ago my parents went on a cruise to Alaska and my dad bought my then BF (now DH) a really awesome present. My parents got me pepto-bismol pink socks with scenes from Alaska on them

I think they might like him better than me

 

[Haven]

My parents love my husband, and we''re lucky that everyone gets along really well.
Our families celebrate holidays together, so that''s really nice, too.

 

[Lilac]

My mom loves DH and I think she truly feels like he is a son to her now. My dad likes him too and my stepmom seems to really like him also. My stepdad doesn''t like anyone, and we feel the same way towards him (so his opinion doesn''t mean anything to me anyway).

I feel truly lucky that my parents get along so well with my husband. We all really enjoy spending time together and my whole family has been really welcoming to DH and they have all made him feel at home and part of the family.

 

[zoebartlett]

My husband gets along well with my parents. They don''t always understand each other (they''re very different), but they do get along.

 

[elrohwen]

I''m starting to think that our DHs have it easy! It seems that there are so many MILs who don''t get alone with the lovely ladies who have married their sons, which is such a shame. At least our DHs don''t seem to be going through the same thing!

 

[wannaBMrsH]

My parents ADORE my DH. All my brothers and sisters pretty much feel the same way about him, they just LOVE him. In fact, there HAS been discussion in my family that they will keep DH in the event of any divorce and I do hope that they are kidding...I would hate to be orphaned as well as divorced!

I think in general, the mother in the family sets the tone for the rest of the clans in respect to like and dislike. IMHO, this is because men traditionally don''t develop the "feeling" relationships the way that women do. At least in my case, if my mom takes an immediate disliking to someone, we tend to avoid spending time with those people and thus we don''t really "like" them as much. My dad and brothers just go along to avoid trouble, KWIM?

That is why we struggle with our IL''s, IMO. If MIL feels threatened or "pushed aside", usually the rest of the inlaws will have a tendency to distance themselves until everyone knows how things will work out. I know in our case, MIL eventually came around and now I am quite close with almost everyone in DHs family. The only exception is BIL, who said some really ugly things when MIL made some complaints. I think he really doesn''t know how to come back from that, because honestly, even DH won''t let bygones be bygones...he wants BIL to actually apologize for the things that were said or at least discuss them and I think he is way more hurt than I am by his brother missing our wedding in spite of us offering to pay for him and his wife and daughter to attend.

 

[dcgator]

Date: 1/7/2010 6:44:17 PM
Author: Haven
My parents love my husband, and we''re lucky that everyone gets along really well.
Our families celebrate holidays together, so that''s really nice, too.

I am in this lucky lady boat too.

My brother has NEVER liked any of my bf''s and my brother actually got my DH a Christmas card the first time I brought him for Christmas. I just about started to tear up...The rest of my family loves him too. We are a pretty open bunch, so once he saw the dynamic, he fit right in.

I actually love his family too and I think that his mom enjoys having me as a DIL, especially since she didn''t really like some of DH''s previous gf''s. DH''s dad and step-dad really like me too, so that helps me out big time.

 

[Kim N]

Date: 1/7/2010 2:27:52 PM
Author: rhbgirl24

Date: 1/7/2010 12:43:56 PM
Author: sunnyd

DH loves my parents, and they love him too. I feel really lucky that it's this way, and that my inlaws are fantastic as well!

Same here. We are very lucky as well.

I feel very lucky that we have this too.

 

[musey]

Everyone gets along very well. Myself with my in-laws, hubs with my parents and siblings, my parents with his. We''re very lucky

especially seeing how not-well my parents get along with my sister in-law (brother''s wife) and her parents... that puts things in perspective for us. The relationships on my side couldn''t be much better. Without being creepy, anyway.

 

[Laila619]

Everyone gets along well and likes each other.

No drama.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

DH LOVES my parents!

 

[vespergirl]

I''m pretty sure that my parents love my husband MORE than they love ME.

They are always telling me how lucky I was to get him, and I''m like, "Hello, I''m a catch too!"

Seriously, though, they all get along really well. My mother is a very difficult person to get along with (she has a personality disorder) but even so, DH says that he can handle her since he knows what to expect, and he sincerely believes that she means well, even though she has no idea about how to act or treat people.

It''s funny, because people always complain about their in-laws, but I''m one of the few people who LOVES my in-laws, but I have trouble hanging out with my own family. Come to think of it, maybe I am lucky to have my DH - he is pretty tolerant of my crazy family

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

My husband and my Mother get along very well, for awhile his car was broken and they even commuted to work together, I would find out my family news from my Mother through my husband, lol.

Now for my Step-father, well, no one gets along with him, ha.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 1/11/2010 5:32:40 PM
Author: vespergirl
I''m pretty sure that my parents love my husband MORE than they love ME.

They are always telling me how lucky I was to get him, and I''m like, ''Hello, I''m a catch too!''

Seriously, though, they all get along really well. My mother is a very difficult person to get along with (she has a personality disorder) but even so, DH says that he can handle her since he knows what to expect, and he sincerely believes that she means well, even though she has no idea about how to act or treat people.

It''s funny, because people always complain about their in-laws, but I''m one of the few people who LOVES my in-laws, but I have trouble hanging out with my own family. Come to think of it, maybe I am lucky to have my DH - he is pretty tolerant of my crazy family

Ha, ditto the bolded part! My parents LOVE my husband and he and my dad are BFF, I swear! Sometimes my husband goes to my parents'' house (they live about an hour away) without me just to hang out with my dad. After my husband and I had been dating for about a year, my dad actually told my mom that if my husband and I ever broke up my dad was still going to be friends with him!

 

[AdiS]

Date: 1/11/2010 6:52:05 PM
Author: thing2of2

Date: 1/11/2010 5:32:40 PM
Author: vespergirl
I''m pretty sure that my parents love my husband MORE than they love ME.

They are always telling me how lucky I was to get him, and I''m like, ''Hello, I''m a catch too!''

Seriously, though, they all get along really well. My mother is a very difficult person to get along with (she has a personality disorder) but even so, DH says that he can handle her since he knows what to expect, and he sincerely believes that she means well, even though she has no idea about how to act or treat people.

It''s funny, because people always complain about their in-laws, but I''m one of the few people who LOVES my in-laws, but I have trouble hanging out with my own family. Come to think of it, maybe I am lucky to have my DH - he is pretty tolerant of my crazy family

Ha, ditto the bolded part! My parents LOVE my husband and he and my dad are BFF, I swear! Sometimes my husband goes to my parents'' house (they live about an hour away) without me just to hang out with my dad. After my husband and I had been dating for about a year, my dad actually told my mom that if my husband and I ever broke up my dad was still going to be friends with him!

And thritto the bolded part!

They love him, DH loves them, they have a great relationship.

My relationship with his parents though... well, suffice to say, the dynamics there is a little different. lol

 

[Laila619]

That''s funny, thing2!

 

[katamari]

DH gets along with any and everybody. He is just one of those guys. But, my family especially loves him.

 

[Bliss]

My family adores DH and think he''s the best thing ever to come into my life. I have to agree! It wasn''t an easy road getting to this point, though. At first, they thought no one was good enough for me. Now, they see how incredible he is and are quite impressed with him.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 1/12/2010 10:04:44 AM
Author: Laila619
That''s funny, thing2!

I know! My mom was like "Yeah we''ll see how that goes over with thing2!" Let''s just say I don''t have a track record of being friendly with exes!

My dad just LOVES my husband. It''s pretty adorable, really-I actually always tell my dad he''s in love with Mr. Thing, they''re boyfriends, etc.

Plus my dad used to always tell me "Be nice to Mr. Thing!" out of nowhere. I mean, I''m a little bit mean in general but it''s not like I mistreat the hubs!

I guess my dad was afraid I''d drive his best friend away!

 

[radiantquest]

He feels the same way I do. He tolerates them. It is funny because the other day I needed to print a paper and our printer wasn''t working and he was willing to go to my parents house and I wasn''t, where I was willing to go to his parents house and he wasn''t. Is that dysfunctional?