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[LuckyTexan]

I spent a week with my mother, who at 57, after 5 kids, and a whole lot of crash dieting, and binging, is still a size 18. I witnessed, and was the center of some very rude comments about other women who are skinnier than her. This experience got me thinking.

How do you see yourself?

I''m 33 now, and I have 2 beautiful children. All things considered, I think I look great! When I see other women, who are still young, and effortlessly thin, and don''t have the tell tale signs of mommy-hood, I don''t envy them, or begrudge them their perfection... I honestly don''t!

I have a few places on me that need fixing, and if I can''t get back to where I want to be by conventional methods, I''ll seek help with a plastic surgeon... something I''ve always had in the back of my mind as an option.

One of the women my mom was so jealous of (that is ALL it really is) was this older lady, who was jogging through her new neighborhood. She was probably 50+ and looked AWESOME... and what I thought was... WOW, I hope I look that good, and can still be that active when I am her age!!! My MOM on the other hand was like going on and on about how this woman was out flaunting her boobs and trying to show off to all the neighborhood men...

HOW DARE this lady show herself in public looking that fabulous!!! SHEESH!!!

How do you feel about other women who are stereotypically ''better'' than you?

 

[princesss]

I really don't like how I look. I was always rail thin and then in college I just lost all motivation. I went through a rough patch, and I'm an emotional eater with no control when it comes to sweets. I know I'm not huge (I'm 5' 10" and a size 10/12), but I used to be an effortless 6, so it's a little difficult to adjust to my "new" body.

But, I'm working on it. I have been joining sports teams and once it opens up, there are Weight Watchers meetings where I work, so I'm going to join those and learn how to choose my meals and work on portion control.

ETA: As for how I feel about women who are stereotypically "better" than I am...well, I get jealous sometimes. Not mean jealous, but "Dang, why isn't that me?" jealous. I try to be content with how I look and not compare, but that doesn't work the way I want it to. I do remind myself that no matter what my body looks like, I love my life, and no matter how much better they may look (and how great their lives may be), they don't have MY life. And then it's hard to be jealous. (Okay, except for one freaking girl who seems to pop up in my life all the time, no matter what. I've known her since 6th grade, and she's gorgeous, wealthy, slim, funny, athletic, healthy...the list goes on and on. It drives me slightly batty. Not to mention half the guys I dated through high school wanted her first, and then ended up with me. Yeah. That felt great.)

 

[LuckyTexan]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:55:44 PM
Author: princesss
I really don''t like how I look. I was always rail thin and then in college I just lost all motivation. I went through a rough patch, and I''m an emotional eater with no control when it comes to sweets. I know I''m not huge (I''m 5'' 10'' and a size 10/12), but I used to be an effortless 6, so it''s a little difficult to adjust to my ''new'' body.

But, I''m working on it. I have been joining sports teams and once it opens up, there are Weight Watchers meetings where I work, so I''m going to join those and learn how to choose my meals and work on portion control.

Are you anywhere near SE Texas? We could literally share our wardrobes! LOL! What bothers me at this size (cuz honestly 10/12 is NOT big by any means), is that designer clothes are too small. I can''t buy the jeans I want!

What size shoe do you wear? I''m an 11. Another over designer size item! LOL!

 

[princesss]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:59:47 PM
Author: LuckyTexan

Date: 8/24/2008 12:55:44 PM

Author: princesss

I really don''t like how I look. I was always rail thin and then in college I just lost all motivation. I went through a rough patch, and I''m an emotional eater with no control when it comes to sweets. I know I''m not huge (I''m 5'' 10'' and a size 10/12), but I used to be an effortless 6, so it''s a little difficult to adjust to my ''new'' body.


But, I''m working on it. I have been joining sports teams and once it opens up, there are Weight Watchers meetings where I work, so I''m going to join those and learn how to choose my meals and work on portion control.

Are you anywhere near SE Texas? We could literally share our wardrobes! LOL! What bothers me at this size (cuz honestly 10/12 is NOT big by any means), is that designer clothes are too small. I can''t buy the jeans I want!


What size shoe do you wear? I''m an 11. Another over designer size item! LOL!

Haha, nope, I''m over in NC. But it''d be nice to have somebody to share clothes with, lol! I wear a 9.5-10 in shoes, though, so that makes things kind of easy. At least I can have *something* awesome in my wardrobe. Plus, I''m curvy (I''ve got that whole hourglass thing going on) so it''s generally impossible to find clothes that fit the way I want them to. They''re either too small in the thigh, too small in the bust, or too wide at the waist. I love shopping, but it''s a marathon to find 1 thing that fits the way it should.

 

[LuckyTexan]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:02:47 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 8/24/2008 12:59:47 PM
Author: LuckyTexan

Date: 8/24/2008 12:55:44 PM

Author: princesss

I really don''t like how I look. I was always rail thin and then in college I just lost all motivation. I went through a rough patch, and I''m an emotional eater with no control when it comes to sweets. I know I''m not huge (I''m 5'' 10'' and a size 10/12), but I used to be an effortless 6, so it''s a little difficult to adjust to my ''new'' body.


But, I''m working on it. I have been joining sports teams and once it opens up, there are Weight Watchers meetings where I work, so I''m going to join those and learn how to choose my meals and work on portion control.

Are you anywhere near SE Texas? We could literally share our wardrobes! LOL! What bothers me at this size (cuz honestly 10/12 is NOT big by any means), is that designer clothes are too small. I can''t buy the jeans I want!


What size shoe do you wear? I''m an 11. Another over designer size item! LOL!

Haha, nope, I''m over in NC. But it''d be nice to have somebody to share clothes with, lol! I wear a 9.5-10 in shoes, though, so that makes things kind of easy. At least I can have *something* awesome in my wardrobe. Plus, I''m curvy (I''ve got that whole hourglass thing going on) so it''s generally impossible to find clothes that fit the way I want them to. They''re either too small in the thigh, too small in the bust, or too wide at the waist. I love shopping, but it''s a marathon to find 1 thing that fits the way it should.

Gap should pay me for advertising.
Have you tried being fitted at a Gap? My sister has your proportions... and she was telling me how she never ever finds a pair of pants that fit her thigh and bum, but go up and over and fit at the waist. So I suggested Gap Curvy jeans, and they were perfect!

I''ve got an hourglass figure too, and legs too long for regular longs. I''m annoyed with shopping for clothes! Banana Republic has an extra long tall jean that is actually long enough for me to wear a shoe with, so at least I can order those online and have clothes to wear! We recently discovered that True Religion jeans come standard with a 35.5" inseam... so the shorties have to fix them! ABOUT TIME!!!! You can always take fabric off!!! I''ll be getting some AFTER I am skinny again! I''m literally losing a pound a week right now, so I won''t be doing any major shopping!

My problem right now, is the skin on my tummy from babies... I need a higher waist AKA MOM JEAN to keep it all tamed.

 

[iluvcarats]

Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!
I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.
What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!
I''m sick of being called *cute*
I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be "so little and cute!"
It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat "wow - your really fat!" but people think nothing of saying to me "you''re so short!"
I don''t get it?
I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent
I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

well that is my rant.
Then I slap myself in the head and say
"You are so lucky to be healthy and living in a country where there is enough food to eat and fresh water to drink, with hospitals and medicine for your children if they get sick"

I guess I would be in the catagory of trying....

 

[LuckyTexan]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM
Author: iluvcarats
Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!
I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.
What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!
I''m sick of being called *cute*
I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''
It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''
I don''t get it?
I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent
I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

well that is my rant.
Then I slap myself in the head and say
''You are so lucky to be healthy and living in a country where there is enough food to eat and fresh water to drink, with hospitals and medicine for your children if they get sick''

I guess I would be in the catagory of trying....

I''ve always wondered why people think it''s ok to say to us (my DH is 6''5") that we are so tall... it''s kind of rude to me... cuz it''s like RANDOM people!

We were in the mall, at Nordstrom, at the perfume counter, and this lady who didn''t work there, who was just walking by, STOPPED and TOUCHED my husband, and was like... OMG you are SO TALL!!!

We were both like... WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT!!!????

I have to admit... my Aunt is like 5''1" and I always tell her that she is so little and cute... I wonder if it bothers her that I say that. I may never do it again after hearing you say all that! LOL!

 

[princesss]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM
Author: iluvcarats
Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!

I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.

What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!

I''m sick of being called *cute*

I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''

It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''

I don''t get it?

I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent

I would love to know what the view is like *up there*


well that is my rant.

Then I slap myself in the head and say

''You are so lucky to be healthy and living in a country where there is enough food to eat and fresh water to drink, with hospitals and medicine for your children if they get sick''


I guess I would be in the catagory of trying....

I''d be happy to give you a few of my inches! It would be so nice sometimes to be a little shorter and be able to wear heels without feeling like I could stomp through places, Godzilla-style.

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:18:39 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM

Author: iluvcarats

Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!


I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.


What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!


I''m sick of being called *cute*


I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''


It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''


I don''t get it?


I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent


I would love to know what the view is like *up there*



well that is my rant.


Then I slap myself in the head and say


''You are so lucky to be healthy and living in a country where there is enough food to eat and fresh water to drink, with hospitals and medicine for your children if they get sick''



I guess I would be in the catagory of trying....

I''d be happy to give you a few of my inches! It would be so nice sometimes to be a little shorter and be able to wear heels without feeling like I could stomp through places, Godzilla-style.

I wear heels just so that I can be 5''3"...LOL The grass is always greener...

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:18:16 PM
Author: LuckyTexan

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM

Author: iluvcarats

Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!

I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.

What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!

I''m sick of being called *cute*

I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''

It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''

I don''t get it?

I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent

I would love to know what the view is like *up there*


well that is my rant.

Then I slap myself in the head and say

''You are so lucky to be healthy and living in a country where there is enough food to eat and fresh water to drink, with hospitals and medicine for your children if they get sick''


I guess I would be in the catagory of trying....

I''ve always wondered why people think it''s ok to say to us (my DH is 6''5'') that we are so tall... it''s kind of rude to me... cuz it''s like RANDOM people!


We were in the mall, at Nordstrom, at the perfume counter, and this lady who didn''t work there, who was just walking by, STOPPED and TOUCHED my husband, and was like... OMG you are SO TALL!!!


We were both like... WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT!!!????


I have to admit... my Aunt is like 5''1'' and I always tell her that she is so little and cute... I wonder if it bothers her that I say that. I may never do it again after hearing you say all that! LOL!

LT - Some people are just rude! I think you are lucky.
It cracks me up when people start threads about not being able to find pants long enough! I sometimes have to shorten petites LOL
I marvel at the fact that we''re all from the same planet!

 

[Rhea]

I wish I were taller. I''m happy with my weight but not how I carry it. I''ve done sports since I was very young but quit in university to work and study. Now I can''t find the engery. My weight looks fine and my clothing size is fine, but I know that fat weighs less than muscle. I want to be 10 pounds heavier. I want the shape back in my arms and shoulders.

 

[bee*]

I''m not very happy with things at the moment as I put on quite a bit of weight, but I''m working on it also. When I see people who are a lot thinner and have great figures, I just hope that it''s me sometime soon!

 

[marcy]

I used to be very overweight and when I saw someone skinny (okay practically everyone was skinnier than me) I was never jealous or envious of them I just wished I was thinner. Now that I am a normal sized person the only thing I notice is that now I am smaller than a lot of people. I used to be very unhappy with my appearance. Now I am delighted with my appearance inspite of my many flaws. I will never, ever be model or Hollywood thin but if I never lose another ounce I am okay with that.

 

[Anna0499]

I am generally happy with how I look, although I have the typical "could be better" ideas everyone else has as well. It is interesting that you talked about your friend who was criticizing skinnier women because I notice this a lot from older women (I am 25). It is appearance combined with age I think. Some of them give me the up-and-down look & I can pretty much tell what they are thinking...it''s annoying but I don''t let it affect me & just feel sorry for them. The worst is when they instinctively grab their SO''s hand, arm, etc. as if I wanted him!

Iluvcarats - I can totally relate to your frustration about buying pants! I''m very petite too & although you can cut off fabric it never looks good because of the cut of the pants (i.e. flare or bootcut jeans) or the stitching will be off.

It''s very annoying! I''ve never wished to be taller though, I like being the "little lady" haha I am, however, glad that I am a woman & not a man, as I know society has strange hang-ups about short men.

 

[Dee*Jay]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM
Author: iluvcarats
Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!
I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.
What I wouldn't do for a couple of your inches!
I'm sick of being called *cute*
I'm sure that in my 40's and 50's I'll still be 'so little and cute!'
It's not ok to say to some one who is really fat 'wow - your really fat!' but people think nothing of saying to me 'you're so short!'
I don't get it?
I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent
I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

At 5 feet tall (on a good day... ) I'm right there with you! Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time someone has commented on my height I would be rich as well as short. Sometimes I say, in my most sincere voice, "thank god you told me that! I've lived my WHOLE LIFE with no idea that I was short."

The other day I was in Ann Taylor trying on some pants and when I popped out to ask the sales associate for a different size she looked down at all the fabric puddled around my fee and said, "honey, you need those in *petite*." Um. Yah. Thanks. They WERE petite.

And along with being 5 feet tall, I also have very small feet (I'm about a size 5, but depending on the designer I can sometimes get away with a 5-1/2). Sales people in the shoe department just LOVE to "suggest" that pershaps I should try the children's department, especially for sandles.

Don't even get me started about my short arms and having sleeves fall to my fingertips. And yes, also in petite sizes!

 

[Independent Gal]

Before I was pregnant, I was pretty darn happy with my body. Yes, I'm stupidly short, and I, like my mom and her mom before her, have what could be best described as chicken legs. It's not that my thighs are fat, in fact, thanks to hours of weekly exercise and careful healthy diet, they are nicely inverse and muscular, but they will always look like short chunks on top of my short skinny calves. Just the way I'm built! And I've always thought my chest (32 Double Dollies... but now a pregnant 32 E...or is it F now?) looked RIDICULOUS!!!

OK, so why am I (was I) happy with my bod? Well, because I try hard not to look at those things! I can't change those. So I focus on the things I love about my body. I'm strong. Proportional. I have a really nice long neck and shoulders. I maintain a healthy weight and eat a good diet. I have cute feet. And I have my mom's wrinkly hands, even at my young age, which makes me happy. So usually I look in the mirror and feel great. But that's because of the hard work I do to take care of my body, and the fact that I actively concentrate on the things I like, not the things I don't like.

We were out today and i saw a gaggle of 20ish gals with fab-o muscular legs and I said to DH "Hey, you know, even at 20, I never had legs like that. But I'm still cute as I am, right? RIGHT?" Usually, if I see pretty young things, or 50+ hardbodies (like my step-mom) I think "GOOD FOR YOU!!!" and take pleasure in the beauty of the human form.


But right now, at 14wks (ish) pregnoid, I feel swollen and I have a pizza-face of HORRIFYING acne. So, not feeling my best. But I'll get back to where I want to be, come hell or high water after my twins are born! Even if I have to hire a trainer to kick my backside to do it.

I love feeling healthy and strong.

 

[princesss]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:30:19 PM
Author: Dee*Jay

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM

Author: iluvcarats

Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!

I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.

What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!

I''m sick of being called *cute*

I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''

It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''

I don''t get it?

I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent

I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

At 5 feet tall (on a good day... ) I''m right there with you! Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time someone has commented on my height I would be rich as well as short. Sometimes I say, in my most sincere voice, ''thank god you told me that! I''ve lived my WHOLE LIFE with no idea that I was short.''

The other day I was in Ann Taylor trying on some pants and when I popped out to ask the sales associate for a different size she looked down at all the fabric puddled around my fee and said, ''honey, you need those in *petite*.'' Um. Yah. Thanks. They WERE petite.


And along with being 5 feet tall, I also have very small feet (I''m about a size 5, but depending on the designer I can sometimes get away with a 5-1/2). Sales people in the shoe department just LOVE to ''suggest'' that pershaps I should try the children''s department, especially for sandles.

Don''t even get me started about my short arms and having sleeves fall to my fingertips. And yes, also in petite sizes!

Ugh. It''s not a whole lot better on the tall side.

At least I''m back in the States trying to buy clothes. When I was in Singapore I could never find clothes that fit (at least until Zara showed up). But I would get comments about how "big" I was all the time. Even though I knew they meant "tall" it stung a little. But really, why the need to point out how tall I am? I''m well aware, thanks.

Even here, I get comments sometimes. Especially when I wear heels. "Why are you wearing those? You don''t need them! You''re so tall!" Generally "They complete the outfit" doesn''t exactly get people to shut up. It''s how I started making Godzilla jokes. If they''re going to comment on it, I might as well make it entertaining.

 

[allycat0303]

I see myself as a short girl. I am not crazy about my weight right now (highest it''s ever been).

Ordinary face, ordinary eyes. My lips are little bit too big, and the color a little too pink, so I feel as though everyone is looking at the mouth area (teeth/lips), so that makes me self conscious.

Pretty ordinary, I guess, but I think I have a lot of things going for me other then looks. My parents (mostly my mom) has always raised me to believe that looks were insignificant in life, and what really mattered was your intelligence, and you''re ability to work hard. I have both of the latter in abundance. So I am confident about my brain (so confident that even though I''m not confident about my looks, I am confident that I have a lot to offer.) If that makes any sense.

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:46:40 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 8/24/2008 7:30:19 PM

Author: Dee*Jay

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM


Author: iluvcarats


Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!


I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.


What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!


I''m sick of being called *cute*


I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''


It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''


I don''t get it?


I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent


I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

At 5 feet tall (on a good day... ) I''m right there with you! Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time someone has commented on my height I would be rich as well as short. Sometimes I say, in my most sincere voice, ''thank god you told me that! I''ve lived my WHOLE LIFE with no idea that I was short.''

The other day I was in Ann Taylor trying on some pants and when I popped out to ask the sales associate for a different size she looked down at all the fabric puddled around my fee and said, ''honey, you need those in *petite*.'' Um. Yah. Thanks. They WERE petite.



And along with being 5 feet tall, I also have very small feet (I''m about a size 5, but depending on the designer I can sometimes get away with a 5-1/2). Sales people in the shoe department just LOVE to ''suggest'' that pershaps I should try the children''s department, especially for sandles.

Don''t even get me started about my short arms and having sleeves fall to my fingertips. And yes, also in petite sizes!

Ugh. It''s not a whole lot better on the tall side.


At least I''m back in the States trying to buy clothes. When I was in Singapore I could never find clothes that fit (at least until Zara showed up). But I would get comments about how ''big'' I was all the time. Even though I knew they meant ''tall'' it stung a little. But really, why the need to point out how tall I am? I''m well aware, thanks.


Even here, I get comments sometimes. Especially when I wear heels. ''Why are you wearing those? You don''t need them! You''re so tall!'' Generally ''They complete the outfit'' doesn''t exactly get people to shut up. It''s how I started making Godzilla jokes. If they''re going to comment on it, I might as well make it entertaining.

That is really interesting Princess!
I always thought that tall people loved being tall - the whole model thing and all.
I always thought it would be amazing to be tall and lanky - like winning the genetic lottery or something.
You never have to worry about gaining weight - eat whatever you want blah blah blah...
And oh how I envy tall pregnant women, who didn''t show until their 7th month, like Nicole Kidman.
I was showing on the 7th day...
And the reflux...a cheerio would give me reflux!

I say you wear those heels and rock it!
I wish that I could wear flats, but I think it makes me look like a little kid!

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:30:19 PM
Author: Dee*Jay

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM

Author: iluvcarats

Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!

I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.

What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!

I''m sick of being called *cute*

I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''

It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''

I don''t get it?

I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent

I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

At 5 feet tall (on a good day... ) I''m right there with you! Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time someone has commented on my height I would be rich as well as short. Sometimes I say, in my most sincere voice, ''thank god you told me that! I''ve lived my WHOLE LIFE with no idea that I was short.''

The other day I was in Ann Taylor trying on some pants and when I popped out to ask the sales associate for a different size she looked down at all the fabric puddled around my fee and said, ''honey, you need those in *petite*.'' Um. Yah. Thanks. They WERE petite.


And along with being 5 feet tall, I also have very small feet (I''m about a size 5, but depending on the designer I can sometimes get away with a 5-1/2). Sales people in the shoe department just LOVE to ''suggest'' that pershaps I should try the children''s department, especially for sandles.

Don''t even get me started about my short arms and having sleeves fall to my fingertips. And yes, also in petite sizes!

DeeJay!! Welcome to the land of Lilliput!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I''m definitely not the stereotypical beautiful woman. I voted don''t like the way I look and ''m trying to change it because I am, but it isn''t because of the stereotype. I just want to be a bit healthier. Heh the problem for me is typically..I look so much better in my head than I do when I look in the mirror. I think of myself as about a size 10-12! Well, needless to say I am not anywhere near a 10.

I wish I was. I don''t want to be a 2..I just want to be like a 10, 12, or 14. I''m 5''9" and about size 10 or 11 shoe-wise. So I''m a larger girl overall. I want to get in better shape, lose some weight, and maintain my hourglass figure. I want to be me..just a smaller version of me. Sometimes I get jealous of the stereotypical beautiful woman. On my don''t feel like a size 10 bad days, I feel kind of like some kind of huge thing or something sometimes because all of the girls around me always seem to be so much more petite (height and size) and everyone tells them how beautiful they are it seems. Oh well. I know being shorter can not be fun as well and just as hard to find clothes. FI loves me for who I am and that makes me happy. So I am just going to try to keep the good qualities and improve anything I am unhappy with. Going to work with what I''ve got!

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:30:19 PM
Author: Dee*Jay

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM
Author: iluvcarats
Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!
I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.
What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!
I''m sick of being called *cute*
I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''
It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''
I don''t get it?
I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent
I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

At 5 feet tall (on a good day... ) I''m right there with you! Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time someone has commented on my height I would be rich as well as short. Sometimes I say, in my most sincere voice, ''thank god you told me that! I''ve lived my WHOLE LIFE with no idea that I was short.''

The other day I was in Ann Taylor trying on some pants and when I popped out to ask the sales associate for a different size she looked down at all the fabric puddled around my fee and said, ''honey, you need those in *petite*.'' Um. Yah. Thanks. They WERE petite.

And along with being 5 feet tall, I also have very small feet (I''m about a size 5, but depending on the designer I can sometimes get away with a 5-1/2). Sales people in the shoe department just LOVE to ''suggest'' that pershaps I should try the children''s department, especially for sandles.

Don''t even get me started about my short arms and having sleeves fall to my fingertips. And yes, also in petite sizes!

Dee,
AnnTaylor is just ripping us off, why have petite, if you have to go and have the petite clothes hemmed?? Makes no sense, and I am 5''4 and their pants are miles long on me. So yeah, that stinks.

On a side note, being 46, I am ok with my body. I wish I could be the 110 I used to be before I hit 40. But also wish for 20/20 vision too.

I have to say I love my age, and am at a happy place in my life.

 

[princesss]

Date: 8/24/2008 8:12:23 PM
Author: iluvcarats

That is really interesting Princess!

I always thought that tall people loved being tall - the whole model thing and all.

I always thought it would be amazing to be tall and lanky - like winning the genetic lottery or something.

You never have to worry about gaining weight - eat whatever you want blah blah blah...

And oh how I envy tall pregnant women, who didn''t show until their 7th month, like Nicole Kidman.

I was showing on the 7th day...

And the reflux...a cheerio would give me reflux!

I say you wear those heels and rock it!

I wish that I could wear flats, but I think it makes me look like a little kid!

You know, it wasn''t so bad when I was tall and thin as a rail and really could eat anything. And then puberty hit.

I will admit it''s a little nice having more space to distribute the weight I''ve gained, but it just means I''ve got long, flabby legs, lol! My two best friends are my height, but naturally slim (that never have to work for it kind of slim) and it''s so funny. I always tell them I want to be slim like them, and they always tell me they want my curves.

This definitely is one of those "grass is always greener" things. Yeah, ideally I''d be shorter and slimmer. But I''m sure there are girls who wish they had my figure! It doesn''t mean it doesn''t stink sometimes, though.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

not good...

 

[jcrow]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:30:19 PM
Author: Dee*Jay

Date: 8/24/2008 1:13:41 PM
Author: iluvcarats
Lucky Texan and Princess - how I envy you!
I have always been on the other side of the spectrum - 5 feet tall.
What I wouldn''t do for a couple of your inches!
I''m sick of being called *cute*
I''m sure that in my 40''s and 50''s I''ll still be ''so little and cute!''
It''s not ok to say to some one who is really fat ''wow - your really fat!'' but people think nothing of saying to me ''you''re so short!''
I don''t get it?
I have a little gymnansts body(w/o) the talent
I would love to know what the view is like *up there*

At 5 feet tall (on a good day... ) I''m right there with you! Seriously, if I had a dollar for every time someone has commented on my height I would be rich as well as short. Sometimes I say, in my most sincere voice, ''thank god you told me that! I''ve lived my WHOLE LIFE with no idea that I was short.''

The other day I was in Ann Taylor trying on some pants and when I popped out to ask the sales associate for a different size she looked down at all the fabric puddled around my fee and said, ''honey, you need those in *petite*.'' Um. Yah. Thanks. They WERE petite.

And along with being 5 feet tall, I also have very small feet (I''m about a size 5, but depending on the designer I can sometimes get away with a 5-1/2). Sales people in the shoe department just LOVE to ''suggest'' that pershaps I should try the children''s department, especially for sandles.

Don''t even get me started about my short arms and having sleeves fall to my fingertips. And yes, also in petite sizes!

hey Dee*Jay, i could have written that post myself. word-for-word. 5'' foot tall on a good day & size 5 foot. such FUN clothes + shoes shopping

 

[bebe]

I voted I''m ok with myself. I could stand to hit the weights and tone up.

It''s funny how we view ourself. I''m 5''7", in high school I wanted to be short and have a gymnast type of body because all the cheerleaders looked like that!
I was so thin in college I put weights in my coat pockets to qualify to give blood for a friend who needed it!! I think I was 101lbs or somewhere around that.
I''m now 120, which is ok weight wise, but still need to firm up. My rear is growing down the back of my legs! But for 53, I''ll take what I am.
And I''d love my eyesight back and good knees and strong nails....

But getting older is ok, cause you grow into yourself and become comfortable in your own skin. That''s about the only good thing!!

 

[Independent Gal]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:46:40 PM
Author: princesss


At least I''m back in the States trying to buy clothes. When I was in Singapore I could never find clothes that fit ...

AAAGH! This is exactly why I

shopping in Singapore. I can never find things that fit me in the US! I''m shaped most like a French girl, though, so French, and sometimes Italian clothes fit me best.

It''s trouble though. I am definitely not built like a ''classic'' Yankee Gal.

I love what bebe said about growing into your own skin. And btw, for nails? Go nuts on the calcium. Since I''ve been on this prego-milk-binge, my nails have never been better!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I believe any woman can be beautiful if they put effort into it. Am I stick thin? No. Would I want to be? No! I think women have curves for a reason, and I think it''s extremely attractive. The pudge at my belly? Not a wanted curve, but I love myself, anyway.

People are about so much more than how they look. I think that when you let how you look have an effect on how you feel, or how you treat others, that is when it''s a problem.

We''re active and we have fun. We exercise because it makes us feel good, not so that we can be attractive for others. To try to reach for what''s "hot" in this world is to run your life based on what others think, while I''d rather focus on what matters to me.

So, I chose "I''m not perfect, but that''s okay!" as my choice.

 

[Aloros]

I love the way I look!

I do have a crook in my nose, but I rarely, if ever, waste any time thinking about that anymore. I think it adds "character" to my face

. And the prematurely gray hairs? I think they help make me look dignified (and I''ve always been pinned as younger than I am, so it''ll cut down on being carded!).

I do receive a lot of compliments on my appearance, but I honestly think that it''s the way that a person carries themself that forms a HUGE component of attractiveness. I''ve seen some unconventionally beautiful women who were just mesmerizing. They speak with intelligence and carry themselves with confidence. They look comfortable with who they are.

I''m slender right now, but I do wish I was a little more fit. I like feeling more strong - it makes me feel more capable.

 

[Shoopy]

I voted for #3.

Honestly, I don''t mind the way I look. I''ve always been big so I know how to dress for my size. People are amazed when I tell them I''m a 16/18 because I know how to hide my trouble areas. My FI is a dream in that he never makes me feel bigger than I am.

However, I am bothered by my size. We recently went to a pool party. I pretended that I Aunt Flo came to town as to not get into a bathing suit in front of his friends. It was silly but I was uncomfortable. And now with my best friend''s wedding coming up and going dress shopping on Saturday, I feel even worse. There were a lot of dresses that she loved that was not flattering on my figure.

I am working on it though. My FI and I are exercising together 3 times a week and 3 times I go alone. I look forward to being thinner. Now, keep in mind that to me the perfect size is a size 10. I have no intention on ever being thinner than that since I love curves and I think women with curves are beautiful.