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How do you feel about yourself as a mother?
I have been a mother for more than half of my life. The problem I am facing is that it seems the more experience I gain as a mother, the less confident I become. My three children in their 20’s are doing great. They have all exceeded my expectations. They are strong, resilient people who are moving toward success. They are good people.
But I took on another round of parenting. Our youngest son is 12. So, at a time when I should be sort of sitting back and watching my children transition into adulthood and be doing the parenting adults portion of my life, I am parenting a middle schooler. This son is precious, the baby, and he scares me. He’s done absolutely nothing wrong. I’m just freaked that I am getting this wrong all of the time because I know more now. I have had a lot of therapy. I know how to mess up a kid now through learning how I was messed up. I’m spooked and have lost my confidence. I feel at any moment, I could say or do the thing that will send him to opiates.
That is how I feel, incompetent.
I have been a mother for more than half of my life. The problem I am facing is that it seems the more experience I gain as a mother, the less confident I become. My three children in their 20’s are doing great. They have all exceeded my expectations. They are strong, resilient people who are moving toward success. They are good people.
But I took on another round of parenting. Our youngest son is 12. So, at a time when I should be sort of sitting back and watching my children transition into adulthood and be doing the parenting adults portion of my life, I am parenting a middle schooler. This son is precious, the baby, and he scares me. He’s done absolutely nothing wrong. I’m just freaked that I am getting this wrong all of the time because I know more now. I have had a lot of therapy. I know how to mess up a kid now through learning how I was messed up. I’m spooked and have lost my confidence. I feel at any moment, I could say or do the thing that will send him to opiates.
That is how I feel, incompetent.
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