Lanie
Brilliant_Rock
- Joined
- Feb 20, 2008
- Messages
- 1,793
...or imparting advice that is clearly opposite of what you feel comfortable with? I still have 4+ months until I deliver and I've already experienced these comments:
"Ohhhh...you're going to circumsize your little baby? We didn't and I'm so glad we made that choice bc I witnessed a baby being circumsized and they strapped him to a table and he was all alone screaming his little head off..."
"WELL my daycare does instruction not only in English and Spanish, but they teach French as well! He will be SO advanced once he gets to Kindergarten. You should switch over to mine!"
"You have to go back to work after he's born? That's too bad. I am so thankful of our financial situation that I can be the one to hear his first words rather than some lady at a daycare center."
And this was one mom friend of mine talking to another mom friend of mine "Jacob rolled so early, and started talking earlier than the rest of the kids in his playgroup. I can't give advice bc I'm pretty sure Jacob is gifted, but I'm sure your son is fine even though he hasn't rolled over yet, but I'd ask your pedi just to be sure there's nothing wrong with him."
This post is more of a vent and I don't really have a question, but just wanted to start a discussion of how you girls handled similar situations. I have 3 other close friends who will have little ones the same time as me, and I have lots of opinionated relatives and aquaintances who LOVE to comment on their own experiences, and I don't want to fall into the trap of comparing my baby! I am confident I'll be a great parent. I am very grounded and realize that babies develop at different rates, and that there's no textbook anything...that you should do what feels comfortable for YOU and your baby, etc etc etc. And I'm very good at smiling and saying "Interesting...I'll take that into consideration". Or "That's what's best for our situation." But I can't help but feel a little miffed when I hear comments like this! My DH says I value what other people say too much, and that may be true. I've always hated the keeping up with the Jones's mentality, but I have a feeling it's going to get a lot worse!
"Ohhhh...you're going to circumsize your little baby? We didn't and I'm so glad we made that choice bc I witnessed a baby being circumsized and they strapped him to a table and he was all alone screaming his little head off..."
"WELL my daycare does instruction not only in English and Spanish, but they teach French as well! He will be SO advanced once he gets to Kindergarten. You should switch over to mine!"
"You have to go back to work after he's born? That's too bad. I am so thankful of our financial situation that I can be the one to hear his first words rather than some lady at a daycare center."
And this was one mom friend of mine talking to another mom friend of mine "Jacob rolled so early, and started talking earlier than the rest of the kids in his playgroup. I can't give advice bc I'm pretty sure Jacob is gifted, but I'm sure your son is fine even though he hasn't rolled over yet, but I'd ask your pedi just to be sure there's nothing wrong with him."
This post is more of a vent and I don't really have a question, but just wanted to start a discussion of how you girls handled similar situations. I have 3 other close friends who will have little ones the same time as me, and I have lots of opinionated relatives and aquaintances who LOVE to comment on their own experiences, and I don't want to fall into the trap of comparing my baby! I am confident I'll be a great parent. I am very grounded and realize that babies develop at different rates, and that there's no textbook anything...that you should do what feels comfortable for YOU and your baby, etc etc etc. And I'm very good at smiling and saying "Interesting...I'll take that into consideration". Or "That's what's best for our situation." But I can't help but feel a little miffed when I hear comments like this! My DH says I value what other people say too much, and that may be true. I've always hated the keeping up with the Jones's mentality, but I have a feeling it's going to get a lot worse!