How do you deal w/ disappointment?

[joflier]

This week has just been a bit of a downer. Nothing major, just a lot of small things that have me feeling low. So what do you do to cope with life''s letdowns?

 

[MonkeyPie]

I let myself be depressed for awhile, then I watch a movie. By the time the movie is over, I''m so distracted by the plot that whatever was bothering me before is usually forgotten. The only time that doesn''t work is when it''s something MAJOR.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

eat ice cream, cuddle with my kitties and watch harry potter movies...all at the same time
what? it''s the truth!

 

[Lauren8211]

Eat my weight in oreos, cry, hug a kitten, and watch a lifetime orig with some box wine.

I exude class at all times.

 

[BeachRunner]

Run.

Edit: Also, find my kitty and squeeze her.

 

[CurlySue]

First I get mad - sometimes at myself, sometimes at someone else, sometimes at the situation.

Then I vent to FI or a close friend.

Then I cry it out until I''m exhausted.

Then I usually talk it out with FI or a close friend.

 

[dragonfly411]

joflier - I feel ya this week.

I took an oath at New Years to not be so down, and to try to stay positive at all times, despite the odds. I like to veg and do comfort things when I''m bluesy.... eat ice cream... watch movies.... relax and unwind. I do yoga a lot and it releases my pent up frustration and leaves me feeling really good. I also like to go out and bury my face in my horses'' manes. I love to ride... it''s a great way to feel better. Horses are always there for you... no matter what. I love that.

 

[jewelz617]

Call my best friend, or my mom. Throw on a Sex and the City DVD. Go for a walk on the beach.

 

[rhbgirl24]

I feel you! I''ve been like that a lot lately, and haven''t found very good ways to deal with it either, prob winter blues. But normally talking it out with DH because he always makes me laugh.... or sex, thats good too...

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Disappointments are tough. Depending on the situation I will try to examine the part I played in it (if it involves another person). If it is just life getting me down I write a gratitude list. It is impossible to feel grateful and sad/disappointed/depressed/angry/resentful at the same time. If I gotta just cry/pout I give myself a time limit before I force myself off my pity pot. Otherwise I find myself on a slippery slop. Hope next week is a better week.

 

[Erin]

I won''t lie. I put on my red shoes and knock a few back. I usually end up having fun and the alcohol keeps me from dwelling too much. I go to bed and the next day I''m either over it or I''m clean slate enough to start working on the problem.

 

[MonkeyPants]

sorry to hear this week has been poopey for you joflier

When I have a crappy day I usually go for a glass of wine--unfortunately the past year and a half has been pretty stressful and I''ve had a glass of wine almost everyday

. Then I snuggle with the pup and read a good book or write in my blog or I read the PPSer thread because babies always make me happy

 

[lilylover]

I get dressed up, do my make up and go do something fun, even if it''s just out to dinner with FI. If I look good I feel good.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

I cry and whine to DH. He brings me flowers and lovely things from the department store he passes on the way home.

Today I had a disappointment and I''m now I''m smoothing on some of my new jar of la prarie skin caviar. He''s good.

I like to wallow in any disappointment a little, be spoiled, pampered and then told to snap out of it at the appropriate moment. I also like to go for a long drive and smoke one of my (totally forbidden but stashed under the driver''s seat for emergencies) menthol cigarettes. Oh, and eat my own weight in oreos. I basically do things that are slightly self destructive, for a short time. Only slightly. It makes me feel reckless, but better.

Sorry you had a tough week, I hope you find a way through it that doesn''t involve oreos or cigarettes. Hugs!

Jen

 

[monarch64]

I lower my expectations and try to look at the situation realistically. Then I logic and analyze it to death, figure out what I can do next time to experience a more positive outcome, and stop dwelling on it.

 

[HollyS]

Man, have I had a week! If I knew how to cope with it, I''d be in better shape myself.

But, my answer to life''s PITA moments (or days) is usually found in the following:

Getting out and doing something that makes me happy, even if it''s just a sojourn to Starbucks. Taking a walk if it''s a good day. Treating myself to something I want (within fiscal reason, of course). Watching a great movie, or picking up a good book. An hour or two to browse a bookstore. Getting some TLC from the hubs.

I hope you''ll soon be feeling more like yourself.

 

[joflier]

Date: 2/12/2010 5:13:34 PM
Author: Mrs Mitchell
I cry and whine to DH. He brings me flowers and lovely things from the department store he passes on the way home.

Today I had a disappointment and I'm now I'm smoothing on some of my new jar of la prarie skin caviar. He's good.

I like to wallow in any disappointment a little, be spoiled, pampered and then told to snap out of it at the appropriate moment. I also like to go for a long drive and smoke one of my (totally forbidden but stashed under the driver's seat for emergencies) menthol cigarettes. Oh, and eat my own weight in oreos. I basically do things that are slightly self destructive, for a short time. Only slightly. It makes me feel reckless, but better.

Sorry you had a tough week, I hope you find a way through it that doesn't involve oreos or cigarettes. Hugs!

Jen

Well.....now that you mention it......

Doesn't sound too bad to me. (although going out for a smoke, as a health professional, seems pretty seriously naughty!!!)

 

[yssie]

... honestly, not well, but better than I used to!


I freak out, then I mope, and cycle through that a few times. At some point FI gets sick of it and tells me to buck up, breathe, and get over it - that usually helps! Then I cuddle the cats.

 

[Sabine]

I vent about them on online forums

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[rainwood]

I go ahead and feel disappointed for awhile. It''s okay, but I try to keep that time in line with the level of disappointment. If it''s something little or a series of little things, I''ll feel sorry for myself for a bit then usually either go walk the dog for a very long walk (with my iPod on) or just go get my iPod, turn on some of my favorite music loud, and start dancing. That works for me because those are things I love. It''s hard to feel disappointed then and music is the perfect mood lifter for me. For some people, it''s a favorite movie or TV show or book.

Here''s the one thing I try hard NOT to do: snowballing small worries into big worries. If I dwell too long on little disappointments, I then start imagining the worse case scenarios for everything in life (that''s the snowball), and then really get upset. It''s so easy to let myself snowball and it makes things so much worse. If I''m going to worry or fret, I try now to just focus on just the actual things that are wrong and not go down the trail of how my whole life is going to suck.

 

[Upgradable]

Well, I have a proprietary method of handling my sadness.... I ask for a big hug from my 17 yr old son with Down syndrome. There is, nothing in the world that can keep my spirits down when this boy puts his arms around me, squeezes me tight, and tries to lift me off the floor!!! Short of renting out an exceptional child, I''d say I''d go to Walmart and offer to help an elderly person find everything on their shopping list, or offer to push their cart out to their car and load their groceries. To me, helping someone else always seems to help me find the joy that is often elusive in the daily grind.

Jo, I wish you the best. I am much more a lurker than a poster in the personal fora. I often send out prayers for you and others that have hit a rough patch.

 

[joflier]

Date: 2/12/2010 9:30:03 PM
Author: Upgradable
Well, I have a proprietary method of handling my sadness.... I ask for a big hug from my 17 yr old son with Down syndrome. There is, nothing in the world that can keep my spirits down when this boy puts his arms around me, squeezes me tight, and tries to lift me off the floor!!! Short of renting out an exceptional child, I''d say I''d go to Walmart and offer to help an elderly person find everything on their shopping list, or offer to push their cart out to their car and load their groceries. To me, helping someone else always seems to help me find the joy that is often elusive in the daily grind.

Jo, I wish you the best. I am much more a lurker than a poster in the personal fora. I often send out prayers for you and others that have hit a rough patch.

Thanks Upgradable. That means so very much to me.

Thanks to all who posted. I''ve enjoyed hearing what everyone does to wear off a bad day. I think we can almost all agree on one thing. COMFORT FOOD!!!