How do I stop?

[lilmaria]

Okay...I found this website in January and ever since I''ve checked posts atleast 1 a day, if not more. I am becoming obsessed and I can''t stop. My bf and I went furniture looking last night and when the salesman asked about the proposal my dear said it''s in a few weeks! AHHHHHH! I am excited, but I''m also stressed out. I want the ring Now, Now, Now. But I know he has to do it in his time and in his way. I don''t know if this site is helping me or hurting me. Obviously it''s a huge help espcecially since I''ve learned quite a bit about diamonds/settings here. But I''m going to need Pricescope''s annonymous soon. I''m so excited that it is all I thnk about each day and I''m driving myself crazy. Whenever bf sees me on the site he sighs and says I''m psychotic...and I am, I''m bling crazy...HELPPPPPPPP!

K, just a rant. Seriously how do you keep yourself off this site? How do you keep yourself focused on what''s going on in your life now rather than what you want to happen in the near future? Thanks!

 

[blodthecat]

Easy Tiger!

It's not that bad. This site is a great community, that discusses all kinds of issues, not just diamonds!

Unfortunately, if you are addicted to bling and to Pricescope, there is NO known cure!

Blod

 

[JenStone]

lilmaria, I''m in the same boat as you. I can''t stop checking this site every day, several times a day, and I keep changing my mind about what kind of e-ring I want, which is driving my boyfriend crazy. Now I only do this at work or when he''s not in the room so that he doesn''t think I''m this obsessesive crazy woman who''s only after a diamond ring. So if anyone has a cure, I''d sure like to hear it....but from what I''ve read so far, there is no cure.

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Ha ha, I''ve been engaged for almost a year now and I''m still just as addicted as I was when I first became a member... Everytime my fiance sees me looking at this site he just rolls his eyes and says "and you think I spend too much time on MY forums." There''s NO cure for Pricescope!!!!

 

[Blenheim]

If anyone figures out, please tell me. I should be studying for a test, and somehow I keep coming back here...

 

[ilovesparkles]

Oh I think we are all just as addicted as you are my dear! We could start a new forum on here, PSA - Pricescope Anonymous. HAhahaha that would be funny. And similar to Blenheim, I should be working on my thesis, but alas I am not. BF and I just finished watching a movie, he hopped in the tub and I hopped on PS. Such an addiction.I don''t think he realizes how much I am on here. He only "found me out" yesterday. Rolled his eyes and said "Oh GAWD." Men just don''t get it. Sorry I couldn''t really be of any help. But know you aren''t the only one checking the forum daily and beiong totally obsessive.

Amanda

 

[Blenheim]

Hi, my name is Blenheim, and I''m addicted to PS.

 

[Blenheim]

Oh, I guess that there were other questions in the original post.

How do you keep yourself off of this site? I get out of my apartment and away from my computer. When I need my laptop to do something (like write my thesis), I''ll take it somewhere where there''s no wireless internet. Public computer labs also help. I don''t want others to see my obsession!

How do you keep yourself focused on the now rather than what you want to happen? I think that this is hard, regardless of whether you''re on this site or not. It really helps at times to have others to talk to. I avoid venting about this to my school friends, because it seems to result in them grabbing my hand when they see me to see if there''s now a ring on it.

But here, everyone''s going through similar things. Hearing that LIW alumnae look back on the waiting relatively fondly also helps.

Psychotic-ness Amazingly, I feel much more sane (in certain ways) since I joined PS. My BF has commented that before, I''d sometimes question if I was having a normal reaction to the waiting process ("Am I psycho? Are other girls like this?") but that I''ve really stopped since I''ve joined.

 

[firebirdgold]

I have to agree, there is strength in numbers. It''s such a relief to know that you''re not the the only one obsessing about this. My beloved rolls his eyes whenever he sees me on the jewelry forum. I go to great lengths to make him believe that it''s more engagement ring obsessed women, like dog obsessed people.

However I have no suggestions as to how to kick the Pricescope habit. My boyfriend threatens to program my wireless to block Pricescope except for 1 hour a night. He may have a point.

 

[sunkist]

Haha! A few months ago I wanted to start a thread like this myself, but figured everyone was stuck in the same boat with me

And it''s true!

I''m supposed to be working on my thesis too, and all my school work. Well actually I''m on spring break now, so I''ve got an excuse. But PS is sooo addicting. Sometimes I wish I could write my thesis on all the information I''ve learned about diamonds, cause it''s just so much more interesting to me right now!

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Hey sunkist!!

I asked you a question in my wedding thread... Check it out!

 

[akw94]

Date: 3/19/2006 9:10:53 AM
Author:lilmaria
Okay...I found this website in January and ever since I''ve checked posts atleast 1 a day, if not more. I am becoming obsessed and I can''t stop. My bf and I went furniture looking last night and when the salesman asked about the proposal my dear said it''s in a few weeks! AHHHHHH! I am excited, but I''m also stressed out. I want the ring Now, Now, Now. But I know he has to do it in his time and in his way. I don''t know if this site is helping me or hurting me. Obviously it''s a huge help espcecially since I''ve learned quite a bit about diamonds/settings here. But I''m going to need Pricescope''s annonymous soon. I''m so excited that it is all I thnk about each day and I''m driving myself crazy. Whenever bf sees me on the site he sighs and says I''m psychotic...and I am, I''m bling crazy...HELPPPPPPPP!

K, just a rant. Seriously how do you keep yourself off this site? How do you keep yourself focused on what''s going on in your life now rather than what you want to happen in the near future? Thanks!

You are definitely NOT alone! I found the website awhile ago, just read the posts for some time, wouldn''t let myself become a member. Ok, that didn''t last for too long. Now, I do check frequently. The only good thing is that my internet isn''t working at home so I can only check during the day. I literally have to force myself to get off of here in order to get some work done!
I do think it''s important to focus on present day life though. Not exactly sure how but there must be a way, right? Actually though, knowing that others feel the same way is a bit comforting. I feel a little ridiculous saying it to friends off of here so it makes me a bit more relaxed being able to be open and talk a little about whatever issues I''m feeling. That actually allows me to focus more on real life, well, kind of....
Now I better go do that work i''m talking about!

 

[sumbride]

This site is seriously helping me stay sane! I know I''m not alone in being excited about the little things... I get to see lots of different styles which is really helping since I have no idea what I want on my finger... and I don''t harrass my single friends with "ooohhh... do you think it''s going to be on that trip???"

Of course, I''m still hiding it from him. I look at this site mostly at work, but I got a little brave this weekend.... My home network crashed and I was only able to get the internet working on his desktop computer.... so while he was gone for a few hours I was reading PS. And I DIDN''T remove it from the history!!! Maybe he''ll stumble upon it? Maybe I secretly want him to??? Of course, now I need to fix the network so he can "catch" me browsing on the sofa!

 

[lilmaria]

It does keep me sane in one regard, often mentioned here...our friends who are not LIW would think we were crazy if we talked about rings w/them as much as we do on this board. I''m happy the LIW list is dwindling down...hopefully it will hit all of us soon! This is killing me! Thanks for the support. It feels good to know we''re not alone!

 

[berkley]

Lilmaria, you know, I was thinking this sentiment exactly!!!!!

Does your guy have any forums/chats that he posts on/is glued to? For mine, its the auto forums. classic cars, muscle cars, hot rods, trucks...... he can spend hours looking at them! He has his auto sites, I have pricescope!!

I actually feel a little better knowing that this forum contains other crazy-soon-to-be finacees waiting in agony over what''s to come! you all reassure me that i am NOT going insane when I think about getting engaged, the ring, the whole nine yards! Your stories and bits of information remind me to just be patient, it will all work out in the end. The hard part for ME is checking out all the gorgeous e-rings in the e-ring folder. I think I know exactly which style ring I like, then someone posts theirs and BAM, now ZI switch to a totally different look. It''s drving me nuts, and im sure my bf can feel the same way!

 

[lilmaria]

No, he doesn''t have any forums he checks...except myspace. He reads espn and the dailynews each day but that''s different b/c its current events.

Well, now I have to keep myself off this site when he''s home b/c i promised him i wouldn''t mention the ring or the wedding all day long! It''s killing me. We have an open relationship and talk about it quite a bit, but apparently it''s only ok to talk about it if he initiates it. He emails me wedding/honeymoon sites but if only i could do the same. oh well. I have two more hours till he gets home so I''ll get all the ps in I can...lol

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/22/2006 11:02:01 AM
Author: berkley
The hard part for ME is checking out all the gorgeous e-rings in the e-ring folder. I think I know exactly which style ring I like, then someone posts theirs and BAM, now ZI switch to a totally different look.

I do the SAME thing! I have about twenty dream rings by now, I think. I''m not worried about it though. I think it just gives my BF lots of options, and I know that I''ll love whatever he gives me because of what it symbolizes and because it''s from him.

 

[lilmaria]

Okay so he sees me on the site today and says what are you still looking there for? you know youre getting your ring. i told him its the syndrome of not knowing to which he said my time would be better spent researching things for the wedding...hello? just had to vent

 

[firebirdgold]

I''ve told my bf that diamonds are just a small portion of the forum. It''s a community of people that support, gossip with, and help each other. Telling him I got advice for deskunking my dog helped convince him it''s not just a jewelry forum.
That''s my story, and I''m sticking to it!!

 

[lilmaria]

I had to rush through that last comment because he peered over while I was typing it. I don''t understand - if he wants me to focus on the wedding...where''s the ring? I feel like the old where''s the beef commercial...anyway, I don''t want to strat planning w/out the ring. I want to enjoy the engagement and the planning but I don''t want to plan yet w/out the pretty sprakly thing! lol

I asked him if it would be okay to start a favorite folder entitled wedding on our comp w/out him flipping out and he said he didn''t care, it woudl be better for me if i started focusing on the wedding anyway since the ring will come soon enough...I say not soon enough for me!

Okay, maybe I''m psychotic but ya gotta love it. Hopefully I will be able to start planning for the wedding....with my ring on!

 

[Blenheim]

No, lilmaria, I completely understand.

Last year, I thought that I was going to attend a ball where a long, formal white dress was mandatory attire for the ladies. (Plans got cancelled, for reasons that don''t matter.) When I was looking, it was really hard to find a decent white dress that fit the description. Everything I found seemed to scream high school prom. I finally gave up and started looking at simpler bridal gowns. I first tried the bridal section of a major department store, and the salespeople realized that I didn''t have a ring on and treated me terribly. I hear that bridal store people in general can be kind of snooty. After that experience, I want a ring on my finger before I start officially planning, darn it (even though I know that I really shouldn''t let rude people get to me). That doesn''t prevent me from looking at bridal magazines or lurking in the Bride World Wide forum though.

 

[sumbride]

Ok, confession time for me...

I have a couple of bridal magazines hidden in my dresser... for me it''s like my version of ****... my justification is that he says he has "a plan"... he gets a plan, I get ****.

But the other day, at the train station on the way home I decided I wanted a brownie. We''re both on a diet, so this was a "BAD" thought... so I walked into the newstand and bought a big giant magazine. And I plopped it on the living room floor when I got home. He didn''t say a WORD. It sat there for a few days... last night I picked it up while we were watching tv and started flipping through it. I could tell he noticed but was trying to look like he didn''t, so I told him "This is my anti-brownie magazine..." and told him the story. He kind of shrugged, but I think he might have felt a little intimidated by the HUGE collection of bridal stuff. It''s still on the living room floor... maybe next week I''ll work up to showing him the rings I''ve dogeared.

I''ve also stopped using "private browsing" while reading pricescope!

 

[lilmaria]

well, i typed in bridal gowns during a google search and am surprised...is it just me or are all of the gowns now square top, strapless ball gowns? I want (I think) a ball gown w/ a deep waist and think the square would look best on me b/c i''m small on top, but geez are they all this way? I don''t want the same dress as my friends/cousins. I guess it might be harder than I thought...and the prices...holy - I didn''t think these dresses would be that dang expenisve. I''m already worrying about paying for the small stuff (as I hope my parents can pay for the hall & bigger items). I may need to get a second job for the dress, favors, videographer & photographer. Which, might be a daunting task, as I''m taking 3 grad courses this summer and two in the fall so that I could graduate by December. Oh boy...didn''t think it would be this costly just for the little things. I really don''t want a long engagement b/c we need to start kids pretty soon (he wants them before early 30s). I guess I''ll cross my fingers and pray that we win the lotto! Thanks for the support.

By the way...he just asked what I was typing and when I told him I was on the LIW site, he said "I wanna read it" so he did and sat back on the couch. I need a life!