Wedding How do I stop from panicing???

[Sabine]

My mom just told me that when the seamstress couldn''t get ahold of me today (I don''t take my phone to school because the building drains the battery, and now I''m OOT for the weekend and left my phone at home! Stupid, stupid Sabine!), she called my mom because she is really worried. She knew that altering the bust of my dress would be complicated, but now that she has it taken apart, she is worried at how difficult it is going to be! She wants me to come in, because she hasn''t actually SEEN ME in the dress, due to the fact that she had a family emergency on the weekend I came into town for the fitting, and since I was coming in just for that, instead of rescheduling, she got a retired friend of hers to do the fitting. But I won''t be in town again until a month before my wedding! I haven''t talked to her myself yet, so this might be a premature freak out, but I''m really losing confidence in her at this point! The retired friend told me the bust would be complicated, but that my seamstress had experience doing them and it would be fine. But now I''ll be worrying for the next 1.5 months until I''m in town again, and then I''ll be worrying that a month won''t be enough time for her to finish the dress! And she already has it all apart, what if she does something that is unsalvagable???? There''s nothing I can do about this now, so how do I keep myself from totally freaking out about this until it is all worked out???

 

[robbie3982]

Ok, take a deep breath.

Do you have time to make a quick stop in this weekend? I know you''re busy with the shower, butI think going in will make you feel a lot betterI. ''m sure she''d be willing to work around your schedule since you''re from out of town. They were really good at working with me around my schedule.

Any chance that your mom is blowing it a bit out of proportion? Have you actually talked to the seamstress?

I think that you really need to get there this weekend to assess the situation. I really think that if it can be done, they can do it. Don''t forget that they completely rebuilt the top of Marta''s dress for Bob and Morgan''s wedding (remember how it was so big that Morgan AND I could fit in it? At the same time?!). Obviously your dress is more intricate than that, but I''m sure that don''t have to change yours nearly that much. Honestly, I didn''t think the top of yours needed to have that much done to it.

 

[miraclesrule]

Three deep breaths and a half of a Zanax.

Sabine,
I guarantee you that she will have time to put it back together even if she has to stay up all night.
Seamstresses who work on intricate wedding gowns are usually perfectionist by nature. I know, because I used to dabble in it while my daughter was growing up. I didn''t finish her 6th grade graduation dress (which was a Miss America patten, oh vey) until the morning of the big day.

Your seamstress won''t be waiting that long because you will put her in a choke hold and she knows it. (Besides, if she screws this up you can meet with her in Judge Judy''s court if she doesn''t buy you a brand new gown.)

I would however, try to get in to see her as soon as you can in order to provide yourself some reassurance. There is nothing more stressful than worrying about walking down the aisle dressed in nothing more than a pair of Spanx. Perhaps this seamstress is not 100% comfortable because she would prefer to have you in front of her for her own reassurance as well.

And don''t beat yourself up over not having your phone. Even if you would have had your phone, you can''t be in two places at once. Breathe...and then breathe deeply again, and know that, this too shall pass and you will be writing a funny post about it afterwards.

But I am still peeved that she has caused you to panic.

 

[Sabine]

Whew! I got ahold of the seamstress this morning and was able to meet with her really quickly before the bridal shower I had to go to! Basically she did need to rework the whole bust area, and she was afraid it was going to be too pointy-boobed, but due to my ample endowment, I fill it out pretty well. It''s not quite as smooth as it was originally, but I think that''s bound to happen at least a little any time it needs to be altered that much. I am so relieved that I got this over with and don''t have to worry about it till June!

 

[zoebartlett]

Oh good, I''m glad it worked out okay. Have fun at your shower!

 

[miraclesrule]

I''m so glad that you both received the reassurance you needed. Now you can enjoy the rest of your weekend!!

 

[bee*]

Woohoo! Delighted to hear that everything''s ok with your dress.