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Brilliant_Rock
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I've never been neat person. My major conflict with my mother growing up was over this issue. My husband is not a neat person either. It is the major conflict in our marriage.
I would LOVE to be neat. It makes me so happy when my house is clean and organized. I can't do it though. I'm sort of a yo-yo cleaner - do nothing for several weeks then get a bug and want everything clean all at once. And then obsess about keeping it clean for a week until I get lazy again. During that week, I get annoyed at DH for the mess he makes (though I am just as guilty the other 80% of the time). DH truly does not care if anything is neat/clean ever, so has no appreciation even when I spend hours getting everything nice, and has no interest in doing it himself.
Now I have a 3 month old baby, and I'm back working full time. The dishes are all stacked in the sink/counter. There are piles of mail on the peninsula. The couch pillows/throws are all on the floor. The laundry from Sunday is still in the dryer. And there are leaves that got tracked in the back door on the rug. I'm sure the shower is gross but thankfully I can't see it as I'm pretty nearsighted and don't wear my contacts in the shower.
We looked into getting a housecleaner but DH thinks the dog will be stressed with strangers in the house when we are not there, and he's probably right. And he thought it was dumb to be forced to pick up the clutter so the maid could clean.
I've been so depressed over this lately. I hate walking into my own house. And I'm frustrated with myself for not being able to change. Logically, I know it's not worth the angst. So what if the house is messy, we have a lot of other good things to be thankful for in life. But it's not working.
Advice or tips, please?
I would LOVE to be neat. It makes me so happy when my house is clean and organized. I can't do it though. I'm sort of a yo-yo cleaner - do nothing for several weeks then get a bug and want everything clean all at once. And then obsess about keeping it clean for a week until I get lazy again. During that week, I get annoyed at DH for the mess he makes (though I am just as guilty the other 80% of the time). DH truly does not care if anything is neat/clean ever, so has no appreciation even when I spend hours getting everything nice, and has no interest in doing it himself.
Now I have a 3 month old baby, and I'm back working full time. The dishes are all stacked in the sink/counter. There are piles of mail on the peninsula. The couch pillows/throws are all on the floor. The laundry from Sunday is still in the dryer. And there are leaves that got tracked in the back door on the rug. I'm sure the shower is gross but thankfully I can't see it as I'm pretty nearsighted and don't wear my contacts in the shower.
We looked into getting a housecleaner but DH thinks the dog will be stressed with strangers in the house when we are not there, and he's probably right. And he thought it was dumb to be forced to pick up the clutter so the maid could clean.
I've been so depressed over this lately. I hate walking into my own house. And I'm frustrated with myself for not being able to change. Logically, I know it's not worth the angst. So what if the house is messy, we have a lot of other good things to be thankful for in life. But it's not working.
Advice or tips, please?