jessica_brooke
Rough_Rock
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- Mar 12, 2007
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Hi everyone. My name is Jessica and my boyfriend and I have been together just over 5 years. (I'm 22 and he is 23). He is graduating in May with his masters in finance, and I am in my first year of law school in CA. We currently live in the same city, and plan to move in together this fall (staying in CA). We've talked about our future a lot, but recently he has made a few casual references to e-rings. He's asked me about my ring size (which I think I know but I'm not sure - I don't currently wear any rings) and also what kind of ring I wanted/expected (but again, very casually). I was kind of thrown off guard, and as I'm not the kind of girl who has had her e-ring picked out since birth, I basically said I had no idea.. and suggested possibly browsing/ring shopping together? (He does know I don't like yellow gold, but that's pretty much all I know at this point). However, he didn't seem that enthusiastic about ring-shopping with me, and I got the impression he wants it to be more of a surprise.
At that point I started looking online at websites like Shane Co and Blue Nile and even google and ebay to get some ideas, and I still don't even know what I would like! Some days I was thinking cushion or radiant, other days a RB. At first I thought I preferred a halo band, then baguettes, and now I'm thinking a classic solitaire. (Clearly I don't know!) I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want a princess, marquise, or heart shaped diamond, but I also dont want to get set on one particular design and then have him get me something else. Honestly, I'd be thrilled with anything he gets me as long as it isnt totally hideous. (I'd still say yes, but maybe an exchange would be in order).
We're still very young, although we will both be graduating without any debt and with some money in the bank. He also has a pretty nice job lined up for after graduation. However, the 2 months salary thing seems quite high and unreasonable. A few weeks ago he casually asked me to pull up a jewelry website and when I clicked on e-rings it listed the pre-set ones from high --> low and he bugged out! (it started with $15-20k rings) I told him not to freak out - that the site was listing them from high--> low and that they all didnt cost that much and that I definitely did not expect him to spend anywhere near that. He seemed a little relieved, but said he had expected a ring to cost somewhere around $1-3k. I showed him some examples of e-rings in that range, and then a little higher so he could see. I also pulled up blue nile and showed him that you can get an idea of what different stats and stones and settings will cost, and that I just wanted to make sure he did his research so he didn't get ripped off spending too much on a bad quality stone.
At this point all I've really told him is:
- white gold not yellow (which he already knew, i just confirmed that)
- do some research and try not to get ripped off!
- its ok if his mom helps him look (he had mentioned that) but i really dont want her to pick it out!
Now I'm wondering if I should go looking on my own to get an idea of what I would like and drop some hints or just let him do his thing.
At first I wasnt sure if we were too young to be thinking about e-rings and marriage, but now I can't stop thinking about it and it's really killing my productivity! (It's not that I'm desperate to get engaged immediately, but I keep thinking about rings and other stuff and I read this site for 2 hours this morning!) I have a big appellate brief due next week and I haven't even started outlining for Property yet.
At that point I started looking online at websites like Shane Co and Blue Nile and even google and ebay to get some ideas, and I still don't even know what I would like! Some days I was thinking cushion or radiant, other days a RB. At first I thought I preferred a halo band, then baguettes, and now I'm thinking a classic solitaire. (Clearly I don't know!) I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want a princess, marquise, or heart shaped diamond, but I also dont want to get set on one particular design and then have him get me something else. Honestly, I'd be thrilled with anything he gets me as long as it isnt totally hideous. (I'd still say yes, but maybe an exchange would be in order).
We're still very young, although we will both be graduating without any debt and with some money in the bank. He also has a pretty nice job lined up for after graduation. However, the 2 months salary thing seems quite high and unreasonable. A few weeks ago he casually asked me to pull up a jewelry website and when I clicked on e-rings it listed the pre-set ones from high --> low and he bugged out! (it started with $15-20k rings) I told him not to freak out - that the site was listing them from high--> low and that they all didnt cost that much and that I definitely did not expect him to spend anywhere near that. He seemed a little relieved, but said he had expected a ring to cost somewhere around $1-3k. I showed him some examples of e-rings in that range, and then a little higher so he could see. I also pulled up blue nile and showed him that you can get an idea of what different stats and stones and settings will cost, and that I just wanted to make sure he did his research so he didn't get ripped off spending too much on a bad quality stone.
At this point all I've really told him is:
- white gold not yellow (which he already knew, i just confirmed that)
- do some research and try not to get ripped off!
- its ok if his mom helps him look (he had mentioned that) but i really dont want her to pick it out!

Now I'm wondering if I should go looking on my own to get an idea of what I would like and drop some hints or just let him do his thing.
At first I wasnt sure if we were too young to be thinking about e-rings and marriage, but now I can't stop thinking about it and it's really killing my productivity! (It's not that I'm desperate to get engaged immediately, but I keep thinking about rings and other stuff and I read this site for 2 hours this morning!) I have a big appellate brief due next week and I haven't even started outlining for Property yet.
