hairgirl95
Shiny_Rock
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Long time no post from me! Totally inexcusable of me--but its been a really busy past few months. I started back at college to (FINALLY!!!) finish my degree this fall, and I am still working at my hair salon full time as well, so free time is nearly in the negative numbers. I promise I haven''t forgotten about you guys--and honestly there wasn''t much to report until the past couple of weeks. All I do is go to class, write papers, have a hot date with my homework every night and try to have date night with the hubs once a week. Thank goodness he is so sweet and supportive of my education. I really am a lucky girl. Anyways---onto the drama! As most of you know, I have the cheating sister debacle on my hands, and both my dh and I were really struggling with whether or not we should tell my brother in law about his wifes'' infidelities. I met with her a few months ago to tell her to stop cheating, and to stop dragging me into it by telling me what she was doing. All of you were so sweet and gave me such good advice and strength to deal with her. My sister took very careful precautions to make sure I "thought" she was being faithful. I had no proof that she wasn''t cheating anymore, but I also didn''t have proof that she was. So, after much discussion between the hubs and I, we contemplated every angle, even going as far as considering purchasing a GPS for her car to track her little scandalous self. We decided to sit back for a while and just watch her more closely and see if she slipped up, and then we would find a way to tell the bro in law. They say if you give someone enough rope, they will hang themselves, and golly gosh, she did just that. Well, I am happy to report that we didn''t have to tell my bro in law-----he found out on his own!! Heres the juicy details--
My bro in law went out of town a couple of weekends ago for a contractors "thing"--I am assuming its vendors promoting their product and lots of brotherly love over many many beers. It was a regional thing, so my bro in law knew several people at this little shin dig. This expo ran from Thurs. to Sun. On Saturday night, he took his employees out with a bunch of other guys for a little fun. The guys all got to talking about the housing crisis, their families, spouses, kids, etc. After a little more beer, pictures started being passed around of hot girlfriends and cute kids. Well, the pic my bro in law carries in his wallet is their family picture from christmas last year that has him, my sis, and my 2 nieces in it. Some guy, who my bro in law didn''t know, started asking LOTS of questions about his wife. Wanted to know her name, where she worked, blah blah blah. My BIL, being a little dense and not extremely smart, didn''t think this was odd. But one of his employees did. So as the night progressed, the employee of my BIL pulled this inquisitive guy aside and asked him what the deal was with all the questions he was asking. The guy told the employee that he knew my sister, but not in a good way. Turns out, the inquisitive guy SLEPT WITH MY SISTER. TWO MONTHS AGO. My sister totally lied to this guy, told him she was single, didn''t have kids, totally made herself out to be single. I guess this guy really liked her, and couldn''t figure out why she stopped returning phone calls from him. He also thought it was weird that she would always call during the daytime, when he was at work, and couldn''t really talk. When he saw the picture of her, he put 2 and 2 together, realized she was married with kids, and was totally shocked. So, the employee of my BIL told this guy that he needed to tell my BIL what had happened. I think this employee kind of suspected my sister was shady already, and now the hunch was verified. So, the next morning, over breakfast at IHOP, my BIL, his employee, and this guy my sister hooked up with all had breakfast. The guy told my BIL EVERYTHING--knew details about my sister that you would have to be "intimate" with her to know about. Her tattoo, (its on her boob for goodness sake), described outfits she wore, lingerie she wore, what her cell phone looked like, and what car she drove. The guy told my BIL also that he had no clue she was married, that she never wore a ring, and that she had told him she was single and had no kids. The guy gave my BIL his phone #, and said if he needed anymore info just to call him. My poor BIL got up and went straight to the bathroom and got sick. He came back out, told the guy thank you for your honesty, and left.
He drove straight home, and all holy hell broke loose. My sister had no clue that he knew anything. So when BIL got home, props to him, he totally played it cool. First thing he did was go to their office and pulled the cell phone bill. He found this guys # all over it over a 4 month span. It wasn''t a one time sex thing--and the guy confessed that--but it had ended 2 months ago. Phone records verified that. So, BIL came out to the family room, carrying the phone records, and I guess my sister just had a look of horror on her face. He asked her how she knew this guy, and why his # was on her phone bill. She made some excuse about him calling about a job--why he would call her phone--she does NOTHING with my BIL''s business. So my BIL told her that he didn''t believe that, since this guy had no clue she was married to a contractor--heck, he didn''t even know she was a mother. My sister went into total defense mode, cried, apologized, denied having sex, which totally came back to bite her when my BIL pulled out the bra and panties she wore after the guy described them. My BIL scooped up the girls, and took them to my parents house. BIL told BOTH my parents the entire story. My mom already knew about some past indescretions about my sister, but my dad was really clueless. He totally hit the roof. My mom stayed home with the girls, and my dad and BIL went back to my sister''s house. My dad just totally ripped her to shreds. He told my BIL to pack up anything of importance, he would be back in an hour with a trailer to get my BIL''s stuff. All the while, my sis and mom keep calling me, and I am trying to study. I had no clue what was going on. When I finally called my mom back, she was a total mess. The girls were crying, my mom was crying, and I about had a stroke listening to what happened. But......there was a part of me that got a little chuckle at the fact that she finally got busted. It was about time.
My bro in law has rented a house, and the girls are staying with him. He hired an attorney and plans to file for divorce and is petitioning for full custody of my nieces. My mom and dad have been trying to help him out as much as possible because they don''t want the girls to be taken away from them too. My sister?? She is in a really horrible place. They are putting their new beautiful custom home on the market (good luck selling it in this market) and she is absolutely devastated. BUT, and this is a big but, she still has not come to terms with what she did. She is just mad she got caught. There is no remorse there at all. My parents have just had it with her. They want her to get some help, and she isn''t doing it. She had told all of us she was going to get some help, after she lied to me last summer and told me she already WAS, but she still hasn''t made that move yet. I try to take the girls whenever I can, and my husband makes it a point to stop and see all of them after work at least twice a week. We want to make sure my BIL knows we all support him and the girls, and we are all here for him.
WOW. Sorry for the long post on this--it was a big update for you guys! I hope all of you are doing good. Aside from sister drama, all is fine and dandy here with me. If I could just keep my hands out of my left over halloween candy I would be better off......
My bro in law went out of town a couple of weekends ago for a contractors "thing"--I am assuming its vendors promoting their product and lots of brotherly love over many many beers. It was a regional thing, so my bro in law knew several people at this little shin dig. This expo ran from Thurs. to Sun. On Saturday night, he took his employees out with a bunch of other guys for a little fun. The guys all got to talking about the housing crisis, their families, spouses, kids, etc. After a little more beer, pictures started being passed around of hot girlfriends and cute kids. Well, the pic my bro in law carries in his wallet is their family picture from christmas last year that has him, my sis, and my 2 nieces in it. Some guy, who my bro in law didn''t know, started asking LOTS of questions about his wife. Wanted to know her name, where she worked, blah blah blah. My BIL, being a little dense and not extremely smart, didn''t think this was odd. But one of his employees did. So as the night progressed, the employee of my BIL pulled this inquisitive guy aside and asked him what the deal was with all the questions he was asking. The guy told the employee that he knew my sister, but not in a good way. Turns out, the inquisitive guy SLEPT WITH MY SISTER. TWO MONTHS AGO. My sister totally lied to this guy, told him she was single, didn''t have kids, totally made herself out to be single. I guess this guy really liked her, and couldn''t figure out why she stopped returning phone calls from him. He also thought it was weird that she would always call during the daytime, when he was at work, and couldn''t really talk. When he saw the picture of her, he put 2 and 2 together, realized she was married with kids, and was totally shocked. So, the employee of my BIL told this guy that he needed to tell my BIL what had happened. I think this employee kind of suspected my sister was shady already, and now the hunch was verified. So, the next morning, over breakfast at IHOP, my BIL, his employee, and this guy my sister hooked up with all had breakfast. The guy told my BIL EVERYTHING--knew details about my sister that you would have to be "intimate" with her to know about. Her tattoo, (its on her boob for goodness sake), described outfits she wore, lingerie she wore, what her cell phone looked like, and what car she drove. The guy told my BIL also that he had no clue she was married, that she never wore a ring, and that she had told him she was single and had no kids. The guy gave my BIL his phone #, and said if he needed anymore info just to call him. My poor BIL got up and went straight to the bathroom and got sick. He came back out, told the guy thank you for your honesty, and left.
He drove straight home, and all holy hell broke loose. My sister had no clue that he knew anything. So when BIL got home, props to him, he totally played it cool. First thing he did was go to their office and pulled the cell phone bill. He found this guys # all over it over a 4 month span. It wasn''t a one time sex thing--and the guy confessed that--but it had ended 2 months ago. Phone records verified that. So, BIL came out to the family room, carrying the phone records, and I guess my sister just had a look of horror on her face. He asked her how she knew this guy, and why his # was on her phone bill. She made some excuse about him calling about a job--why he would call her phone--she does NOTHING with my BIL''s business. So my BIL told her that he didn''t believe that, since this guy had no clue she was married to a contractor--heck, he didn''t even know she was a mother. My sister went into total defense mode, cried, apologized, denied having sex, which totally came back to bite her when my BIL pulled out the bra and panties she wore after the guy described them. My BIL scooped up the girls, and took them to my parents house. BIL told BOTH my parents the entire story. My mom already knew about some past indescretions about my sister, but my dad was really clueless. He totally hit the roof. My mom stayed home with the girls, and my dad and BIL went back to my sister''s house. My dad just totally ripped her to shreds. He told my BIL to pack up anything of importance, he would be back in an hour with a trailer to get my BIL''s stuff. All the while, my sis and mom keep calling me, and I am trying to study. I had no clue what was going on. When I finally called my mom back, she was a total mess. The girls were crying, my mom was crying, and I about had a stroke listening to what happened. But......there was a part of me that got a little chuckle at the fact that she finally got busted. It was about time.
My bro in law has rented a house, and the girls are staying with him. He hired an attorney and plans to file for divorce and is petitioning for full custody of my nieces. My mom and dad have been trying to help him out as much as possible because they don''t want the girls to be taken away from them too. My sister?? She is in a really horrible place. They are putting their new beautiful custom home on the market (good luck selling it in this market) and she is absolutely devastated. BUT, and this is a big but, she still has not come to terms with what she did. She is just mad she got caught. There is no remorse there at all. My parents have just had it with her. They want her to get some help, and she isn''t doing it. She had told all of us she was going to get some help, after she lied to me last summer and told me she already WAS, but she still hasn''t made that move yet. I try to take the girls whenever I can, and my husband makes it a point to stop and see all of them after work at least twice a week. We want to make sure my BIL knows we all support him and the girls, and we are all here for him.
WOW. Sorry for the long post on this--it was a big update for you guys! I hope all of you are doing good. Aside from sister drama, all is fine and dandy here with me. If I could just keep my hands out of my left over halloween candy I would be better off......
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