I am recently engaged and plan to get married May 2012. A close friend of mine just got engaged. Her brother is getting married next summer, so I suppose that she will the following year, 2011. What should I do if she decides to get married in 2012? I am just very concerned because I am having a destination wedding and so many of my close friends, and hers, will have to travel to the wedding. Also, what happens and how should I look at it, if she picks the same colors as me? I know that it is a big day for both of us, but I don''t want my thunder to be stolen! Help!