Help choose a promise ring

[Fancy605]

I think you made an excellent choice with the Tiffany''s ring. It is a ring she can wear even once she has an engagement ring. I think it is a nice choice, and it looks like it isn''t trying to be a miniature engagement ring. It is beautiful!

 

[blingergrrrl]

I just wanted to add that I meant the diamond tiffanys!

 

[NYPrincess]

I would definitely go with the Tiffany''s ring with the small diamond. It is classic, excellent quality and she will always have it to wear on her other hand after she gets an engagement ring later on. You can''t go wrong with a Tiffany piece!

 

[nutmeg]

I like the Tiffany ring a lot, especially with the tsavorite! But, with its simple style, it looks like what some people have for a wedding band. It could be mistaken for a wedding band, since she is already a graduate student. Might that possibly bother your girlfriend?

I think it would be safer, at your age, to choose something less bridal-looking for a promise ring. To me it''s the fact of being a ring that gives it the special symbolism.

But of course you know her best! Good luck.

 

[JenStone]

Hi robustzguy! Welcome to PS! I think it''s really sweet that you''re buying your girlfriend a promise ring and that you came here for advice.

My personal opinion? Although I LOVE Tiffany''s, I have to disagree with the majority here because both the Tsavorite and diamond versions are sterling silver. Maybe it''s just my body chemistry but Tiffany''s sterling silver tarnishes soooo easily on me and a lot of my friends have the same problem also. So I always say go to Tiffany''s for gold/platinum but not silver!

My fiance bought me a promise ring for my birthday soonafter we first started dating and whenever I wear it I get compliments on it:

http://www.antiquejewelrymall.com/r376.html

14K white gold with a 0.01 carat, F color and VS clarity. Although the diamond is small, the "knot" design makes it look bigger, and it''s GORGEOUS in real life. So many of my girlfriends have asked me where he bought the ring, and one even bought the same exact one for herself!

The best part...it''s $175 with free shipping. When we bought this ring we had no problems at all with this vendor, customer-service wise.

Best of luck to you!

 

[robustzgy]

Thank you nutmeg & JenStone. The flower ring is really beautiful and I like it! nice find!

It seems now I need to make a hard decision between this one and the Tiff one.

Tiff one:
http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/item.aspx?selectedsku=12672276&sku=GRP00176&search_params=t+-s+2-p+6-l+-h+-c+-r+115+169-x
Pros: It''s a tiffany, nice quality, design simple and beautiful
cons: silver which may tarnish soon, $278 including tax

The antique jewery mall:
http://www.antiquejewelrymall.com/r376.html
pros: 14k white gold, looks more like a promise ring, beautiful, $175
cons: girls like tiffany

Since most of people vote for the Tiff one based on the previous 5 I listed. Could you help to choose one between these two again? Many thanks,

Regards,

robustzgy

 

[Ellen]

I vote for the antique jewelry ring!

 

[Kaleigh]

I'm still voting for the Tiffany ring by Esla Perreti with the diamond. Being silver isn't a big deal. They give you a polishing cloth. It removes the tarnish very easily. Also if you live near a Tiff's they will polish it while you wait. You said she loves Tiff's . To me of all choices you gave this one is the best bang for the buck. The other one is nice too, but I still love this one.

 

[nutmeg]

I love JenStone''s ring! I think it''s perfect for a promise ring!

Again, probably it''s just me, but as an umarried woman I wouldn''t like to wear a plain band-style ring like the Tiffany one, if I felt like I actually wanted to be married someday. Something about it feels a little off. Of course it all depends on your GF and her community, as to how it would be perceived.

 

[JenStone]

Date: 7/4/2007 11:45:08 AM
Author: nutmeg
I love JenStone''s ring! I think it''s perfect for a promise ring!


Again, probably it''s just me, but as an umarried woman I wouldn''t like to wear a plain band-style ring like the Tiffany one, if I felt like I actually wanted to be married someday. Something about it feels a little off. Of course it all depends on your GF and her community, as to how it would be perceived.

I know I''m biased here but I ditto what nutmeg said. An ex-boyfriend bought me a plain band-style ring as a promise ring ages ago. Maybe it was because I wasn''t ready for a full-on commitment yet, but after a month or so I started wearing it on a chain around my neck instead because everyone told me it looked so much like a wedding band.

 

[robustzgy]

Thanks Kaleigh, Ellen, netmeg and Jenstone.

One thing I have to mention is that my gf seems to be ready to get married. She said something like "let''s get married" several times. But at some other time, she said "It''s too early." Girls are just hard to understand

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I know she is in favor of Tiffany. If she is ready to get married, is a plain band ring ok for her?

Thanks again netmeg and Jenstone for your advice.

 

[cherry_vanilla]

In that case, do you think she''s going to be expecting an engagement ring as opposed to a promise ring? If so, this could put you in a very sticky situation and it might be safer to get a non-ring jewelry piece for her if she was hoping for something "more" than a promise ring.

 

[WorkingHardforSmallRewards]

If she is in favor of it then def do it.

I personally like the tif one much more, but I am also not a big fan of the fairly plain band style myself.

However, I think it is hands down the tiffany just because of the name. When she shows it to people, they will see the tiffany name written on it and any doubt as to the quality of it will be gone. She doesn't have to tell any of her friends "its a real diamond" etc, etc. All she has to do is say, "It's from Tiffany, and suddenly everybody will know it is an incredible diamond and ring (that should help compensate for the diamond's-or other stone's-- tiny size.)

Finally, like we all know, first impressions are the most important, and I think when she holds that blue Tiffany bag and opens up that Tiffany box and holds that soft black Tiffany ring box in her hands, she will have already fallen in love it with. Which sounds silly but from the women I know, I think its pretty much true. Then she never has to learn anything about the diamond at all, only think about what type of metal it is to keep it clean and she can simply appreciate it as a "high quality, beautiful, good enough for Tiffany's" ring. Needless to say, I would pick the Tiffany.

Also, she might be trying to set up for a "surprise" from you when she says it is too early. And my reaction to that would PROBABLY be that she wants to get married but you seem hesitant and so she isn't comfortable pressuring you or sure where you stand, or perhaps she really wants to get married but just doesn't think its a smart decision at this point in life, but nonetheless really does want you to propose. I think if you are not going to do the Ering then your best bet is going to be to say "I got your a promise ring because.." hold it behind your back and tell her that you know she isn't ready to be married, and neither of you have the money, but you want to show her your love and commitment in some way without an E ring so you got a promise ring. Or something like that, but in such a way that there are no moments of confusion where she thinks that you are proposing!

 

[nutmeg]

If she seems ready to be married, this is a delicate situation!

I''m not surprised that she sounds conflicted. Maybe she feels ready emotionally but unready financially, for example. But you''ve been together for 3 years. You have both graduated from college.

What are you going to be promising? How ready are you?

I think that in her position, a promise ring should come with a clear timeline. If she knows exactly what she is waiting for, she might be willing to wear the band ring.

If it''s all a bit vague at this point, go for a ring like JenStone''s, or one of the heart or flower silver rings from Tiffany, and you don''t have to call it a "promise" ring...just a ring, from you to her, with love.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Still vote for tiffany''s. I personally would want a band style ring vs. the typical promise rings. That way I would still wear it after I got engaged. Not meaning to confuse you even more!

 

[snlee]

I really like JenStone''s ring. However, my vote is still for the simple and beautiful Tiffany''s ring. I love that she can wear it on the other hand after getting engaged and it won''t compete with her ering. I also love that she has the option of building her collection and stacking them.

 

[blingergrrrl]

Date: 7/4/2007 12:09:38 PM
Author: JenStone

Date: 7/4/2007 11:45:08 AM
Author: nutmeg
I love JenStone''s ring! I think it''s perfect for a promise ring!


Again, probably it''s just me, but as an umarried woman I wouldn''t like to wear a plain band-style ring like the Tiffany one, if I felt like I actually wanted to be married someday. Something about it feels a little off. Of course it all depends on your GF and her community, as to how it would be perceived.

I know I''m biased here but I ditto what nutmeg said. An ex-boyfriend bought me a plain band-style ring as a promise ring ages ago. Maybe it was because I wasn''t ready for a full-on commitment yet, but after a month or so I started wearing it on a chain around my neck instead because everyone told me it looked so much like a wedding band.

I still like the tiffany''s better..but I just wanted to say that around here, we wear promise rings on the right hand ring finger so no confusion...weird!

 

[princesss]

I still vote Tiffany''s, but more because I don''t like promise rings to look too much like engagement rings. JenStone''s suggestion is beautiful, no doubt, but if your gf is still a little unsure about how soon she wants to be engaged, wearing a ring that resembles an e-ring might freak her out. It could also show her how much she wants to be engaged. It''s a toss up.

Personally, I wear a medium sized plain silver band on my right ring finger, and when my bf wears his we get asked with alarming frequency "Are those y''all''s commitment rings?" so I''m sure that even a simpler band would make the same statement, especially if she wore it on her left hand.

 

[In the rough]

I really love http://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/item.aspx?sku=GRP00176&search_params=t+Elsa+Peretti+stacking+band+ring.-s+0-p+2-l+-h+-c+-r+136-x

That''s where I would put my money...

 

[cinnamon013]

Date: 7/4/2007 12:56:20 AM
Author: cinnamon013
I actually like that Tiffany''s ring! I need to get shopping for a small $250 or so ring for my middle daughter, and I think those are wonderful - and I''ve not been into Tiffany''s stuff/name before. What a great find! They remind me a lot of the Etienne Perret starlight bands at http://www.starlightbands.com/. You can see more of these at http://www.starlightbands.com/aboutStarlightBands.htm, plus read about Etienne and his wife, Connie. I love the flexibility offered in designing/customizing these bands.

Now...I''m off to look more closely at that Tiffany''s site!

robustzg - have you given your girlfriend the ring yet? I got one for my daughter''s birthday - I am so excited to give it to her. She''ll be 15 and this is the ring she had her eye on at Tiffany''s, but she has no clue I am getting it. She thinks she is getting something from a knock off website. She will definitely be thrilled.

I''d be interested to see if you gave it to your gal for her graduation, or if you are holding it for her birthday, and if she likes it. Thanks so much for posting about this ring - this is where I got the idea, I never would have looked at Tiffany''s if it weren''t for this post.

 

[Elmorton]

What about hotdiamonds.com? They have an almost identical diamond ring to the Tiffany one you''re looking at, and a lot easier on the budget (leaving you a bit to start saving for the e-ring that you sound like you''re headed for)

I especially like this one (it''s only $80). I''ve seen this line at my local jeweler and thought the pieces were really neat. Not sure about the stone quality, you''d have to e-mail to inquire. Honestly though, when I was still in grad school, the color of the box my husband gave me made very little difference. Tiffany is exciting for sure, but the point of the promise ring is your committment to your life together - I think that will be the part that she''ll be most excited about. And I agree with the other posters, since an e-ring sounds like it''s around the corner, she''d probably prefer a ring that doesn''t compete with the one to come. Best of luck!

 

[gwendolyn]

Hrm, I thought number 3 looked a bit masculine, to be honest....

I vote for the Tiffany.

 

[cinnamon013]

He did get one of them - see post

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/graduation-day-or-birthday.65879/

I''m not sure which one, though...

 

[nomissjane]

I think that the Elsa Peretti Tiffany ring is gorgeous....I have a girlfriend with that same ring and it''s classic, sweet and timeless....

 

[blueyes157]

Why don''t you let her choose!

On whatever occassion you were planning on presenting the promise ring, print out both pictures or show them to her online and let her choose. That way she will be happy and you won''t be spending money on something that feels like a wedding band to her or she may not like. Personally I would be thrilled with either one, and the wedding band concern didn''t even cross my mind.

Narrow it down for her to your 2 favorites and let her do the deciding, that way she will be 100& happy and COMFORTABLE in what she is wearing. Good luck in whatever you choose to do!

 

[gwendolyn]

I''ve had my promise ring since March, and I''ve had people ask me a few dozen times if it''s an engagement ring or wedding band. I don''t mind those questions.

 

[Stone Hunter]

This is an older thread. He already picked something and gave it to her. He just didn''t tell us what he picked.