Heirloom distribution

[vabaz]

I need some opinions and I can always count on PS''ers to help me out. I have some heirloom jewery that I''d like to give to pass along. Do I give it to my son and tell him to give it to his wife or do I give it directly to my daughter-in-law? Its certainly not something my son would wear but I''m wondering if I should first give it to him and tell him to give it to her...?? They live nearby, have been married 5 years and our relationship has always been great! Thanks for your thoughts.

 

[radiantquest]

I think that you should give it to her. She would really appreciate that and your son will appreciate it too knowing that you think so highly of her to give her your heirloom pieces. I dont think he would be upset if you gave it directly to her since it isnt something he would wear anyway.

 

[Callisto]

Speaking as a soon to be daughter-in-law I would be very flattered if my MIL passed some of her heirlooms to me. You can also indicate that it''s important to you that the jewelry stay in the family in a polite way - i.e. "and I hope that someday you will pass it on your daughter or daughter-in-law". It would be very special to me though if my FMIL did something like that. My FMIL buys me gifts and is always very sweet and I do feel like part of their family, but if she gave me something of her''s or her family''s that she wanted to "keep in the family" I think that would be the ultimate compliment from her.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I''d wrap the pieces up beautifully and give directly to her. The pieces, are in fact, a present from you, right (not your dh)?

 

[vabaz]

Thanks for the sweet and nice thoughts - I hadn''t even thought about wrapping them as gifts but that''s a nice touch as well. I will just tell my son what I am going to do and I know he will be totally fine with it. When you only have sons, it''s harder to gift jewelry as they don''t care much about such things. I am lucky to have wonderful sons and one daughter-in-law and one almost daughter-in-law (who by the way is getting an heirloom diamond) and my third son, well, his turn will come all in due time, right?

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 5/10/2010 1:35:20 PM
Author: vabaz
Thanks for the sweet and nice thoughts - I hadn''t even thought about wrapping them as gifts but that''s a nice touch as well. I will just tell my son what I am going to do and I know he will be totally fine with it. When you only have sons, it''s harder to gift jewelry as they don''t care much about such things. I am lucky to have wonderful sons and one daughter-in-law and one almost daughter-in-law (who by the way is getting an heirloom diamond) and my third son, well, his turn will come all in due time, right?

Handing down heirlooms is very sweet and thoughtful of you. Both my kids are boys, as well. . .I haven''t decided what to do, yet. I still have my mom''s eng stone, but did sell about 1/3 of her yellow gold because most of it was broken or painfully dated and made about $1,580 from it. I kept all the stuff that has gemstones or significance. It''d be fun to reset a few items and pass them on.

 

[vabaz]

Date: 5/10/2010 1:44:03 PM
Author: MC

Date: 5/10/2010 1:35:20 PM
Author: vabaz
Thanks for the sweet and nice thoughts - I hadn''t even thought about wrapping them as gifts but that''s a nice touch as well. I will just tell my son what I am going to do and I know he will be totally fine with it. When you only have sons, it''s harder to gift jewelry as they don''t care much about such things. I am lucky to have wonderful sons and one daughter-in-law and one almost daughter-in-law (who by the way is getting an heirloom diamond) and my third son, well, his turn will come all in due time, right?

Handing down heirlooms is very sweet and thoughtful of you. Both my kids are boys, as well. . .I haven''t decided what to do, yet. I still have my mom''s eng stone, but did sell about 1/3 of her yellow gold because most of it was broken or painfully dated and made about $1,580 from it. I kept all the stuff that has gemstones or significance. It''d be fun to reset a few items and pass them on.

MC that is exactly what my son is doing with the diamond. Actually, he had it recut to better proportions and is having it reset in something he thinks his soon to be fiance would love and also it puts his special touch and effort into the project - but yet, the diamond is an heirloom. I think that concept works beautifully. I sold much of the costume jewlery and it was surprising to me how people gobbled it up!! You will do what works best for you and your sons and in your own timeframe. It''s been a joy for me to be able to do this and nothing could make me happier than to pass on some of these things.