Height difference?

[vespergirl]

Hi daydream, I am 5''9", so I totally know where you''re coming from. I read somewhere that the average height of men in the US is 5''8", so I''ve always had trouble finding guys that were tall enough to date. I have dated a couple of guys shorter than me, but I didn''t really love being taller (especially since I''m 6'' in heels), and I find that not many shorter men approach me, unless they are very comfortable with themselves. My husband is 6''3", so he''s 6" taller than me, which I really like. That being said, though, I think that there''s nothing wrong with giving this relationship a chance - only you know if you guys feel comfortable with the height difference.

And, Tom Cruise is only about 5''6", and all of his wives have been taller than him - doesn''t seem to bother them or anyone in Hollywood!

 

[Lurchie]

I''m 5''11" too and DH is 6''2". But I''ve dated men shorter than me and it never mattered. Do I *prefer* someone taller? Yes, but I think it says loads about the man who is comfortable dating a taller woman. Go for it!

 

[daydream believer]

Thanks for all of the input everyone!

My mom gets SO mad at me when me and my sisters complain about stuff like this (we''re all tall, mom included). Her mantra is that "any guy should be thrilled to be with a girl who looks like a supermodel!"

A number of you mentioned that it is the guy''s confidence that really matters and I couldn''t agree more! I know that I am confident in myself but the real problems could happen if he is at all insecure about it.

Hudson: you and SO are really cute together! I don''t think I would have noticed it wasn''t posted under this thread- the pic really makes me feel better

Rob09: It''s nice to hear from a guy who is secure with it like that. Hopefully my date will feel the same!

 

[laurel25]

I''m 5''1" and BF is 5''10" and I like that amount of difference. My ex-husband was 5''6" and that was find too. I think that it''s all a matter of confidence and attitude. If a guy who''s on the shorter side has issues with it, then it will become an issue for the two of you or if you have issues about being taller than it can be a problem, but otherwise it should be fine.

 

[Haven]

I''m 5''9.5" and hubby is 5''8".
And I wear heels all the time, and most of them are around 3 inches.

I was never that attracted to tall men, I''ve always prefered the shorter, athletic build. And that''s my hubby!

I obviously don''t think it''s a problem. And if anyone else has a problem with it, then I just feel bad for them that OUR height difference means anything to them at all!

 

[radiantquest]

i am 5''10" and he is 6''5".

i dont think that 2 inches is a big deal. at least give it a try first and if you feel uncomfortable than at least you know that you did your best. i know that being tall around a short guy can kinda make me feel like an ogre. i dont think that you will notice 2 inches

 

[vita*dolce]

i'm 5'3" and my SO is 6'3" and it doesn't really matter at all, except that we look a little silly standing next to each other in pictures and i frequently stand on a step to kiss him, otherwise it normally isn't an issue

 

[Quinnie]

I''m barely 5''1" and FI is 6''2" so there''s a pretty decent height difference (note my avatar pic... me struggling to kiss him haha).

Like BIH I''ve never dated a guy shorter than me because I''ve never really met anyone shorter than me. I''ve never really had a preference regarding a guy''s height but it seems like really tall guys have always been attracted to me... most of my bf''s have been around 6'' or over. Anyone else notice that?

 

[Haven]

Date: 8/26/2008 10:19:03 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
As you can see, theres'' a significant difference with us. Bare-footed we''re 3-4 inches different, with heels it could be 4-6 like in this picture....

And I should add that he LOVES it when I wear really tall heels. He says he has the best view in the house

That''s a great picture, HH!

My hubby also LOVES IT when I wear heels, the higher the better, according to him. That''s a good thing, too, because I love my heels!

 

[Aloros]

I''m a little over 5''8", he''s 5''10". When I wear heels, I''m taller than him.

He doesn''t care, and neither do I. We do joke about it sometimes though

 

[zoebartlett]

I''m 4''9" (or 4''8"??) and my husband''s 6 feet. So there''s a 13 or 14 inch difference beteeen us. We''re both used to it but there are times when I wish I were much taller.

"Much taller" for me would be, oh -- 5''2".

 

[musey]

I've always been most attracted to guys who were taller, but not by a LOT. I dated a guy who was 6'2", while I'm 5'4"... that was an uncomfortable difference, for me. I got sore calves and cricks in my neck from trying to reach up for a kiss!

FI is about 4.5 inches taller than me, most people would say he's on the shorter side of average (5'8.5"), and that works well. If I were constructing him from scratch I'd probably make him 5'10" or so

so that he'd still be noticeably taller when I wear heels.

I'm sure I'd be open to dating someone shorter than me, but there aren't many out there!!

Once you get a guy shorter than me, he's not JUST shorter than me, he's also VERY VERY short in general!

 

[Haven]

Date: 8/26/2008 5:15:40 PM
Author: musey
I''ve always been most attracted to guys who were taller, but not by a LOT. I dated a guy who was 6''2'', while I''m 5''4''... that was an uncomfortable difference, for me. I got sore calves and cricks in my neck from trying to reach up for a kiss!

FI is about 4.5 inches taller than me, most people would say he''s on the shorter side of average (5''8.5''), and that works well. If I were constructing him from scratch I''d probably make him 5''10'' or so

so that he''d still be noticeably taller when I wear heels.

I''m sure I''d be open to dating someone shorter than me, but there aren''t many out there!!

Once you get a guy shorter than me, he''s not JUST shorter than me, he''s also VERY VERY short in general!

Now THAT is another thread altogether! If only we had the power . . .

 

[musey]

LOL Haven!!

 

[panda08]

I''m 5''1" and had always dated and been attracted to men who were at least 5''10". My mantra was "I''d rather date an average looking tall guy than a cute short guy." My shorter (under 5''10") guy friends always gave me all kinds of grief about my "height fetish." I never thought I''d get over my fetish until I met my FI. We were great friends but I didn''t consider him because he''s about 5''6". Five months into our friendship, he pursued with an earnestness that really impressed me. All of my friends told me that I would be a fool to pass him up and frankly, I couldn''t muster a single reason to not give it a try other than superficial reasons. So I took the plunge and here we are, six months later, incredibly happy and planning a life together. So now, my mantra is "give it a try, you never know what''ll happen!"

 

[trillionaire]

I am 5''6 and I like taller guys, around 5''10-6''1 in height.

Of course, SO is 5''8... and with the right heels, I can edge him out!

 

[ladypirate]

I''m pretty tall (5''9"), but I look REALLY short next to bf, who is 6''7". He is my gentle giant.

I feel you on the height thing--in the past when I''ve gone out with guys who were smaller than me (either in height or weight), it made me feel a little self-conscious.

 

[Selkie]

I''m 5''9", he''s 5''7" and a good 40 pounds lighter than me! I''m just larger-framed in general and at my thinnest, still weighed more than he does now. When we first met, I think I had that superficial "Oh no, he''s too short for me" reaction, but it was quickly overshadowed by all his other amazing qualities

. I do tower over him in even 1" heels (he gets a kick out of it too), but I can''t wear super-high heels anyway, so that''s usually not a prob. I wore ballet flats at our wedding, and our photog. had some fun tricks to even out the height difference in almost all the pics!

 

[purrfectpear]

I''m a petite 5''3" and have dated a few men who were 6''5" or so. Truthfully I''m not attracted to tall men. Dancing is a pain, literally.
I''m every short man''s dream...a woman who prefers short men. My most serious relationships have been with men who were 5''7" and under.

 

[qtiekiki]

I am 5''3" and DH is 5''8", and we are about the same height when I wear heels. In all honesty, I have to say that I wouldn''t date anyone shorter than me because, like others had said, that would means the guy is very very short. I would date anyone who is taller than me even if it''s just an inch or two. On the other hand, if I was tall, then I wouldn''t have a problem dating someone shorter because that just means I am tall, not he is short.

One of our friends'' GF is 5''11" and he is 5''6". They are the sweetest couple I''ve ever seen, so don''t let the height difference bothers you.

 

[KimberlyH]

My husband is 4" taller than me.

My mom is 4" taller than my dad. When they were married they were affectionately referred to as stretch and sponge...happily married for 33+ years and raised two kiddos.

 

[vita*dolce]

my boyfriend and i look something like this:

 

[Miranda]

Height is for sure not a make or break thing for me. Though, I always had tall boyfriends - mostly over 6''. I''m 5''2" and DH is 6''2", but, I''m usually teetering around in heels (cause I love ''em) so the height difference isn''t so pronounced.