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berkley

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Although this is not ring related, or even engament reated, I still feel the need to vent.

First off, NO WE DID NOT BREAK UP. Phew! And second, I would like to apologize if my post seems to traill off and get off-topic in places.

So here''s the scoop:

Monday rolls around and since I worked a double shift this past weekend I had the day off. I was going to go have lunch with my friend and maybe check out the sales at Field''s downtown. Whoo hoo! I was just getting out of the shower when I heard our answering machine pick up. Didn''t mind what the message was saying. In all honesty, It usually takes me an hr to get dressed and with Martha Stewart live on, even longer. She''s so crafty. Now it''s about noon, and I''m running late. Went to call my friend to tell her I''m late and I''ll be there soon and I noticed the missed calls. The number was an Ohio Number, and the guy said he was in Rochester with a trailer and would be here in about an hr or so. Very strange? Perhaps it was a guy dropping a car off for J to work on? That was left on the machine at 10:30. I listened to it at 12. Hmm, whatever, I figured it was someone for J, and that was that. I no more walked 3 feet towards the garage when I see someone coming up our drive. Now I started freaking out a little, no one stops by here at 12 on a monday, and what is this guy with a trailer doing? Where''s Jeremy? What the freak is going on?? So I try calling J on my cell i''d say a good 10 times. No answer. By this time the guy had pulled around to our second garage and is parked. I could hear his big diesel truck still running. (I have to add, when we built this home we had to make sure we had a 2nd heated building. J is an amazing car enthusiast and has an extensive car collection. He likes to painstakingly take apart old muscle cars, rebuild them, put them back together and have them all finished. He started a shop a while back that consisted of himself, his dad and 3 of his buddies and that has bloomed into his "baby.") From the window in the gargage I see J''s truck coming up the drive (thank god) and so I feel a little relief. At least this guy won''t be breaking in to anything! Instinctivly I went straight down to see what''s going on. J was surprised to see me home, he thought I was working and forgot I had the day off. There was this sort of wierd vibe from him... the older guy seemed very nice. He introduced himself, yada yada yada, said he was very excited to see the car (?) yada yada yada, and since I was VERY late for my lunch date had to run, but it was nice meeting him. J said he''d call later, and to have a fab day. A fab day??? What?? Who says that? I didn''t even get the courtesy of a smooch! Oh well, business is business and maybe he was running late too. So, I have a pretty good day, bought some sheets I''ve been dying to get, found some cute summer shoes on sale! And got back home around 6-ish. J''s usually home around then, unless he''s waiting on parts or whatever. Nope, no-one''s home. I still had no idea what Ohio guy was doing out at our house, usually drop off''s are at the shop where they do all the resto/rebuilding work. there''s more than enough area for vehicles to be stored safely. Curiosity got the best of me and I wanted to see what was in the shed.


OH MY GOSH!! I couldn''t believe what I saw, or should I say didn''t see. My all time favorite car was gone. MY ALL TIME FAVORITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was in shock, i still am in shock. I was bawling. That car was my favorite favorite favorite car, I am in no way shape or form a moto-head. I do not like loud noisy cars, and fast ones scare me, but that car.........it was beautiful! And I know how hard J worked on it. It was the only car I would ride in to go to the car shows (car craft.) I am still heartbroken!! I called my mom and told her what had happened. She calmed me down and gave me the "it was only a car" speech. She said that maybe he decided to start something new, or expand the shop, you know how guys are. I just couldn''t believe that he would make such a decision without even telling me first! It''s not like we are in need of money, or the space in the garage?? So after whining, and pouting and moaning to my mother, my best friend, and my brother (bless his heart) I have decided to just keep my mouth shut and be ok with his decision, after all, it''s his car. In my brother''s words "just be glad he didn''t sell me off to some guy from Ohio!" lol!




I just can''t help but feel very sad about it all. That car was awesome....
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Don''t scare us like that!!! What a subject line!!!

Hmm... maybe he sold it to buy your ring? Maybe he''s having something done to it? Like the show "Overhauling"? I''d be demanding a few answers tonight if I were you!
 
Okay, so I understand why you''re upset, but what the hell? Why didn''t he even say anything to you about it? That would bother the hell out of me, because for one thing, It''s your home, too, with people coming to pick things up. And another- you were THERE when it happened! Hello!!?? Information please? And he thought you were at work? Sneaky pants. That''s what would piss me off, the fact that he knew he was doing something sneaky, which is why he acted weird, (FAB?!?!) and arranged it all while he thought you were working.. Do you think it''s because he''s trying to get your ring,a dn needed money? Or maybe it''s because he''s going to fix it up in a special way for you?
 
Sumbride: The crazy thing is, is that the car WAS "overhauled." He was working on that thing waaaay before we even started dating!! I tried to breech the subject by saying "that guy was really nice, what''s he need work on?" He said "You know that I''ve really been wanting to get a new dd for this summer (daily driver) and so and so just got a new Z06 (regular corvette on steroids) that I really like, so I talked to blah ba blah and he said his brother''s monkey''s uncle''s 3rd cousin twice removed (I wasn;t listening) really wanted a vintage vette with numbers. Hon, everything''s for sale if the price is right." UGH!

Ambgerwaves: The thought HAD crossed my mind. But for god''s sake, there is ABSOLUTELY NO REASON TO SELL THAT CAR!! The thing is a rarity, and was in pristine condition. The stones I was shown on Saturday were around the 5-6k range. With the setting I''m thinking of, it would push the grand total to around 7ish. Seriously, you do not need to sell a perfect car to affort $7000.

I just don''t understand. We were all about DISCUSSING EVERYTHING, we work as a team..... and the Nuts-o knew that car was my favorite.
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In the end though, it''s his toys , and he can decide what he wants to do with them. All I can do is give him the shoulder and the fridgid glare.
 
Was it YOUR car?? Your name on the title? If not, well then it is his to do with, what he wants. Maybe he is looking to get you an even bigger bling with the money from the car... think of it that way
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I love cars myself ... actually my guy sold a family heirloom Bentley that I LOVED...
 
Well, even if your name isn''t on the title, it''s still something he should have shared ahead of time.. I mean, if he gave his dog away, and didn''t say anything, I''m sure she''d be upset, because although it wasn''t hers per se, she still should be involved in the goings on in their house! I mean, I''m not trying to be snarky, I promise
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but I''m saying what I''d be feeling if it were my situation. Also, selling a Bentley????v I think I just fainted.
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hahah gosh if a car was missing from the garage i''d be like YES finally, my darling husband managed to sell a car! he is such a hoarder of cars, he loves to work on them and has restored one or two and he would NEVER sell any of his babies. he even stores his restored power wagon in a garage 3 towns away that he pays for monthly, spoiled! this is why for our next car, we are LEASING, not buying because i don''t want yet another car that he wants to make a project.

though i know what you mean about being sad that the car is totally gone and it was your fave. he should have said something to you about it, and actually i think you should say something to him. this odd lack of communication isn''t the best way to continue, he doesn''t tell you about selling it, you decide not to say anything to him about it being gone. just talk about it! what''s so wrong with saying, hey where did the car go!?
 
Thanks for the support!

Mara, I did ask him about the guy taking my baby, and he responded with the whole, "I think I''ll get a new daily driver, my buddy got a Z06, so I think we should go check those out..." Never really said he was sorry for not telling me about this deal, but in the end it was his car to do with as he pleases, I just reaaaaaaaaaally loved it. He''s the car nut, I just drive what I have!
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And is the power-wagon the same as a grocery getter??

Patchee, a family heirloom BENTLEY???
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offtopic, but one of our dogs names is Bentley!

I guess all I can do now is just suck it up and stop pouting??
Maybe I should throw away that god-forsaken Dale earnhardt jr sweatshirt he insists he wear out when he "can''t find anything else to wear...."


bye bye Jr............
 
Date: 3/22/2006 1:42:01 PM
Author: berkley
I guess all I can do now is just suck it up and stop pouting??
Maybe I should throw away that god-forsaken Dale earnhardt jr sweatshirt he insists he wear out when he ''can''t find anything else to wear....''


bye bye Jr............

Ha ha ha! This really htis home because my BF has this t-shirt that he ripped the sleeves off of to make a tank top. I told him, "Honey, I love you, but we are NOT going to have any items of clothing in this house that you''ve made from other items of clothing." Need I add that my BF is 300 pounds? Yeah, didn''t think so..
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Oh Amber... I hope you threw that "tank top" away!!!

My BF has a throwback Washington Bullets jersey (basketball tank) in his closet. When he bought it I clarified that it would NOT be worn without a shirt underneath it. Thankfully he agreed with me! Style doesn''t come easy to men!
 
this thread is getting out of control! LOL!! It has already made me feel better!!

Amber, PLEASE draw the line when he starts insisting on keeping old grunderwear that he can turn into manthongs!! LOL (may not be appropriate, but funny nonetheless!!) Sounds like our guys are 2 of the same!!

I dont think style comes easily to MOST men, thats why we are here to help them!!

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Oh man, that tank top was out so fast his eyes watered. When we moved in together, I picked it up (you know, the two fingered way?) and said, "THIS- is out." And tossed it. Man, don''t get me started on underwear, I buy him new underwear ALL the time, and he still wears the ones that look like something I tried to knit- keep in mind I can''t knit. I gave a clean pair of the old ones to the dog and let him go to town. BF got the message! We actually got in a fight last week over a green flannel shirt he wanted to wear for St.Patrick''s day. I let him wear it, since I wasn''t going to be seen with him, and didn''t say anything. But when he told me he had a meeting with his new boss, I was like, "um.. are you going to wear that to your meeting?" And he got so huffy saying, "If you didn''t like it, why didn''t you say anything??" And I said, "Honey, it''s a green and white flannel shirt- who STILL likes those?" Not fun!
 
Hi Berkley
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So I''m just trying to put 2 and 2 together here. After reading this thread and your "frustrated" thread, MAYBE this all makes sense. Here''s what I think is going on. You went out to lunch with your FBIL and FSIL. They said something about a your BF has to get you a ring already. He felt put on the spot and that now he has to get you one right away. He needs extra cash, so he sells your favorite car because it will get him a lot of $ (and because he''s a guy he innocently/unfeelingly forgets that it was your favorite and doesn''t consult or console you), he''s flustered when you are still at home and you seen his plan to get the ring going down, makes up a lame excuse for selling the car when you ask, and finally when you ask questions about buying an e-ring he says "he''s got it all under controlllll...".

It sounds totally like a thing that a guy to do!
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