He asked...my mom!!!

[vc10um]

Thanks for the dust ladies!!! My mom spilled her guts to me this afternoon and told me last night that A asked for her permission and blessing! She was very happy to give it to him...but couldn''t keep it to herself!

So now, the problem is, I think I''ve shot myself in the foot with the proposal!!! He was thinking about Thanksgiving/Christmas, or at least that''s what he told my mom, but he said he couldn''t do that because I''ve always said I''ve never wanted a proposal *on* a holiday. I just think it''s too predictable for me, and neither of us is too connected intensely to the same holiday. *On* a holiday just feels too forced to me. But I have no problem with days AROUND the holidays. ESPECIALLY since the day after Christmas is our 18-month dating anniversary.

So, any suggestions on how to sneakily let him know that I have no problem with days *around* holidays for a proposal, without making him suspicious that I know he asked my mom?!?!

 

[TooPatient]

Tell him about others on the list who are getting (hopefully) proposals on their anniversaries. How very sweet it is. Even if it is near a holiday, what could be more romantic?

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 10/22/2009 9:14:19 PM
Author: TooPatient
Tell him about others on the list who are getting (hopefully) proposals on their anniversaries. How very sweet it is. Even if it is near a holiday, what could be more romantic?

I think that''s a good idea!

And congrats on (him) taking the next step towards a proposal .. ***DUST***

 

[misskitty]

YAY! That is an awesome sign. I''m so glad the dust worked out, and I can''t wait to hear your story (because it sounds like it is coming so SOON!).

 

[babycush]

That is so incredibly sweet. I love a nice old-fashioned man like that, it just shows how much he respects you and truly wants to be part of your family!

 

[southhorizon]

He has asked your mum (yeah!) and he knows how you feel about holidays. My opinion is that you have to trust him to do it when he is ready. I know it is not easy, but relax and be patient!

 

[wsu12]

Yay! I felt the same way about holidays but honestly I think you two will be so overjoyed about getting engaged that you won''t even think about it being on a holiday.

 

[crossmyfingers]

Ahhh, how exciting! I''ll bet he knows that you saying you don''t want a proposal *on* a holiday still means days *near* holidays are fine.

 

[vc10um]

Thanks, ladies!

I''ve realized that, really, at this point there''s nothing I can do except sit back and enjoy the ride. I get to plan the whole wedding...I can let him have his time in the sun with the ring and the proposal--whenever *he* thinks the time is right!

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 10/27/2009 10:34:23 AM
Author: vc10um
Thanks, ladies!

I''ve realized that, really, at this point there''s nothing I can do except sit back and enjoy the ride. I get to plan the whole wedding...I can let him have his time in the sun with the ring and the proposal--whenever *he* thinks the time is right!

This is very true! This is a time that will never happen in your life again, so milk it!