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Can you please, please stop saying that you''re a big baby because you''re still sad and crying about your pictures?
It is a BIG deal that your pictures didn''t come out right. And logically, you know, we all know, that you will get over it, and that regardless of the pictures, you had a wonderful wedding and now a wonderful husband. And we know that time heals everything, or at least makes it more bearable. You will get to the point where you''ll be able to look at one of those candid shots from your friends and say "wow, I am SO glad they caught this moment - maybe I should actually frame this!"
But in the meantime, why not allow yourself to feel whatever it is you''re feeling, without trying to control it or judge whether you should be feeling it? I don''t think that''s going to make you get over it any faster, but what it is doing is adding the burden of feeling silly for it!
I totally get restraining what you post on here - but on the other end of the spectrum is beating yourself up about it!
I hope I''m not crossing the line with you to call you out on this. It''s just that I feel for you so much, and I know how I felt with some of the details that didn''t go as planned, and in perspective, they''re less of a big deal than feeling I didn''t have any great pictures from that day. So please, know that it is OK to feel how you do - let yourself grieve a little, will you? You''ll get to the good place eventually, you''ll know when it''s really time to let go, and I think it will be from a place of calmness, not one where you''re judging yourself.
It is a BIG deal that your pictures didn''t come out right. And logically, you know, we all know, that you will get over it, and that regardless of the pictures, you had a wonderful wedding and now a wonderful husband. And we know that time heals everything, or at least makes it more bearable. You will get to the point where you''ll be able to look at one of those candid shots from your friends and say "wow, I am SO glad they caught this moment - maybe I should actually frame this!"
But in the meantime, why not allow yourself to feel whatever it is you''re feeling, without trying to control it or judge whether you should be feeling it? I don''t think that''s going to make you get over it any faster, but what it is doing is adding the burden of feeling silly for it!
I totally get restraining what you post on here - but on the other end of the spectrum is beating yourself up about it!
I hope I''m not crossing the line with you to call you out on this. It''s just that I feel for you so much, and I know how I felt with some of the details that didn''t go as planned, and in perspective, they''re less of a big deal than feeling I didn''t have any great pictures from that day. So please, know that it is OK to feel how you do - let yourself grieve a little, will you? You''ll get to the good place eventually, you''ll know when it''s really time to let go, and I think it will be from a place of calmness, not one where you''re judging yourself.