Wedding Has anyone else hit their breaking point?

[zoebartlett]

Okay, the title is a tad overly dramatic, I know.

I''ll admit it, I''ve been in a really bad mood all weekend. Honest though, I am usually a very cheerful person and I try not to get down, but certain things have left me very on edge lately. I''m a big bundle of nerves about so many things these days.

Yesterday, I spoke with our DJ, who wanted to run through the paperwork we sent him ages ago. He wanted to go over song selections, etc., and I was getting more annoyed by the minute. He''s a very nice man and I know a few people who have been to other weddings he''s done, and he''s supposedly great. I just got so frustrated because he kept asking me if I wanted to use this song and that song, and he went on and on and on...all I kept thinking was that this is his job (well, one of ''em). Other than a few "do not play" songs, I really don''t care about which Justin Timberlake songs he plays. I could care less if he plays Jennifer Lopez. He''s the professional -- play whatever you think would go over well with people of varying age ranges. I don''t dance, and THIS is one of the reasons I didn''t want a regular dancing reception. Ugh.

I know this is all very petty but I really don''t care anymore. I''m not the only one, right? Right?

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Hey, Zoe, I don''t have any good advice, but just wanted to encourage you to take a bubble bath, have a glass of wine or whatever helps you to relax. You need SOME rejuvination before the week starts! I know that it can be stressful a few months before the wedding because that''s when things begin to get finalized and it can become overwhelming. Don''t be afraid to take a break from anything wedding-related, you still have a few months, so there is plenty of time and people can wait another week if need be!

Besides, if you don''t care what the DJ plays and don''t want to bother going over the playlist, then don''t

I mean, he''ll have to play something, so he can decide, haha.

 

[zoebartlett]

Thanks NEL! Sorry if I sounded whiney. Yeah, I just need to chill out. Wine is a very good idea -- I think I''ll go see what we have in the fridge.

 

[Gypsy]

Take a couple of days to just blow off some steam ASAP. I had a lovely ladies shopping day yesterday, and am being an absolute SLUG today and it''s helping. I''ve been feeling like I''m hemorraging money and it''s been giving me bad headaches and making me feel very much like breaking (along with other things)... sometimes you just need some time off from life. A good book helps too, keeps the mind distracted. ((HUGS)) Zoe!

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 4/20/2008 8:48:14 PM
Author: Gypsy
Take a couple of days to just blow off some steam ASAP. I had a lovely ladies shopping day yesterday, and am being an absolute SLUG today and it''s helping. I''ve been feeling like I''m hemorraging money and it''s been giving me bad headaches and making me feel very much like breaking (along with other things)... sometimes you just need some time off from life. A good book helps too, keeps the mind distracted. ((HUGS)) Zoe!

Hi Gypsy! I am so glad we have a vacation week coming up after this week. I know I''m going to spend a good part of that time in my jammies, with a good book in my hand. Actually, I just started a good one -- "Remember Me?" by Sophie Kinsella. It''s her latest book and it''s really good so far.

 

[Haven]

Zoe, I''m so sorry you''re at your breaking point. I''m not there yet, but I haven''t exactly taken a proactive role in planning the wedding, either. I should probably be a bit more involved and stressed out about it.

Enjoy your break, I''m sure a good book will be a great way to feel better.

Thinking of you!

 

[Gypsy]

I''ll put it on my list for my next book shopping. I just read the new Lisa Kleypas, it wasn''t as good as her last hard cover (which was FABULOUS) but it was very good. Certain Girls by Jennifer Weiner is on my list right now, which I am hoping is better than her last book... which I RETURNED I was so dissappointed with it. I skipped right to the end about 2/3 of the way through.

 

[bee*]

Sorry to hear that you''ve hit breaking point. Sending hugs, have a large glass of something tasty and relax for the evening.

 

[anchor31]

Oh yeah, it happened to me. Now I''m just "Just tell me what needs to be done and I''ll do it, whatever". I feel a lot better not taking everything so seriously. Much better for my mental health when dealing with finals and now helping my brother plan his own wedding three months after mine. Take a deep breath, and if there is something you don''t particularly care about (like the music played), make it known. "Sorry, Mr. DJ, but I don''t really care which J.Lo songs you play. I don''t want to do your job for you, I''m sure you can figure it out. Thank you." Well, ok, maybe word it a little nicer, but I probably would have been annoyed too.

 

[tberube]

I''ve had the crying session, for sure. It happened sometime AFTER the first DJ turned out to be a scam, the photographer ducked out on me, the guitarist asked for more money lest he take a job somewhere else that day, and BEFORE I knew my wedding dress wasn''t lost somewhere in China and had to agree to a cake I didn''t want because of price.

So yes, I''ve been there, you''re definitely not alone, sweetie. And the only advice I can give you is this: No matter how much you think you''re ahead of the game, you can''t control your vendors and your family members, etc. so don''t try. Just take deep breaths and try to smile, try to make this as pleasant a process for YOU as you can. Stressing out only hurts you, and doesn''t accomplish anything.
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Ugh. I just re-read that and it''s not really that helpful. Guess I needed to get out of my bitter rut before I tried to help someone else out of theirs....heh.

 

[rainbowtrout]

Yes. It''s manifesting in the fact that I just had to have FI book my fitting appointment, because I can no longer take the assumption tht The Wedding is at the center of The Bride''s universe. Sorry, no--The Finals are at the center of The Grad Students universe...

yeah...I''ve stopped doing anything, thankfully almost everything is done already and I can do the rest the week before.

 

[Harleigh]

Oh, hun...I hit the breaking point quite some time ago, picked myself up best as I could and am just taking one day at a time now. There is still so much not done with 3 months to go, and feel like I''m on my way back to the breaking point, which is not good for me, so must.not.let.that.happen!

Sorry to hear you''re stressing out so much...trust me, I feel your pain. {HUGS!}

 

[zoebartlett]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I''ve now resorted to oreos...not good (and they''re double stuff too

). This was after I was SO good at dinner time. I made a really yummy tofu, chicken, and veggie stir fry with a little brown rice. It was great but the oreos were WAY better. I highly recommend them.

 

[Harriet]

Zoe,
i''m sorry you''re so stressed. Now you have me craving Oreos!

 

[zoebartlett]

Hi Harriet,

Thanks! Go ahead, have ''em. A few won''t hurt, right?

 

[Harriet]

Noop.

 

[v!v!]

Hey Zoe! Hope you''re feeling a little better. Nothing like some double stuffed oreos to bring a little smile to ones face.