Habits your SO does that irks you

[Deactivated member 42515]

So, I'm at work and I am sooo bored. It got me thinking, what are some things your SO does that drives you bonkers?

Mine likes to sleep eat. I always always have to make sure there are snacks laying out on the counter before I go to sleep or the kitchen is a mess when I wake up in the morning. One time, we bought one of those huge pumpkin pies from Costco. The next morning, I wake up and there is a large bowl of raisin bran on the counter with a whole jug of milk, now warm, on the counter and the pumpkin pie is gone. Only thing left is the pan and box. Plus! To make it worse, this is back in the day when he refused to believe it was him doing it in the middle of the night. Now he knows but I still gotta clean the kitchen in the morning

 

[sonnyjane]

Haha. Luckily this is really one of my only qualms with the dear man, but when we are sitting on the couch watching TV, he puts his feet up on the coffee table and shakes them incessantly, like a nervous tic. My husband is a big guy, so his "harmless" foot shaking causes the whole couch to move. Not earth-shattering, but I ask him to stop every time.

 

[hoover]

Sleep eat? That sounds kind of funny, but a whole costco pie? Wow... I'm impressed

Habits (of anyone) that I find annoying:
Foot dragging when walking - the shh-sh-sh noise drives me bonkers!
Slamming doors - doesn't it take less energy to just close it nicely?
Chewing fingertips, nails, pens - yuck!
not covering one's mouth when coughing - (I'm a germophobe)
Squeezing the toothpaste tube from the middle (I'm also a little OCD)

 

[armywife13]

I second the chewing the fingernails! Ugh, it drives me bonkers! DH also makes a lot of noise when he eats. He says he was raised that eating loud was a compliment to the cook......hmmm, not sure I buy that!

 

[hoover]

Lol Armywife13, I'll add open mouth chewing to the noisy eating, too.

 

[armywife13]

Haha, yes Hoover, my hubby does that too! It sounds like our husbands are two peas in a pod!

 

[Dee*Jay]

armywife and hoover -- I think I'm dating your husband(s)! Seriously, I can't figure out HOW he makes so damn much noise when he eats. Makes me BANANAS.

And The Boyfriend SNORES. And rolling him around doesn't help--he snores in every position... on his back... on his side... even on his stomach. How is that even possible?!? (I don't think snoring really counts as someting he *does* that irks me, but I'm throwing it out there anyway!)

 

[Haven]

So, I'm at work and I am sooo bored. It got me thinking, what are some things your SO does that drives you bonkers?

Mine likes to sleep eat. I always always have to make sure there are snacks laying out on the counter before I go to sleep or the kitchen is a mess when I wake up in the morning. One time, we bought one of those huge pumpkin pies from Costco. The next morning, I wake up and there is a large bowl of raisin bran on the counter with a whole jug of milk, now warm, on the counter and the pumpkin pie is gone. Only thing left is the pan and box. Plus! To make it worse, this is back in the day when he refused to believe it was him doing it in the middle of the night. Now he knows but I still gotta clean the kitchen in the morning

This is too funny! OH my gosh, I don't know what I'd do if I woke up to see that my husband ate something in his sleep!
Does he take Ambien, by any chance? My sissy's FIL was taking Ambien for a while, but he stopped when he realized that it made him sleep eat something awful! He was adamant that it wasn't him for a while, but his wife eventually woke up and videotaped him one night. Funny, but scary!

My husband has such a terrible habit I'm embarrassed to share it--he chews his skin around his fingernails. He has a skin condition that makes his skin really rough, and eventually it peels, and I can't imagine how annoying it is for him. He never does it in public, but it makes me ill when I look over and see him chewing at his fingers. *shudder*

He does one more thing that drives me insane. He leaves clean boxers on our hutch in the kitchen. BOXERS! When we were first married I kept finding folded boxers in our kitchen, which was of course perplexing. I'd put them away, and then the next day another pair would be in their place! It turns out that he puts them there before he showers so he won't wake me when he's changing, but for some reason he usually goes into the bedroom and takes out a different pair, anyway. I don't know, the whole thing is BIZARRE. Who knows what he's thinking. All I know is that I have to check the hutch every morning, and I have this fear that we'll have company over one day and they'll walk in and see his boxers sitting there!

He also litters our house with coasters, but it doesn't annoy me anymore. I've shared this here before, but he is obsessed with protecting our furniture. (He grew up in a furniture family.) The first time we hosted a big event in our house I woke up and found coasters lining every single surface in our house. It was like being in the movie Poltergeist. He's so weird.

I shouldn't talk, though. I have so many annoying habits, I'm just lucky my DH isn't on PS to share them!

 

[Dancing Fire]

why does she have to step on the gas when the signal light 100 ft ahead is red... no wonder her brakes only lasted 15K miles...

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

why does she have to step on the gas when the signal light 100 ft ahead is red... no wonder her brakes only lasted 15K miles...

That's me! Are you by chance DH in disguise?! Hehe

 

[Dancing Fire]

why does she have to step on the gas when the signal light 100 ft ahead is red... no wonder her brakes only lasted 15K miles...

That's me! Are you by chance DH in disguise?! Hehe

 

[texaskj]

OMG Haven, that's hysterical about the boxers. I laughed so hard, I've got tears in my eyes.

 

[OCgirl]

So many to list......
-rubs his eyes with his hand really really hard it makes me feel like he's about to poke his eyes out
-folds his legs under his thighs when eating at the dining table (c'mon he's not Aladdin on the magic carpet)
-folds his legs under his thighs in the movie theater after taking off his shoes
-wears old tshirt and sweatpants with REALLY big holes at home or around the community
-Doesn't turn off the light in his room when he leaves

 

[packrat]

Ohhh lordy! Where are the threads from a while back about things our SO's do? There's one where we vented about them and one where we vented as our SO's about ourselves. Hysterical. I had a whole laundry list about my husband in the vent thread.

I'll add a couple more to my mile long list of frustrations..procrastination and "his time/his space/his way". These actually aren't ones I can even find humor in, like I did w/the other irritants in the other thread. These have made me contemplate taking the kids and leaving.

Ehhh I deleted everything I had written. Suffice it to say-his crap is more important than my crap. He has more crap and continues to get more crap, I keep getting rid of my crap b/c there's no room for the kids' crap, so he fills up that space w/his crap. His time is more important than my time also. My basement flooded a year ago come the 15th, and it STILL not fixed, and no amount of whining, bitching, crying, nagging or withholding of sex has managed to change that.

 

[Lady_Disdain]

-folds his legs under his thighs when eating at the dining table (c'mon he's not Aladdin on the magic carpet)

I do this all the time... In my defense, the table is wood and no one should know how my legs are placed.

 

[Autumnovember]

This is too easy, hahah. There are a bunch of things that he does that annoys me!

First, how loud he chews. Ooooomg. I wanna poke my eyes out every single time. He already knows that when I say his name while we're eating and give him 'the stare' it means "YOUR CHEWING IS GOING TO MAKE ME FREAK!" It's even worse when he chews gum or has hard candy in his mouth. I eventually try to make him spit it out

His snoring. Although he doesn't really control this or do it willingly, he CAN figure out a way to correct it but he doesn't. I poke him and harass him until he stops. I try to fall asleep before he does to avoid hearing his snoring. Back when I was getting up for clinicals at 4 am, I didn't have patience so I would just sleep on the couch. This went on for an entire year.

He loves the mirror. Give him a mirror and tweezers and he is in heaven. He is obsessed with keeping his face free of stray hairs around where his beard would be. So now we just have a routine. He can do this all he wants but he picks the best times to do it....such as when we have to be leaving the house to go somewhere. To squash the problem quickly so we can still leave on time, I will typically go to the bathroom and "patrol" him. We'll bicker for a minute about how long he has for mirror & tweezer time and when we decide on the time, I start counting down. And if he isn't done by the time I finish the count down, I turn the lights off and its over. Haha. I think he almost enjoys this game we play because we're constantly laughing every single time we go through the same routine.

He gets sidetracked with EVERYTHING he does except when its mirror & tweezer time. I ALWAYS have to redirect him or keep him on track.

He talks to everyone and anyone. This isn't always a bad thing but his timing for things is very off. He'll start a loooooooong conversation with someone when we're in a rush to get somewhere. I usually have to give him the look.

Smoking. He smokes when he drinks. It drives me INSANE. Every single time he lights one up I tell him how bad it is until he doesn't want one anymore. We go through this routinely too.

I really could go on but I'll stop here

Our very closest friends know how annoyed he can get me by doing these things so its clockwork to all of us and we all always laugh about how routine we are with everything. Our friends were going to put on a skit at our wedding mocking us doing the very same things I just listed, haha.

 

[diamondringlover]

Ohhh lordy! Where are the threads from a while back about things our SO's do? There's one where we vented about them and one where we vented as our SO's about ourselves. Hysterical. I had a whole laundry list about my husband in the vent thread.

I'll add a couple more to my mile long list of frustrations..procrastination and "his time/his space/his way". These actually aren't ones I can even find humor in, like I did w/the other irritants in the other thread. These have made me contemplate taking the kids and leaving.

Ehhh I deleted everything I had written. Suffice it to say-his crap is more important than my crap. He has more crap and continues to get more crap, I keep getting rid of my crap b/c there's no room for the kids' crap, so he fills up that space w/his crap. His time is more important than my time also. My basement flooded a year ago come the 15th, and it STILL not fixed, and no amount of whining, bitching, crying, nagging or withholding of sex has managed to change that.

Gosh this sounds like my hubby, we have more crap then our little house can hold...we are starting to look like horders and God forbid if I try to get rid of something you would think I ask him to cut off his leg yea on fixing things, he tore up our kitchen to remodel it and it took him like 5 years and still not all the little things are done.....I am at a breaking point myself.

 

[rosetta]

Ok here goes:

I hate that he bites his fingernails.

I hate that he cant just sneeze once. It has to be at least 5-6 times in a row. And then he looks accusingly at me. As if I'm smuggling pollen.

I hate that he leaves his clothes on my nice bedroom chair. Put them in the wash or put them away!

Things he hates about me:

I won't go running with him.

I drink too loudly. Huh?

I won't take out the rubbish. That's your job mate!




Ok overall, that's not too bad. I think the marriage may survive yet!

 

[packrat]

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[Laila619]

He is hairy and he sheds all over the damn bathroom floor, shower, and house. Gross!! Loose hairs just creep me out, so of course I had to go and marry a really hairy guy.

 

[radiantquest]

OMG this is hilarious! It takes a lot for me to laugh out loud, but I had a few snickers.

Haven-Clean boxers around the house is too funny. I would have thought I was going crazy!

OCgirl- Haha about the Alladin part. DH has long legs so I think he would look like a praying mantis if he tried that, not to mention being stuck.

Autumnovember-Mirror and tweezer time. That is cute as can be. I have to police DH. He has started getting those crazy hairs in and around his ears and also gets about 2 on each shoulder. He makes me tweeze them all. If that doesn't scream sexy I don't know what does.

rosetta-the sneezing 5-6 times and then giving you the stink eye like its your fault made me laugh the hardest!!


-My DH is a packrat and will not throw away anything. His stuff then vomits all over the house and his crap is everywhere.
-He refuses to put anything back. From big things to small things. He will not even put the toothpaste back in the designated toothpaste area even though its only a few inches away.
-He also walks off with the dish towels. I have told him time and time again that they are for drying clean hands in the kitchen, not sitting at his desk or used as a napkin when he eats messy things on the couch. Sometimes when I let him run amok I can walk through the house and pick up 4 or 5 of them! I just looked over and there sits a dish towel on the arm of the couch.

In DHs defense I will post my own as well
-I am 5-6 times sneezer. I cant help it. It hurts too, just so you know. He claims that it hurts him. He says the volume level isn't human
-He claims that I talk too loudly. He calls it my grocery store voice. We have gotten into all out fights at the grocery store because I spoke too loudly and he was an a$$ about it.
-I drink too much. Not alcohol, just water, but apparently its too much.

 

[Haven]

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/men.142852/

Oh boy. I've clearly not dealt with the issues I have with DH's behavior since that thread. Two years later, same annoying habits!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Mine has many. I'm not usually much of a TV watcher so if I put in a movie, he's fine with that...however, about once a week, I will sit down and channel surf and veg to a show that I could care less about, but I settled on just to watch. Well, since it's not a blue ray I rented or a movie I had announced I planned to watch, he doesn't really count it as my very own viewing time and will sit down and change the channel w/out asking. But, like I said, if I get a movie, he won't do that. If I decide it's just easier to watch something on my Kindle Fire, he makes fun of me for watching on the little screen and asks why I don't watch the TV.

Another is he leaves his socks scattered around the house.

And, the BIG ONE for me is when he says "we need to do ___________." When in fact, it means he wants me to do it. Why not just say, please do __________, instead of saying "we," which implies he'll be involved in the process. Since I DON'T want to do many of those things, they never get done and then he gets annoyed.

 

[GliderPoss]

ha ha this thread is hilarious.

I don't have many thankfully...

1. He jiggles/twitches his feet whilst watching TV without noticing - drives me bonkers
2. Always takes up the whole couch and puts his feet on my lap (hoping for a foot rub) so I'm squashed up the other end but gets offended if I choose to sit on the other couch away from him! As if watching TV 2 feet apart is complete rejection...
3. Always dawdles about when I'm in a rush but if he is in a hurry I've seen him get ready in 2 mins flat! Why is my thing not as important as yours?

Love him to death though. I'm sure I have lots of annoying habbits too...

 

[monarch64]

Smacks his tongue VERY audibly while eating.

 

[snoopkat]

It pisses me off when mr snoopkat:

1) leaves about a quarter of an inch of milk in the carton and puts it back in the fridge. What, you think the milk fairy is going to come in and top that up??

2) puts a fresh toilet roll right next to the holder...with the empty roll still on it. How friggin hard is it to chuck the empty roll out and put the fresh one on?

3) leaves the dishcloth lying around. I normally hang them up when I'm done using them and it $hits me to tears when he just leaves them where he last used it and I can't find them. I've started hiding the dishcloths after I'm done using them

4) leaving clothespegs on the line after he's taken the laundry in. I'm anal about putting the pegs back in the box after I've taken the clothes off the line and I literally when I see a whole row of pegs on an empty line.

5) Buying food that he never eats because it was 'on special'. I hate wasting food

Granted, I'm not perfect. But then it's up to him to find this thread so he can whinge about my annoying habits

 

[decodelighted]

My absolute worst *silly* pet peeve is "metal clank" -- I hate it most when silverware hits TEETH -- but I also hate it when silverware clinks against ceramic/china etc. It's not really a DH problem but a "crazy me" problem! Though I have gone to GREAT lengths to "help" DH stop clanking the fork against his teeth while eating. PEOPLE! IS IT SO HARD TO BLOCK WITH LIPS OR AIM ACCURATELY!!!!!!

Other doozies:

* ordering random stuff from Amazon. Packages come so often & it's always stuff that I have to find places for or dust. GAH!
* thinking he can cure other people's bad driving by "showing them" ... i.e. hitting the brakes when someone is tailing him too closely -- or not braking rapidly enough if someone is making a left in front of him. He'd just really like them to see what *could* have happened & scare them DESPITE THE FACT IT SCARES ME!!!! GAH!
* barging past the receipt checkers at big box stores without showing his receipt to them - because "they're not legally allowed to do that."
* carrying around so much crapola in his car that there's never room in it for, uh, grocery shopping etc - & we always have to take mine!
* total aversion to yardwork - and - "being outside"
* his crippling fear of yellow jackets & wasps
* inexplicable penchant for black Heavy Metal t-shirts & white tube socks

Oh I could go on .... but it's just irritating me to keep thinking of more!

 

[decodelighted]

Haha. Luckily this is really one of my only qualms with the dear man, but when we are sitting on the couch watching TV, he puts his feet up on the coffee table and shakes them incessantly, like a nervous tic. My husband is a big guy, so his "harmless" foot shaking causes the whole couch to move. Not earth-shattering, but I ask him to stop every time.

I've always heard that's a sign of sexual frustration! Or maybe he has restless leg syndrome?

 

[Missy]

LOL- hysterical thread though I imagine it might not always feel quite as funny when you are right in the middle of some of these irksome habits!

My dh would have a far longer list of my annoying habits I am sure than I have of his.

1. He loves shopping too much and doesn't pay enough attention to cost (though I have worked on this with him and he is getting better). He is a very generous man and this same amazing characteristic can turn into an annoying one when money is spent so freely at times without concern as to cost. Though I will say he is not foolish about money and we certainly save a lot but I guess I am much more of a bargain hunter than he is and it can be frustrating when I take time and carefully spend/bargain shop and he doesn't.

2. He is very organized and likes things just so. Drives me nuts. I remember in the beginning of our relationship and we went away to DC for an award ceremony and we had just driven a long way in lots of traffic. We got to our hotel room exhausted and only had an hour or so to relax before we had to go to the ceremony. Well, I just threw my coat on the chair and laid down on the bed and he came over and asked if I was just going to leave that there or could he hang it up. Really? We just friggin got there and had to start getting ready and I couldn't just leave my coat there for a bit before we had to go out again?? Anyway, he is still a stickler for that stuff and is constantly wiping down the stainless steel appliances, counters etc. I mean, it's nice he is neat and clean but sometimes a bit overkill for me. OTOH his organizational skills are quite nice and he is generous with helping me get organized too. At least once a year I ask him to help me (translation he basically does it for me) organize my closets etc and I admit it is much nicer to have everything organized and in its place. Really saves time and makes things feel calmer/better if that makes any sense. Just wish I didn't suck at it so much.

3.He speaks slowly compared to me and sometimes I get impatient waiting for him to finish speaking. I think this might annoy him more than me though because I have a bad habit of finishing his sentences because I get tired of waiting for him to do it and this annoys him terribly. I have improved in this area though and try very hard not to interrupt. But if only he could speed up.

I'm sure I can come up with more but for now that's all I can think of...

 

[yennyfire]

--When he leaves the sponge full of water and soap. Doesn't he know it gets moldy that way, not to mention that picking up a sopping wet sponge when you're not expecting it is yukky!
--Snoring and refusing to do anything to remedy the situation. I always try to fall asleep before him. If it don't, it's all over and I'm up most of the night or forced to sleep on the sofa, which isn't so great for my back
--Lack of motivation to do anything unless asked. God bless him, he will do ANYTHING (almost) that I ask, but it would NEVER occur to him to take the initiative to sweep out the garage, get the mail, etc.....

Now, if he were to list my bad habits, the list would be a whole lot longer! And, thank goodness, the list of things I love about him is a ton longer than the list above.