Wedding Gypsy!

[SarahLovesJS]

How does the weekend find you? Are you feeling better? Did you hear anything else from your venue?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Bump bump! Any venue news/you feeling better?

 

[Gypsy]

Hi honey I didn't see this before, sorry! Thank you so much for asking. I've been, honestly, feeling a little anti-social (I get that way sometimes) and just ostriching (sticking my head in the sand). Between mom, the wedding, looking for a new job, crazy boss, health issues, etc... I've been feeling icky.

Venue. NOPE. Not ONE word.

Johh was supposed to call them today.

Yesterday we went to a HUGE upscale Japanese restaurant that opened a few months ago. It's a BEAUTIFUL restaurant on the inside. Strip mall on the outside. They turn into a club on Friday and Sat. nights and have have fabulous food.

So John asked the owner if they would allow us to have our reception there. With teppanyaki (the chef's cooking in front of people) and sushi, and outside catered Perisan fingerfoods for the cocktail hour, a plated dinner, dancing, cake etc. Close the restaurant for the night. And they agreed to a reasonable food, alcohol, tip and tax included minimum. SO we have our first viable reception alternative.

There is no place for a ceremony really close by though. So that would be a challenge if we went with that.

I just don't know if I want my wedding -- a Persian and Italian wedding mind you, in a Japanese restaurant in a strip mall. Even if it is really beautiful on the inside and would require minimal decor.

But our venue is REALLY infuriating BOTH of us. So... I don't know. I told them (John and Japanese restaurant) to give me till Wednesday to think about it and consider it.

I don't know.


How are things for you. I keep meaning to apologize and thank you profusely for taking up the slack on the weight loss thread. I'm sorry, and THANK YOU.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Helloo! I was worried about you! I understand, I feel that way sometimes, too. I am so sorry things are still going rough for you!!

Did you end up filing with HR over the boss? But I think if you can get past the strip mall on the outside thing, it sounds like a great place to me. I love Japanese restaurants like that and I think it sounds awesome!!

So it''s up to you really at this point I guess. How important is the outside to you vs. the food quality? Also, how far are we talking ceremony site wise? Like 10-20 minutes or like 30 mins-an hour? I know you''ve probably said, but are your guests mostly in-town or out of town? I think it is definitely a viable option with a lot of potential. It sounds like a really fun atmosphere with yummy food! Not to mention there''s a ton of decoration opportunities and you don''t even have to do much if you don''t want to! Sounds good to me. People would definitely remember your reception as not just the same old thing in the hotel ballroom. No offense to anyone with a hotel ballroom reception of course, I am just saying sometimes they all blend together. Just need to figure out if you can work out the ceremony site kinks.

I am doing pretty well! I started my internship this week so I''ve been crazy tired.

Not used to getting up so early, I am not a morning person at all. Haha. You do not need to apologize!! I know you''ve been crazy busy and you''ve had a lot going on, happens to the best of us. Not to mention this is supposed to be relaxing and fun! So don''t worry about it.

Too many things to worry about already! How''s the water going? I am still only at 3-4 glasses a day. Drinking more diet coke than water unfortunately.

I just don''t want it half the time. Oh well. I hope you''re feeling less icky!! At least it''s a holiday weekend, woohoo! Do you have Monday off?

 

[Gypsy]

The outside. Well, it depends on the ceremony site we book if we go with the Japanese restaurant. If it''s a good ceremony site, that will be the guest''s first introduction to the wedding, and I think it will carry over to when the guest get inside the restaurant where it really IS lovely. But if it''s not a nice ceremony site. Then... I don''t know.

Plus I''m a bit, not afraid, but wary I guess of my mom''s reaction. She''s very appearances oriented. So, I''m not sure. Especially as they are helping out with some of the expenses. And I can''t reject that help, it''s their way of telling me that after so many years, they finally accept our relationship and are happy we are getting married.

I am going to look at another venue tomorrow. So maybe that one will click. Who knows.

I do have Monday off. I know what you mean about being a night person. I totally am too. I really have to be careful as a result. If I''m not careful, come Thursday nights I''m totally burned out. Like this week. I was just exhausted this morning. I took a longer lunch than I normally take, and took a nap in my car for an hour.

Have you tried carbonated water? I find sometimes when I want sodas that''s the best thing to get me hydrated, but also''trick'' me into drinking something other than water. If you need caffeine then I recommend the 5 hour energy drink things you can get in the super market. They give me a decent amount of energy without making me jittery. But regardless of the marketting, they DO result in a crash to your system. So I take them 5 hours before I think I''m going to be home after work. Then I nap when I get home for 30 minutes or so, and I''m okay for the night. I don''t use them too often, but I do need them occasionally. I was kicking myself for not getting one today. I REALLY REALLY could have used it. I spent 2 hours redlining a contract, forgot to save it entirely... then closed it, it asked me if I wanted to save and I said "no" like a bonehead. Lost all that work. Was kicking myself rest of the day as it set me drastically behind in my work and I was scrambling the rest of the day to get out at a reasonable hour. Plus I was burned out and stressed so I needed frequent breaks (hence my barrage of PS postings today). Take care of you Sarah. Your a great friend. ((HUGS)).

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I am excited about your new potential venue!! It sounds even better than the restaurant. Woohoo at least you''ll have Monday off that is awesome, nice time to relax. I am sorry about you forgetting to save.

It seems like my mind is somewhere else when I get stressed, sounds like that might have happened to you a bit. I''ve been stressing about budget, videographer, and officiant lately. I got in the car tonight after dinner and forgot to turn my headlights on. I was driving down a major road...with no headlights.

I felt so stupid!

I never do that! Oh well. I am glad you are taking some time for yourself as much as possible to relax! No problem, I love the people here on PS, so nice and fun to talk to! It''s pretty relaxing most of the time.

Take care of you, too! You deserve it.

Oh and no I haven''t tried carbonated water, but I will! Anything to trick myself sounds good to me.

 

[Gypsy]

OH HONEY. BE CAREFUL. PLEASE.

You made my heart stop. Sarah, nothing about a wedding is worth your life. None of it, not the officiant, the photographer or anything else.

I do understand about the stress, I have an anxiety disorder so it really can consume be if I''m not careful. But when I get in the car... I really do try to focus. Sometimes I''m more successful than others, and when I''m not, I''ve gotten into bad car accidents. For stupid reasons... because the super market didn''t have the toilet bowl cleaner I wanted... because I spent the night reading and was too tired. So please honey, be very careful with yourself.

What is it about those things that has you stressing honey? Is it the $$... or something else?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Oh I am sorry!!

Didn''t mean to scare you! I was distracted over the wedding stuff, but I was also talking to FI. I think that played a role, too! I will try to concentrate more. Yeah the money is kind of working itself out. FI has about $1,000 more saved than I thought. I also found out my internship is paid, which I didn''t know. So that was great news! The officiant..isn''t so far. It''s so frustrating. You see, my Grandfather was a minister and he was supposed to be my officiant, but he died about 8 years ago. So I am just going to get over it. I can''t really find one, and it''s hard to replace him. The one we were looking at isn''t going to work out, so I am kind of at a loss. Not many around here, so it looks like we might have to go with a civil ceremony. Which I didn''t necessarily want, but I guess it''ll work out right? As for videography..I just can''t seem to find what I want. I really like HD video, but I want it to look perfect. More cinematic. I also like 16mm film a lot, but that''s pretty pricey! I found one potential lady I am going to talk on Monday so we''ll see if she can fit in my budget.