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I''m curious what others think about this...
FI and I attended a wedding this weekend where there were valet attendants, coat checkers, and, of course, bartenders.
We came in a taxi so I didn''t give much thought to the valet. However, during cocktail hour, FI asked if I had a couple singles to tip the bartenders, and I told him I didn''t think we''re supposed to tip being that this was a wedding. I did notice, though, that the bartenders had created a little opening on the table w/ some soda cans and there were a few dollars in there so it did look like they were accepting tips.
The coat checkers also had a box out w/ money inside and FI ended up tipping them as well when we left.
Is this normal at a wedding? I thought the hosts were pretty much left responsible for tipping all the attendants at the end of the night so guests wouldn''t have to worry about that?
Now I''m wondering how I should handle it at our wedding for the bartenders and valet attendants. I''d prefer that they get their tips from us and not take them from our guests, but of course it might be hard to enforce that. The valet doesn''t bother me as much as the bartenders as that''s much more visible and I kind of find it tacky to see a tip jar at the bar for a wedding.
Plus, it seems a little dubious of them to accept tips from guests knowing that they''ll probably be tipped (if it isn''t already added automatically to the contract) by the hosts.
Do other people ever tip as a guest at weddings?
FI and I attended a wedding this weekend where there were valet attendants, coat checkers, and, of course, bartenders.
We came in a taxi so I didn''t give much thought to the valet. However, during cocktail hour, FI asked if I had a couple singles to tip the bartenders, and I told him I didn''t think we''re supposed to tip being that this was a wedding. I did notice, though, that the bartenders had created a little opening on the table w/ some soda cans and there were a few dollars in there so it did look like they were accepting tips.
The coat checkers also had a box out w/ money inside and FI ended up tipping them as well when we left.
Is this normal at a wedding? I thought the hosts were pretty much left responsible for tipping all the attendants at the end of the night so guests wouldn''t have to worry about that?
Now I''m wondering how I should handle it at our wedding for the bartenders and valet attendants. I''d prefer that they get their tips from us and not take them from our guests, but of course it might be hard to enforce that. The valet doesn''t bother me as much as the bartenders as that''s much more visible and I kind of find it tacky to see a tip jar at the bar for a wedding.
Plus, it seems a little dubious of them to accept tips from guests knowing that they''ll probably be tipped (if it isn''t already added automatically to the contract) by the hosts.
Do other people ever tip as a guest at weddings?