LadyJane83
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Hi ladies! I posted in this forum once before and found your responses very helpful! Forgive me if this post is a little jumbled
I''ve been engaged since April 1, and we are in the *very* early stages of planning. We''re just trying to get a handle on what size of wedding we will have. If it''s just us paying, it will be small dinner party. My FI has a large family and would like to have a larger wedding if possible, but says he doesn''t want us to pay for it ourselves, so really, anything would be fine.
Anyway, over Easter weekend, FI''s parents kept saying they "want to help." They invited us over last week to "talk about the wedding." So I did all this research about how much things cost etc., but when we got there, they wouldn''t give an estimate of how much they wanted to contribute.... I thought this was weird but my FI said this is just how they work? Anyway, getting around to my question....
I''m not really willing to contribute any more than it would cost to do a small dinner party (and at a more formal/larger wedding this might add up to just the photographer, our clothes, and little extras). But assuming we get more info from FI parents and they decide they want to pay for a large wedding, I''m wondering about this:
My guest list would be a max of 45 people (of these I am pretty sure about 8 or so wouldn''t come for health/other reasons). This number includes attributing our mutual friends to me. I could easily cut this list down to 30 people, or even less...
FI made a list of about 150. He said he could make cuts, but still...
I don''t know exactly what it is I am worried about here... this just seems like it might be a little.... weird? Has anyone else dealt with this?
Thanks!
I''ve been engaged since April 1, and we are in the *very* early stages of planning. We''re just trying to get a handle on what size of wedding we will have. If it''s just us paying, it will be small dinner party. My FI has a large family and would like to have a larger wedding if possible, but says he doesn''t want us to pay for it ourselves, so really, anything would be fine.
Anyway, over Easter weekend, FI''s parents kept saying they "want to help." They invited us over last week to "talk about the wedding." So I did all this research about how much things cost etc., but when we got there, they wouldn''t give an estimate of how much they wanted to contribute.... I thought this was weird but my FI said this is just how they work? Anyway, getting around to my question....
I''m not really willing to contribute any more than it would cost to do a small dinner party (and at a more formal/larger wedding this might add up to just the photographer, our clothes, and little extras). But assuming we get more info from FI parents and they decide they want to pay for a large wedding, I''m wondering about this:
My guest list would be a max of 45 people (of these I am pretty sure about 8 or so wouldn''t come for health/other reasons). This number includes attributing our mutual friends to me. I could easily cut this list down to 30 people, or even less...
FI made a list of about 150. He said he could make cuts, but still...
I don''t know exactly what it is I am worried about here... this just seems like it might be a little.... weird? Has anyone else dealt with this?
Thanks!