TravelingGal
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Happy Friday everyone...
Just thought I''d ask for some advice from diamond lovers. My boyfriend and I recently hunted for a 1 carat cushion for our engagement. Two very nice stones came up that fit our criteria and we decided on one.
The other one is still available, and I got the bug that I really wanted to buy it for my mother. Without going into to too much detail, I really think my mother is deserving of something nice. Moms are incredible beings by nature, but even my friends agree that my mom a cut above. We grew up pretty poor, and she sacrificed a lot for us.
I had told my boyfriend about this, and he was all for it. When I told him last night the deal was almost done, and that I was spending X, he kind of raised an eyebrow and said, "that''s a lot of money."
He''s totally fine with me doing it, but it got me thinking. We are getting married in October and we will have a decent chunk of change going out. The wedding cost is very reasonable (under 10K - and I have the money set aside separately for that) but I am also going to spend money on getting his family out here (they live in Australia) and paying for accommodation. This money could definitely go to other things.
Am I being selfish to want to give my mom this ring? I want to give it to her on the day that she sees my engagement ring (in a couple of weeks)...I''d love to tell her that even though I''m engaged to be married, I will always be her daughter and always be there for her, and present the ring. But now I am wondering if I should be more "sensible" with the money somehow. I am vacilating back and forth on this...part of me is thinking "that IS a lot of money" but part of me is thinking "What else will it go toward that will bring as much happiness as something nice for my mom?"
Argh. Anyway, I am debt free, and doing well financially. Part of me thinks this is the last time that I can have the "right" to spend this kind of money....*my* money - before it becomes *our* money. I''ll be using some of my annual bonus for this. I mean, what''s 5K in the scheme of a lifetime of wonderful things my mother has done for me, and will continue to do for me? Am I being unreasonable?
Just thought I''d ask for some advice from diamond lovers. My boyfriend and I recently hunted for a 1 carat cushion for our engagement. Two very nice stones came up that fit our criteria and we decided on one.
The other one is still available, and I got the bug that I really wanted to buy it for my mother. Without going into to too much detail, I really think my mother is deserving of something nice. Moms are incredible beings by nature, but even my friends agree that my mom a cut above. We grew up pretty poor, and she sacrificed a lot for us.
I had told my boyfriend about this, and he was all for it. When I told him last night the deal was almost done, and that I was spending X, he kind of raised an eyebrow and said, "that''s a lot of money."
He''s totally fine with me doing it, but it got me thinking. We are getting married in October and we will have a decent chunk of change going out. The wedding cost is very reasonable (under 10K - and I have the money set aside separately for that) but I am also going to spend money on getting his family out here (they live in Australia) and paying for accommodation. This money could definitely go to other things.
Am I being selfish to want to give my mom this ring? I want to give it to her on the day that she sees my engagement ring (in a couple of weeks)...I''d love to tell her that even though I''m engaged to be married, I will always be her daughter and always be there for her, and present the ring. But now I am wondering if I should be more "sensible" with the money somehow. I am vacilating back and forth on this...part of me is thinking "that IS a lot of money" but part of me is thinking "What else will it go toward that will bring as much happiness as something nice for my mom?"
Argh. Anyway, I am debt free, and doing well financially. Part of me thinks this is the last time that I can have the "right" to spend this kind of money....*my* money - before it becomes *our* money. I''ll be using some of my annual bonus for this. I mean, what''s 5K in the scheme of a lifetime of wonderful things my mother has done for me, and will continue to do for me? Am I being unreasonable?